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The Awful Truth

Is the truth really that awful, or are we just overly sensitive? Our sensitivity can significantly impact how we communicate and perceive the truth.

Both may be true, but it certainly depends on the person who delivers the truth and the person who receives the truth. The intricate dance of perception and interpretation adds layers of complexity to our understanding of truth.

For instance, I’ve never had anyone hang up on me faster than a person to whom I’m delivering the truth. As a matter of fact, I’ve never had a person turn on me and try to get a group of people to hate me more than someone that I delivered the truth to.

First Scenario

Playing the victim and wanting everyone to cater to you is insane to me. The other day, I was talking to my mother, and like always, she was complaining about her feet, legs, hands, hips, eyes, sore throat, and fatigue. And like always, I delivered many suggestions that I know work because, surprise, surprise, I have worked with older adults, and I know what exercises work and will bring you back to life.

Filled with frustration, I told her that sitting at home watching TV all day would never be a positive solution! You would think that after 15-plus years, she would be ready to listen, but nope.

Once I told her to get up, move, and take baby steps towards her goal RIGHT NOW, she told me she’d talk to me later and hung up.

Second Scenario

I had a friend who was in love with someone who wasn’t in love with her. He called off their wedding, told her she was too dark for him, and didn’t find her that attractive. The kicker was that he was fresh out of prison and seemed to only want a place to stay until he was on his feet again. 

So, given all that, she told me that she would take him back if he asked her to!

I was outraged and told her that she was an idiot and would be one of the dumbest people if she took him back. I told her she was better than him, that she had worked too hard for everything that she had, and that she could do so much better. Either way, our friendship ended there.

Maybe my delivery isn’t the best, or perhaps some can’t handle the awful truth.

I don’t know; either way, happy April!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

24 Replies to “The Awful Truth”

  1. My mother often shares about the discomfort she feels in her legs, feet, eyes, arms, and ears, along with a persistent cough. She spends much of her day watching soap operas, and my heart truly aches for her. I’ve been praying for her healing and also breaking any generational patterns of infirmity in my family. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

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    1. I’ll be praying for your mom too!!! That generational curse is so real and I wish that had the nerve/ will power to break it 😩
      The more you sit the more you will ache 😣

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  3. I am not even so sure that it is about the truth really. My mother was similar to yours. She knew when I proposed things that could help her that I was right but that was not what she was after, she just wanted to vent and get attention. She was also depressive though. She would never have been able to do anything for herself on her own, without being pushed all the time, even when she knew what she should do.

    I hope for your poor former friend that her ex-fiancé never wanted her back. It is hard to understand why anybody would want a person back in their lives who humiliated them so much. I am sure she knew you were right, really. It is also interesting that she didn’t seem to register all the positive things you said to her, she just seemed to have heard the “idiot”. That sounds also very much like my late mother.

    So, yes, truth seems to be hard coming from somebody else. It seems to me that many people don’t want to change their ways/lives; they seem to feel secure in the known, no matter how awful it is. Tragic really.

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    1. So sorry about your mother passing, hugs to you Stella!
      I think my former friend knew she couldn’t dwell over him with me so she chose to stick around people that were not willing to be straight with her. I hope she’s doing well but then again I really don’t give a damn. She was a selfish “friend” always wanted something!

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  4. Yeah, Bella . . . yeah, it’s DEF the delivery in this one: “I was outraged and told her that she was an idiot and would be one of the dumbest people if she took him back.”

    There’s a way we can channel our anger when our loved ones are being “not so bright” about their love life and say what we need to say tactfully to get them to see our stance on things. But, I’m with you on her being able to do better, especially if she can. No one deserves any of that!

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    1. Please I said more than that and unlike other people I said it to her and not behind her back like her other friends. She wasn’t a loved one, just a friend that I had only known for a few years.
      To be honest I told she was crazy as soon as she told me that she was moving in with a man she just met and he was just released from prison after doing 10 years.

      He dumped her and their engagement as soon as he met someone new. And now that I watch Love and Lock up I see this is their norm…. Just out here chasing women!

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      1. Bless it! Well, you know how you want to approach things and how you should.

        I am over here laughing at, “This isn’t a loved one.” 😂😆🤣

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  6. I can relate! I gave my coworker some advice because I was asked to provide her with job training. I once told her she was using some English incorrectly. I even did some careful research to make sure I was 100% right. When I told her about the idiom, she said no one had corrected her before, so she wasn’t changing how she spoke.

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  8. The truth is hard no matter what it is. I think the best way to approach telling it though is to come from a place of good intention. Not saying that people won’t receive it that way, but if your heart is sincere, and the goal is to help, the truth should be spoken.

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