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Cut the Cord<You Matter

No matter what you may be feeling today, know that you matter. 

We live in a world where the majority of people are self-centered and only like the conversations to be on them. When the convo strays on to someone else, they lose focus, which leaves you to question if you matter.

Let’s keep it all the way real

We live around assholes; the majority of people you meet are just that. Yet we spend hours wasting away, thinking about them and their bullshsit ways. WHY?

Worrying about why someone did whatever they did to tick you off is like throwing millions of dollars down the garbage disposal; it’s a dumb idea and doesn’t serve a purpose. You’re giving too much power to someone who views you as powerless.

The other day, I was going through Facebook and looking at my so-called “Friends” list and began my deletion process. If I don’t speak to EVER, then why are we friends on this platform? Then, I went straight to Instagram and let go of a few people who were meant to be in my life for a season, and at the time, I mistakingly thought it was going to be longer than that.

I felt so good letting go!

You deserve better

Why settle for friendships that view you as a sounding board? They only come around to vent and never once ask, “HOW ARE YOU”? 

They are too wrapped up in themselves, self-absorbed, and offer you nothing. But they will suck up every ounce of patients you have. And if you allow them to do this, they will continue to do so.

Cut the cord and stop giving them life; YOU matter, and YOU deserve better.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

65 Replies to “Cut the Cord<You Matter”

  6. I completely agree with this post. Letting go of negative influences and focusing on those who truly value and support you is a powerful step towards a happier and more fulfilling life. You matter, and surrounding yourself with people who recognize and appreciate your worth is a beautiful way to affirm that. 💪🌟

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      1. You are absolutely right,I always walk away and cut the cord because at the end of the day I need to accept the reality that not everyone is my friend and I deserve healthy friendships.Often when I do that I’ve been labelled as she is this or that,now it doesn’t even bother me as I know what’s good for me.

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  7. Amen Sister!! Very well said! As I always tell my girls, people come and go throughout our lives. Some are only there for a season and some to show you exactly who you shouldn’t have in your life. Some are even there for a short time to teach us something God needs us to know or see.

    I have let alot of people go throughout my life. How I see it is, if they can’t take an active roll in my life like I do with them, hell with them. By Felicia….Now I get people have their own lives and life gets hectic. But if I see my “so called friends” spending a good majority of their time on social media and they can’t bother to speak to me, after I’ve made many attempts to reach out to them, well then I’m cutting ties. That’s a good indication they don’t want to take an active roll in my life. Another reason I will cut someone out of my life is if, overtime of being friends with them, I notice it’s only been a one sided friendship and I’m always there for them but when I need someone to lean on, they aren’t there. That’s when I take the necessary steps I need to cut ties with them. I’ve ran into this countless times.

    I’ve been used and rejected enough in life by many people, including family, why would I continue to subject myself to more pain and heartache. I’ve certainly had enough of that to last me two life times. It does nothing but steals my peace and harmony. I’m much better off without them!

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing this and I’m nodding while reading your comment. I just stopped talking to someone because they were always on SM talking to everyone and posting their own content but couldn’t bother reaching back out to me until she needed me.
      Talking about being used, I feel ya! Once you know how you should be treated nothing else we fly with you. We live and learn! Thank you Jenny, we still need to chat about my podcast.

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      1. Yah I hear that. I can’t stand users. I’ve had many people in my life like that. A few months ago I had to let go of a friend because 1, she was a pot head and tried getting me to smoke with her. 2. It was a one sided friendship and when she reached out to me for support, I was always there for her but when I needed support, she wasn’t there. There was one day she called me to gripe about her relationship with her man and being as brutally honest as I am and she’s aware of this, she got pissed off at me because I didn’t lie to her and tell her what she wanted to hear. I told her the flat out truth, well apparently the truth hurts and she got butt hurt and hung up on me. So that’s when I was like, okay you wanna disrespect me like that and hang up on me, Oh He** Nah!! I don’t play those games! That’s where I draw the line! I do Not tolerate disrespect! So I cut ties with her. And you know what, I’m not even the slightest bit hurt about it. If people are going to come to me and ask for my opinion and advice, I’m going to be a good friend and NOT Lie to them. I will tell them the truth. It’s up to them on how the choose to react to it. It’s not my problem. Good friends don’t lie to one another. I’m not like that. I’m a straight forward person and that scares alot of people because they are use to people lieing to them and telling them what they want to hear. Not me!!

        I respect myself enough to know who is good for me and who isn’t. My whole life I’ve been walked all over, trampled on, used and abused, but I say the He** with that!! That 💩 don’t fly with me anymore!

        Good for you for respecting yourself enough to let that girl go. In friendships, they aren’t supposed to be one sided. Friendships are supposed to be equally yoked. Not 90-10.

        As far as the podcast, yes we definitely do need to figure out a time to talk😊 I have a Facebook page I set up that has my website on it. I believe I posted it here on WordPress. You can message me on my page if you want. Or you can email me if that makes you feel more comfortable. My email is jennymarlenefrye_36@mail.com I look forward to speaking with you. 🥰💖

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      2. Your situation is so relaatbele and unfortunately way too many of us can rrelate, I know I can.
        But like you said enough is enough. I will reach out to you by the stat of next week so wee can chat about having you on an epissode of my podcast. Thank you so much for wanting to do this.

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      1. Appreciate your kindness, warm words and support always dear friend Bella. Me as well you are so sweet as well. Thank’s! I will try!
        Aww! My dear friend, thank’s!
        Keep enjoying!

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    1. Thank you so much Crystal and I’m so glad you liked this. I love knowing that people are doing well and sometimes it stings when it’s truly one sided. We have to cut them loose and live our best life!

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  18. Yeah, well said. Whether in real life or on social media, what truly matters is the consistently genuine, caring relationships…..and not the ones that are just established for the sake of achieving high statistics, such as a high number of friends and likes on social media.

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  19. Especially when I was a teenager and I was nice to someone, I couldn’t understand why they didn’t want to be my friend. The best part of adulthood is not having the patience for people who don’t want to be my friend. I don’t ask why, I just don’t have time to waste.

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  20. I sometimes do the opposite….wondering why I cut ties with some, and realize it was over nothing, a misunderstanding, words in print rather than in person….one of my former co-workers and I decided at one point to phone rather than text….so many times a text can be taken the wrong way, a post of Facebook, and once you walk away, it’s so hard to walk back, but sometimes worth it…..this is going to sound strange, but a friend I had this happen twice…once, we didn’t speak for weeks, but she was so special and a great friend, we patched things up, and then, well, she got married, and well, things were okay if I was married and she was single, now not so much, but after meeting at a funeral for a mutual friend, I realized, someone I needed in my life and I think she thought the same….and yes I know, but my best friends have always been female, and great lunch dates….I have fellow male friends, but one can only drink beer and yep about sports, and nonsense so often…..

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    1. This doesn’t sound strange at all! I totally get it.
      I’ve done the same, disconnect and then wonder why I did that. A couple of times is was something as stupid as me being in bad mood.

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