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Do Old Habits Die Hard?

I guess it all depends on how hard you want to kill and bury that habit!

Or maybe help is needed to bury it. Whatever the case may be, bury that habit quickly, especially if it’s destroying your quality of life. Seek out a support group, a therapist, or a trusted friend. There’s no shame in asking for help when you need it.

So, today is confession time!

Just recently, I had a birthday, and I woke up the day feeling like I wanted to punch a hole in the wall. Not because I’m not grateful for being here, but because getting older is scary!

Now, before anyone says it’s a privilege to get older, let me stop you right there.

I’m deeply grateful to be here. I’m fully aware of the alternative to growing older, and I don’t want that either. This gratitude is what keeps me going.

What truly scares me about getting older is the thought of not achieving my life goals. I’m tough on myself and despise the idea of being average or not giving my best. To avoid mediocrity, I set ambitious goals for each year of my life.

If I’m not progressing, then I’m failing. And failing scares the shit out of me.

I’ve seen what happens when we let our fears and obstacles control us, and it’s not pretty. It’s a life half-lived, and that’s not what I want for myself or for you.

This is why I’m writing this today for my “Look After Yourself Friday” post.

I’ve decided that from now on, when my birthday approaches, I’m taking my kids and husband on a HUGE BANGING VACATION so that we can honor yours truly.

I’m ditching my old habit of trying to stay low-key on my birthday and not make a big deal of it. I don’t care if I accomplished all my goals or half of them; a beach vacation will be planned, and a good time will be had.

I’m on a mission to celebrate and kill that lousy habit by partying like a rockstar. OH, AND I’VE ALREADY STARTED. 

What’s a habit you want to kick? How are you looking after yourself today?

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Bella~

59 Replies to “Do Old Habits Die Hard?”

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  2. Good for you (and your family), wonderful woman!

    I’d say my unhealthiest habit is still the sugar, which I am constantly trying to reduce. It will be an ongoing effort, but that’s o.k.

    I think we will also travel around my birthday, my husband wants to go to the Canary Islands, Malta or Madeira or something similar, a week of sun during a dark and cold northern winter. We didn’t really travel since COVID broke out, there was always something preventing it.

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  3. Great post. Life does go by at astonishing speed. You blink and a year has gone by. A quick nap, and a decade has passed. I’d encourage you to evaluate your life goals that seem to be giving you stress.. Are they realistically attainable? Is the amount of time you’d need to invest worth it if/when you finally arrive? Bc time is the one thing you can’t get back. Someday, you’ll look back and the most important question you’ll ask yourself is: Did I use my time wisely? 😎

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  5. I’m the same way on my birthday so I’m glad you chose to have fun instead- that’s way better than feeling like crap all day. And of course, a very, very happy birthday 🥳 Also, you look incredible drop the skincare routine!

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  9. I always expect the worst….I need to be more positive and friendly and social….I spend to much time fine with being by myself…

    and that getting older…I think a lot about dying?…my dad’s brush with that last year may have spured that on…I keep thinking am I going to someday soon need a pace maker and a blister pack full of pills, and if it come to that, what?…..the thoughts about when and what’s on the other side is, um, concerning

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    1. Warren you are totally reaadign my mind. We could have lunch and talk about this for hours!!!!! I’m so concerned about what’s on the other side. I’m totally using that phrase as a blog post title.
      I struggle with knowing that one day we will all change and then death comes knockin.

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  10. I think my worst habit is overthinking things. That can lead to doing nothing at all which is just as bad sometimes. I tend to cope better now though and just go with the flow more. My worst practical habit was biting my nails, which I’ve not done for years now. So I’ll take the win! Enjoy your vacation and birthday. I’m doing the same thing this month as well.

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  18. I’m in asimialr boat and this year will be a mielstone that is a wake up call. I have to let go of some of the things that are past and behind me and now are gone, but what can I do with what’s left and what does what I have a round me do to serve that?

    It’s not an easy one…

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      1. I’ve been thinking I want to write more on this miestone, I’m not sure if I want to blog it. I would appreciate your views.
        I’ll be 50 in December.

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      1. I am being cyberbullied… a past tenant from a workplace in 2016 who got evicted for breaking the rules, made websites trying to place the blame on me. They made one in my personal name in April 2019 and at the height of the smear campaign there were 7 domains, all containing my name. Right now, there is only 1 left with content.
        The past 8 years, my name has shown up on various services too, as they were using my name, with the domain they had, to sign up with them.
        So I got into the habit of searching for my name online to see where it shows up, put there by these past tenants, not me. I have managed to find most of it and got it removed over the past few years, even got the sites suspended at times, but they move hosts and start all over again. This time they are with free speech nameservers…
        It is a habit that is hard to break…looking for my name to show up in places online that I didn’t put there.

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      2. Stella!!!! I’m so sorry that you are having to deal with that. They have to be the most miserable people and low lifes in order to take the time to waste so much energy. That is so childish of them.

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  20. It’s ON!!!! You look FIRE Belladonna ❤ … Celebrate how cute you both are (seriously) … the goal of dedicating yourself and others to a higher purpose … I don’t believe could be more selfless and appreciated! You are the epitome of an awesome rock-star of the highest caliber, Love !!!! Happy Birthday and a bounty of blessings your way ~ Always 🙂

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