I’ve been in a reminiscing kind of mood as of late, and it may have something to do with me turning a year older in just a couple of weeks. We have all been hurt by something or someone, misunderstood, made fun of, and kicked to the curb. We can either allow those situations to bury us or rebirth us. We should choose to rise above the fray and kick life in the ass.
I hate the phrase, “Allow your haters to be your motivators.”
Why would we allow anyone that despises us to live rent-free in our mind? Giving them that satisfaction is keeping them and their bad mojo alive. INSTEAD of bringing life to the folks that wait patiently for your downfall, bring love and positive vibes, positive energy, and feed off intellect.
Allowing losers to make you move with effort and motivation is a backward way of thinking. We need to bless ourselves by bringing in light and love. Let’s face it we are alive for a short time, it doesn’t seem like it, but life goes fast and moves on once you are gone. So why waste a moment on people who prey on your downfall? When you fall, you hear laughter instead of seeing a hand to help you up.
Screw those people!
Allow your motivation to come from cheers, love, and enthusiasm toward your success. Breathe life onto those that clap for you, and help you when you have stumbled or fallen. Give praise back to them and be the one that provides a hand when they need help.
It doesn’t matter if you hate on us in private, public, or in your mind; We ain’t thinking about you!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
~Belladonna~


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Thank you beautiful!
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Thank you so much for stopping by and reading! Love the little monkeys.
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I like your philosophy. The best revenge is massive success, which only comes when we flow with love and positive vibes.
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Wonderful wisdom, Belladonna.💕
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Thank you so much Grace.
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My pleasure 💕
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Well said!
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Thank you Kim! I appreciate you.
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The tumblr kitty is the most delightful to lay eyes upon; unperturbed by negative gossips and rumours; looking as cool as a cucumber, not bothered at all; you won’t overcome it if you dwell it 😀, the epitome of her own source of comfort and love.
Gotta love her style, look, sunnies and all.
People talk, kick you to the curb girl,
but GIRL what you going to do; does it matter; say what you want – so FUCK’EM
Purrrr
Girl you have a way with words
Happy Birth Month
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Yesssss! LOLOL love this side of you. Best comment ever!
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lol thank you !!!
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You are soooo good. You have cheered me up so much with your inspiring posts. Love you and your posts so much. ❤❤❤❤😊😊😊
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Awwwww you have made me smile girl! I just love your comments. Thank you so much for this!
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Get ‘em! 😍
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Thank you Paula! LOL
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I so much appreciate this blog….wonderful
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I am so glad to know that! Thank you so much.
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Wow! Great post! Dear wise woman, agree don’i fight, just being success doing the right things…
Thak’s for share, have a lovely time!
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Thank you so much Elvira!!!!! I appreciate you.
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You are welcome Belladonna.
Me as well appreciate you.
Have a lovely evening!
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Beautiful thought, I totally resonate with!
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Thank you so much KK!
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Well said, Belladonna! Let’s not give our haters a backwards glance, much less a thought. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
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Yes girl!!!! Well said!
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I needed this today. Letting trash live in my head rent free, I am too old for that and I should know better. Thank you for the reminder.
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It happens to all of us so you are in good company. But they don’t deserve our thoughts.
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Amen!! Preach it!
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Thank you so much Jeff!
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I’ve always found that phrase slightly off and you just pinpointed the exact reason! Very true. Rather than flexing in your hater’s faces, the biggest flex is not even caring about them or what they think either which way.
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BAM!!!!! There you go. Flex on them by peacefully moving on and winning!
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Couldn’t have said it better, Belladonna! We cannot allow the haters to take up space in our mind or as Nicole Smith says, let “trash live in [our] head rent free.”
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Exactly!!!! Leave the trash outside.
Thank you so much, Rosaliene.
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I love how you put this, “we allow anyone that despises us to live rent-free in our mind.” I’ve done that, I might be still doing it, but I’m trying to squeeze them out with thoughts of the good people in my life that are authentic, kind, and supportive. Great post. Hugs my friend, C
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Thank you Cheryl!!!! I am so guilty of doing this. It’s an awful feeling and then I end up hating how much time I threw away.
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“Why would we allow anyone that despises us to live rent-free in our mind?” 🤔 We don’t. If they are squatters in our head, it’s time for an eviction! 🦿👣🦶🏼 Another year, another blessing…oh the gift of life is sooooo exciting Queen B! 👸🏻💖🤗
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Squatteres are not welcomed up in here! Thank you Kym!
This getting older thing is something that I like. Thankful for another year.
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Honey, you are like fine wine 🍷 you just get better with time! 😘💖🥰
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Right back atcha hot stuff!
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Ooh-la-la!!! Let me grab some ice 🧊🧊🧊 to cool myself down! 🤣😝😂
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LOLOLOLL! You are a mess!
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Ice, ice baby! 🧊🥵🧊 It is what it is! 🤜🏼🤛🏼
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Most of my critics are online because that’s where I do most of my work, and I’ve always felt that anyone who spends time criticizing people on the internet doesn’t have anything valuable to say. We all know that, I think.
Congrats on becoming a year older 😊
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Yes you are excactly right! People gete a lot of nerve when they are behind a keyboard. They aren’t worth going back and forth.
Thank you Brian!
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I’m as far as you can get from being a A type, I remember an uncle telling me when I was just starting high school to be an engine not a caboose….I wished I paid attention to that back then, my life would be so different now….it took me going my own way to figure that I should always go my own way, and if others want to follow fine, if not, that’s fine too
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I know what you mean Warren, I was a caboose for a good while. Atleast we know better now.
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I love this. Ignore the haters. That is a good philosophy to live by.
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Thank you Molly, it’s a must.
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Gurl… love this and I couldn’t agree more❣️❣️
“Why would we allow anyone that despises us to live rent-free in our mind? Giving them that satisfaction is keeping them and their bad mojo alive. “
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Thank you Cindy!!! So glad you like it.
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