Lord forbid a girl has a cocktail!
When you’re into fitness and have clients who see you out having a good time, they feel as if it’s their place to tell you to drink more water. This hasn’t happened to me in quite some time, as I no longer train clients in my area. But when I did, and they saw me out, they would feel compelled to tell me to “drink more water.” These comments, while well-intentioned, often made me feel as though I was being watched even in my personal time, which affected my ability to relax and enjoy myself.
These incidents made me realize the importance of personal boundaries and the need to strike a balance between my social life and my professional image. This is one of the reasons why being drunk in public is not my thing.
First Things First
My interactions with clients are always respectful. I may be a high-energy, silly person, but I also have a serious side. This balance of fun and professionalism is a key part of my approach. I don’t appreciate my clients speaking to me in any old way, and I make sure to show them the same respect.
Respecting personal boundaries is crucial in my approach. There’s a clear difference between guiding them on my plan and interfering when they’re not. If I see them out with friends or their husband, I wouldn’t overstep and tell them what they’re eating or drinking is all wrong. That’s clearly not my place to do that.

My Time is My Time
This past weekend, my husband was eager to go dancing, and who am I to say no? So, we went to a restaurant that features a live band playing only Latin music, which is, coincidentally, my favorite. We danced and we danced like no one was watching; however, while I was sipping my cocktail, the thought of an ex-client spotting me drinking ran across my mind. And when it did, I was pissed, so I ordered another one.

Then my husband grabbed me up and twirled me to the dance floor, and the only thing I could think was, “hell yeah, I’m ordering another one, and I’ll save my water intake for tomorrow”.
But tonight we sip fancy drinks, we eat, and we dance recklessly!
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
~Belladonna~


That’s right! You enjoy yourself to the fullest in your personal time! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
And it looks like you both had a blast!
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Thanks Tre!!!! We had a great time
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Thanks for sharing
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And thank you for your support 💕
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cheers 🍹
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I’ll drink to that 🤣
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Back when I had a column and a show on cable, a lot of the time it was like minded individual, but, I’ll never forget a review I wrote that was critical of a promoter and the shit show I received for that made me rethink being public, and maybe had me pulling my punches…now though, I couldn’t imagine, everyone seems to think they own everyone that’s visible such as yourself….I try ot just be respectful, and be as social as I want..if someone wants to join me for a run on a day I wants some alone time, I just say that….
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Wait you had a show on cable???? Do tell!
Yes you’re right just be upfront and let them no if you want company or not.
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Now I see why you haven’t posted lately..
Girl is having a “ME TIME” with Hubby 😅😅
Okay oooo.
Just enjoy yourself but don’t keep was waiting for the gist 😅
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 yes a me time indeed ❤️
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Love this sis! Enjoy time with hubby. ❤️❤️
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Thank you so much beautiful ❤️💕
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I Absolutely agree! Sorry to hear you’re being judged by previous clients on your personal time. While I no longer drink alcohol for religious reasons, I believe in everything in moderation for those that partake in libations. Live long & strong sister
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I’ll drink to that🤣 seriously I commend you for that… your body will love you for that
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I loved your story; it clearly reflects the importance of setting boundaries and fully enjoying life without feeling under surveillance. Thank you for sharing your authenticity.
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Thank you so much Lincoln! Boundaries are so important to make if you want to live free and be happy.
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You’re right, respecting personal space is the basic courtesy.
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Amen to that!
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Good for you cutting up the dance floor and having fun and looking hot I might add! Too funny you had that image and said “I’m ordering another”. Love the defiance and wake up call to “i’m not on duty. 💗
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🤣🤣🤣🤣thank you Cindy! Yes you’re right the off duty sign was def up!
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Yayyyy for you… you’re soooo welcome!!! 💓
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You go for it!
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Thank you Simon
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🙂
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Good for you, Bella!
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Thank you Stella💗
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You are so inspiring! Hold those boundaries, dance like no one is watching, and enjoy those cocktails! You are absolutely gorgeous inside and out. Hugs, C
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Cheryl you are the best and I’m heading over to binge read your blog 😍😍
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You go sis! 🎵💃🏻🎶
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LOL thank you girlie!
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You’re so very welcome Queen Cancerian! 👑🦀👑
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I love this, Belladonna. It is always a delicate balance as a professional. That said, you are a real person too and deserve the freedom to enjoy your free time. ❤️
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Yesssss to hell with the guilt🤣 fill my glass up!
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❤️❤️
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You make such a beautiful couple!
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Thank you so much!!!
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It’s your life. Enjoy yourself. Get your eat and drink on if you want to. ❤️✌️🍸🍹
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YESSSSSS! Thank you for this
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