Regarding women and friendships, I have had the pleasure of experiencing a wide variety. However the last five years, there have been six types that have shown up time and time again.
And 4 of the types have honestly stunned the hell out of me!
I will never understand people who keep returning to “friends” that are detrimental to their mental health. As adults, we need to make better choices and stop choosing to have fake smiles on camera and toxic “friendships” behind the scene.
I often wonder how many times someone has to show you who they are before you believe them (Maya Angelou).
I mean, here I am, 46 years old and surrounded by people my age or older or slightly younger and they are running around acting more immaturely than my 13-year-old daughter. I have never seen a group of women that will talk so terribly about each other one day, and then off they go to have dinner together.
And then here comes the flood of pictures they upload on Facebook and Instagram.
The 6 types of women I’ve encountered that are 35 and older
- I will go into detail in my next post about these two women, but here’s the small of it. They have both said that the other is bipolar, and I’m sure only a doctor can make that determination. However, behind the other’s back, they would list reasons why she is bipolar. Then the next thing you know, they are best friends again.
- The other type is needy and will cling to anything that clings to her. When frustrated or feeling left out, she will bash everyone to the ground with her words and then pretend she never said a thing.
- The other type, this type, makes me laugh out loud. She goes whichever way the wind blows. She always wants to feel like she’s liked by everyone and will fake it until she makes the best friend list.
- The other type is bitter and jealous. She often compares herself to everyone and will bash anyone that she views as better than her.
- The other type could care less about what’s going on around her. She’s focused on the people that love her and the people she loves. She works hard and stays in her lane, avoiding all DRAMA!
- The last type is similar to the 5th, but she’s spicey. You don’t want to get in her way, and if you do, there will be a price to pay. She’s a lovely person but doesn’t bullshit!
I would rather be friendless than to waste my time with type 1-4.
I choose PEACE!
Which type of lady have you encountered more?
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
~Belladonna~


There are a few fake women in my extended circle, but it’s pretty easy to avoid them, which I do!
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Good for you!!! Protect your peace🤍🤍🤍
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I am blessed to say that I’ve only come across 1-4 twice or maybe three times in my life. And no, thank you!
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Girl same!!!! When I see those types I will avoid them. Life is too short to deal with mess.
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I have always felt that if I have two true friends at any given time I am truly blessed. I do have acquaintances, which I occasionally talk too. I have met some extremely kind women online and those relationships I treasure. The same is true with some men I have met online, but I am only friends, as I am happily married, and have been for more than 20 years. What I don’t understand and find to be heartbreaking is that many women tend to be jealous of other women, who are attractive, talented, successful in their field, or that they just feel our happier than they are. I don’t understand that thinking. I believe we should be excited to see women excel at whatever they are doing. I believe we should support and care about one another. I might be the last person on your list I am very honest, don’t play games, And try to support other women and men as much as possible. I hope I have answered your question. I am sorry that you are dealing with people that have obviously hurt you a great deal. Perhaps you may be better without that kind of friend. Have a blessed week. Big hugs Joni.
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Oh I stay clear fromo the bad types. My life is to busy to bother with that mess.
I love everything you said and we should definitely support and uplift each other but sadly most women like to compete and talk down about each other.
Thank you for adding your wisdom to the conversation beautiful lady.
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You are so welcome. You are young and beautiful and will probably be dealing with women who will be jealous, competitive and unkind. Don’t waste your tears
On them. You will find many poets and artists here who will mentor, encourage and help you along your path. I am glad you don’t waste your time with that silliness. Blessings to you and your family. Big hugs and love, Joni 🌹🦋❤️🙏
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You are so sweet!!! Thank you Joni 🤍🤍
Yes life is precious and I wouldn’t dare bother with those types 😊
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Good for you my friend. Have a blessed and most wonderful week. xoxoxo
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You too Joni! It’s been a pleasure chatting with you.
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Thank you Belladonna the feeling is mutual. I always get a sense of sadness often when talking with very young women today. I think with social media it makes somehow it easy for bullying, jealousy to rear it’s very ugly head and for trying to hurt someone who is kind and loving. I am glad that you have a great self-esteem my friend and don’t let anyone ever hurt you that way. If they try just remember it is jealousy and then try and love them anyway, but you don’t have to except their bullying or plain meanness. Blessings and love, Joni
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Joni you are so kind and wise. I appreciate you and couldn’t agree more about social media.
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Lots of 3 & 4 in my life. Both are annoying and don’t have my best interests at heart, but they sure do enjoy making certain I know they exist. Why? I cannot say.
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That is so annoying and don’t understand why some will continue to go back to that type of friend. They will drain your spirit and joy right out of you.
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I know who my true friends are because they have been in my life for over 20 years. I try to make friends everywhere I go, but some mistake my being nice as something else. You just can’t please everyone, so just be yourself and don’t worry what others think or say. ☺️🤗😘
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This so true! My best friend s have been in my life since kindergarten and I cherish them soooo much!
I always sit and watch people and never get tangled up in mess. Life is too good for that!
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yeah….been there. I recently figured out why a few co-workers really turned negative whenever we now cross paths, and it was words and nonsense coming from another co-worker….really bad nonsense….I chose to just ignore and carry on…
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Warren you sound like me! Ignoring it and moving on is the best thing to do
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Relationships are tough and often more complicated than they appear on the surface. I’m as old and hell and I have encountered a variety of women through the years but the ones I keep close are kind, genuine, and loyal not only to me but to their families, friends and acquaintances. I learned along the away to stir away from the dramatic, temperamental, controlling types because they are difficult to be in relationship with but I also know they hurt others because they have been hurt and I try to remember that when we encounter each other. I’m respectful but distant. Sorry you’ve had to deal with some mean girls but it’s good that you can see they don’t belong in your inner circle! Hugs, C
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I love seeing the differet types of women. I have never got close to any of the messy type because I don’t have time. So I stay far away just like you. Life is to good to waste a minute on it with that crap.
You said it rigt, you’re respectful but keep your distance. Amen to that!
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Sorry for all the typos! Clearly I responded to your post pre-coffee!
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I didn’t even notice 😂 so what does that say about me. 🤦🏽♀️😂
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Thank’s God I keep my four best friends, they are a blessing in my life.
Wonderful post! Thank’s Belladona.
Nice Sunday!
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Amen to that!!! So thankful for my friends as well. Happy Sunday😍♥️
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Thank’s Belladonna for your kindness. Happy Sunday too! 😍❤️
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I haven’t classified women/ people like that ever. I feel if people, with all their flaws( like I have flaws too) are sincere towards me, I’ll be friends with them.
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Yes we all have flaws however this is to a different degree. They don’t have your best interest at heart.
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I do give them the chance to prove themselves, if I find that relationship without any positive merit, I end it.
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Same here Sadje! I really like to laugh, have conversations about God, life and just overall good things and if I feel negative energy I have to go. I don’t like negative talk about others, we don’t know what someone may be dealing with. So negative talk and energy is a deal breaker for me.
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Very true Belladonna
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I try not to associate with anyone who doesn’t seem real. I hate fake. Which also means my Christmas card list is fairly short
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🤣🤣🤣 mine too LA!!!!
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I love this little look at the different types of women, but your ending words connected with me most. ❤
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Thank you so much Layla! I’ve learned so much just by watching and at times I am shocked at what I see.
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Girlfriend, I have a a couple of friends who aren’t crazier than me in my circle. The others…dey gone girl!!! 🤣 I just can’t take that kind of drama at my age! I dropped them like I dropped the mic! Booyah! 🤜🏼🤛🏼
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣oh how I love you!
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I like types 5 and 6.
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Me too Vanya!
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I used to think I was bipolar and since I’ve been in therapy for 7 years, I have a good idea of what it would actually take for someone to be bipolar. Most people have no clue what it means, lol. Fortunately I’m not bipolar, but when someone is it’s pretty dang obvious to everyone around them.
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You are so right, most people have no idea wha that means.That’s exactly what the two ladies claimed they other one was.
Thank you for adding this and I am so glad you found out that this wasn’t the case for you.
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can I order a #6 please 🙂
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Yessssss🤣🤣 same!
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#6 please 🙂
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I know that’s right!!!🙌🏽🤍
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Thank you for reposting 🤍
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I was always particularl of who I associated myself with.
From an early age as soon as I spot people of this nature I cut them loose immediately.
I have always been the type to tell people things to their face. If I do not like someone I will not deal with them. I do not like phony people and the like.
I would rather be by myself than to be around people who are sick and like to keep things going.
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It’s just so hard when it’s an extremely close family member. I like to give them the benefit of the doubt. But man do they make it hard1
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Most jealousy and trouble starts within the family. I know firsthand.
I have had relatives that I despised and kept a total distance from because it was just no use with them.
Whatever you decide just do what is best for you and the peace around you.
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Absolutely agree! Ives always chose peace and distance, glad you did too!🙌🏽
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An interesting read! Definitely come across some of these types in my life!
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Thank you! Yuck unfortunately we all have.
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I love this! lol you had me cracking up! I love your writing style. Keep up the awesome work!
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🤣🤣🤣 thank you! So glad to see you here and thank you for reading
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