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How to self protect from REPEAT offenders

After the third strike, you’re done, but then you’ll find an excuse for that person and give them more chances to disrupt your energy.

Have you ever done that, made excuses?

It’s easy to do, especially if a family member has multiple offenses. For some reason, it’s easy to say, “Well, if this weren’t my mom, dad, sister, brother, cousin, niece, etc., I would be done with them.”

So you let them back in your life, only to prove that they are the person you knew they were. There you are, free from the burden, feeling a sense of relief that you buried a long time ago. 

How many chances are you going to give someone who shows up in your life with grief, selfishness, and a lack of consideration for your feelings?

Enough is Enough

Well, my friends, I don’t know about you, but I’m done with making excuses for someone who is in my life because of blood. We can’t control who we are related to, but we do control who we allow in our lives. And today is the perfect day to assert your control, put your foot down, and draw a line in the sand, daring the offender to cross it.

How to self-protect

Since I have found Jesus, I will tell you the nonviolent way to self-protect, which is rooted in love, forgiveness, and understanding, even in the face of toxic relationships.

  1. Don’t answer the phone when the offender is calling. You know, when you hang up, you’re going to be in a bad mood, and all those destructive emotions will come rushing back to the surface.
  2. Let the offender know precisely how you feel and tell them the jig is up!
  3. Don’t feel bad for wanting PEACE in your life

Boundaries have to be made; without them, you’ll find yourself in a never-ending loop!

Get out while you can!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

49 Replies to “How to self protect from REPEAT offenders”

  1. Setting boundaries and enforcing them is the hardest part. My daughter has had to do that with her mom, she goes so far as if she doesnt answer her phone she shows up banging on doors and walls until the police show up and remove her. SMH

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  2. This is such a great reminder 😊 I’ve had to cut off a few toxic relationships and it’s very important to have those boundaries in place for your sanity. The people who want to disrupt your peace are never worth it, unless they really do change (which is not often!) great advice and happy weekend!

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  6. Nope wont ever happen. There’s a lot more behind as to why but is mostly because of abuse. So she just doesnt have anything to do with her and as far as I know neither does her other 2 kids.

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    1. Oh abuse!!!! That’s a whole new level oof toxicity. They goodness that they aren’t letting her back in their lives. some folks will never change and always be a thorn in your ass if allow them to pop back in.

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  8. I do think that family is rather overrated, at least in my case. I know ONE person, who has a splendid relationship with both, her parents and her siblings. I am very happy for her that it is so, as she is the sweetest person. But in my own surroundings? No. I found more support and understanding with friends. And later, of course, with my second husband.

    My toxic ex-husband of all people wanted to get in contact again, no freaking way!

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  12. Hear, hear! You’re talking sense about not letting the family member back into your life once they’ve proven, over and over again, how little they care about you. I struggle with this, but am getting stronger. Enough is enough.

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  16. As Maya Angelou said: Believe people when they say who they are…

    Or, in this case, show you who they are. Stop hoping for them to change and do not allow them to continue to cause you pain.

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