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What if someone treats you like an OPTION?

Have you ever thought about the saying, “People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you”? Consider this one: “You are appreciated until you’re not.” 

It’s important to remember that you have the power to set your boundaries. Others may come and go, but it’s your decision whether to let them back into your life, especially if they bring inconsistency and chaos.

Recognizing your worth is not just important, it’s crucial. You bring value to others and have a profound impact. Don’t underestimate your significance.

Let me share a story from my childhood: I had a beloved Barbie that I cherished playing with. Then, one day, I spotted Malibu Barbie on the shelf, and I just had to have her. 

What happened next? I bought a Malibu Barbie and sidelined the other one!

While I still occasionally played with the original Barbie, my interest had shifted. With new options at hand, my first choice suddenly lost its appeal.

Remember, you’re not a toy to be played with. You deserve to be prioritized and cherished, not treated like a second option. Your feelings and needs are important.

If someone treats you like an option, it’s crucial to take a step back and reassess the situation. Here are some steps you can consider:

1. Reflect on Your Feelings: Understand how their behavior affects you. Acknowledge your emotions and recognize that it’s valid to feel undervalued.

2. Set Boundaries: Clearly communicate your boundaries. Let them know what is and isn’t acceptable in your relationship. 

3. Communicate Openly: Have an honest conversation about how their actions make you feel. Sometimes, people may not realize the impact of their behavior.

4. Evaluate the Relationship: Consider whether this relationship is worth your time and energy. If someone consistently treats you as an option, it may be a sign that you should reconsider its importance in your life.

5. Prioritize Yourself: Focus on your self-worth and surround yourself with people who appreciate and value you. 

6. Be Prepared to Walk Away: If the person doesn’t change their behavior and continues to treat you as an option, be willing to distance yourself. Your well-being and self-respect should come first.

Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and should never settle for being someone’s second choice.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

63 Replies to “What if someone treats you like an OPTION?”

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  19. may be guilty..I burn bridges pretty quickly….if someone pisses me off, or, if, yeah sees me as an option, I quickly turn away…..and way too often, later, sometimes years later, I wonder if I was wrong to do that….but at that time, it’s way to late to rebuild those bridges…

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  24. This is sound advice Bella, very useful especially when the mind and heart are in chaos! I do prefer open communication, it clarifies situations quicker, and life is too short for dragging things out.

    I experienced among others point 3): they sometimes really don’t know what impact their behaviour has on others.

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  26. I lacked true friends throughout my childhood… I was a ‘spare’… They were jealous, and expressed it thrroughtoxicity… By the Grace of God, I’ve found good people, like-minded people, to navigate my adolescence stage with, and I couldn’t be more grateful… Basically, you made me feel every word TO THE CORE, like every golden author should!! Lots of Love and support!

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      3. Umm Bella… I wanted to ask you a question… You seem to be a pretty successful blogger, and I wanted to know how I should advertise my blog [ I started it like 2 days ago…] I would also appreciate it if you went through my blogs and maybe tell me how to improve??

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