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The Pain Behind Fake a Smile

Hiding behind a fake smile only feels good to the person you’re smiling at. Why should you smile when everything hurts?

Your mental health and desire for authentic happiness are more critical than plastering on a fake smile to make someone else feel comfortable. Sometimes, we smile because we fear revealing our truth, which can leave us open to scrutiny. 

But does it matter what anyone thinks of you if you aren’t happy with yourself?

Faking a smile to make others believe you are happy can lead you in a direction you didn’t know existed. You may have heard of others self-harming or being addicted to drugs or alcohol and never thought that could be you.

But guess what? That can be any of us if we don’t put our mental health FIRST! 

Forget worrying about what others think if you don’t feel well mentally. There is a small percentage of people who genuinely have your back and will pick you up when you fall, or even better, they’ll catch you before you fall. And there will always be a crowd flooded with nobodies that will secretly wish for you to fall.

Is it worth it

Ask yourself if your fake smile is worth masking your pain in order to make others believe you are as happy as they think you are. And if you need help answering this, the correct answer is NO. No, it isn’t worth it. 

In fact, the people you fear for their judgment are critical because they are unhappy with their lives. Happy people aren’t judgmental, nor do they look for flaws in others.

Removing that fake smile and dealing with the heart of the matter proves that you value and respect the person you are and shows you are striving for greatness.

This year, we can work on making that fake smile real; I’m ready if you are.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

53 Replies to “The Pain Behind Fake a Smile”

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  6. This bit:

    “Forget worrying about what others think if you don’t feel well mentally. There is a small percentage of people who genuinely have your back and will pick you up when you fall, or even better, they’ll catch you before you fall.”

    Since maybe mid-late last year, I’ve been taking my authorized/approved mental health days when I have a flare-up or can feel that I’m emotionally imbalanced and cannot stop the tears.

    Before then, I would just work through it and struggle through most of my day because I just felt as though I had to be strong. And that is what was truly breaking me.

    Now, when I feel myself falling when I wake up and the tears are clouding my eyes, I take a mental health day. I refuse to put myself through it any longer.

    Thank you for this post, Bella.

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  15. Our mental health and desire for authentic happiness is indeed a matter of “OUR” heart and not based on someone else’s opinions. Dig within to tap into that happiness that changes everything. Thanks so much for sharing Queen B. 😘💖🥰

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  16. A thoughtful and supportive message and spirit. Thank you, Coach B. The most annoying is when a stranger tells you to smile when you’re not. When a good friend says it with love, that is an entirely different situation. 😊🙏🏻

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  20. “Happy people aren’t judgmental, nor do they look for flaws in others.”

    This right here!!! There is one particular person who does this and it drives me nuts!! Just goes to show just how unhappy and insecure they are about themselves. Judging others around them and looking down on others, sadly makes them feel inferior and boosts their ego just so they can feel better about themselves. But what’s really going on inside of them is unresolved pain and insecurities. But what’s even more sad is they won’t take the initiative to change how they look at their own inner pain, unhappiness, and insecurities…As the age old saying goes, “misery loves company. ” We can’t change anyone who isn’t willing to change.

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  21. Sometimes we fake a smile just to get rid of someone (coz we know they don’t really want to know how we feel and we don’t really want to share with them in particular). 

    However, if we really care, we will know it is forced.

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  22. Well said, Belladonna ❤ !! I loved Robin Williams and truly believe he loved making ppl smile … I’m guilty of the plastered fake smile, but my true blues can “see” right through me (lol). Thank you for the beautiful sentimental reminder !!

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  25. Most times we put on a smiles to encourage someone beside us knowing fully well that we also have our own demons to defeat. But it’s a good vibe’s because most times smiling is contagious and one tends to forget he or she is going through hard times❤️

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