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What a Woman Wants

What we all crave is to be seen and heard. You may not always agree with everything we say, and that’s okay. But just acknowledging our presence can make a world of difference. Many women go through life without experiencing this, and it leaves them wondering if they truly matter. 

Yes, you may have been told, ‘I love you,’ but what does that really mean without actions to back it up? The ultimate goal is to feel valued, and actions are the accurate measure of that value.

Love means nothing if all you can do is say it and not back it up.

As a woman, I like to come downstairs fully dressed in a new outfit, with my hair done to perfection and makeup on point and have my husband tell me that I look amazing, beautiful, gorgeous, or whatever other words he would like to shower me with. 

I want to be noticed and recognized for all my hard work. Sorry to say, but I didn’t wake up like this. It took patience and dedication to get me to look like something, and I damn near wore myself out… I had lost hope halfway through, but a quick prayer and protein shake gave me the strength to continue.

It’s breathtaking to be treated like you matter all the time. I mean, like, you don’t just see our mouths moving and our words sounding like Charlie Brown’s teacher, but we are actually being heard. Eye contact is being made, and the focus is unreal.

When a man does that, you know you have something special. The starvation to hear I love you, I love you isn’t needed. The love is written all over the wall, and the respect that he has for you is all in his focus.

A man that sees you, I mean truly sees you, will not let you go. He will do everything in his power to ensure that you know he is focused on you and that you matter. 

It’s crucial to understand that being seen and heard in a relationship is not about being objectified or reduced to your physical appearance. Proper validation and understanding come from being appreciated for your entire being, not just your external attributes.

Focus happens with your clothes on, and conversation is being had. If you have to be half-dressed or have sex to feel like you are being heard, then there is a problem with your self-esteem. A man in love will bond with you and stay committed to you, regardless of your attire.

Maintain your self-worth and know that you are enough. YOU ARE ENOUGH! When you genuinely believe this, you’ll start to walk and look different. Your energy will attract a man who sees what you see and helps you discover the beauty that you didn’t see. It’s about empowering yourself with the knowledge of your worth, and that’s a powerful feeling.

You’ll know when that man comes along.

The simple way he touches your hand will assure you that he is focused on you. Leaving zero concern, you know his eyes are all on you.

No need to ask… Do you see me?

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

36 Replies to “What a Woman Wants”

  1. I do believe that we attract what we think we deserve. It took me a long time to realize that I deserved love and I’m glad to say that I found it in a man who loves me unabashedly.

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  9. Thank you for this Bella!

    I noticed throughout my lifetime that along with that man who will hold your hand someday, you have to recognize your worth in front of everyone else. Know that you are enough and seen in front of colleagues, friends, strangers, and you’re not just another human in the room.

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  10. Yes, I’m whole. This is impressive and exact, Bella. I love it. A man who truly loves me doesn’t care what I wear. He will care if I’m comfortable with it, I believe.

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  15. I wish I read this post back in my twenties. Reading it now in my thirties, it makes me smile. I’m still working through some things on my healing journey and this was the reminder I needed to keep going. You’ve done it again B, keep it up. I’m here for it ♥️ ✨ 🙏🏾

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  17. This hits deep—just like on a tough trek, it’s not about the summit alone, but being truly seen and supported every step. That kind of care fuels your body and soul, turning struggle into strength. When someone truly notices you—on the trail or in life—it’s pure magic. Absolutely powerful and real.

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