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How cool should you be?

At all times, you have to be…..

~As cool as the other side of the pillow! ~ Stewart Scott~

I used to love it when Stewart said this: God rest his soul. But every time I heard him say this, I felt it, and I wanted to grow and be able to keep my cool at all times. You know, never let them see you sweat…type cool!

Once someone knows how to get under your skin, they will continue to do so so that they can get a rise out of you. But you have to be bigger than that and learn how to breathe slowly and steadily. Every time you let out a strong exhale, you follow it up with an even stronger and deeper inhale. That inhale allows fresh oxygen into your brain, which will enable you to clear your mind and think a little more clearly.

We all know that the more precise you think, the better decisions you’ll make. 

Allowing yourself to lose control of your temper is gifting the antagonistic fool precisely what they want. This holds true with sports and everyday life. Losing your temper can lead you to lose your job, relationship, and others’ respect. And as human beings, one of the things we don’t want is to be disliked or to feel unwanted.

To say I don’t care what anyone thinks is a lie from the pit of hell. We all care about how others view us. If we didn’t, we would run outside naked with a plastic bag on our head. 

But we know we would either be thrown in jail or in a nice patted room with a fabulous white jacket that has lots of belts on it. We care how we are viewed, so we cover up and put our best foot forward.

When Michele Obama said, “When they go low, we go high”, I felt that deep in my soul.

Refusing not to go as low as someone else and remaining cool is always the better option. Not only will your blood pressure thank you, but your pride, dignity, and self-respect will remain intact.

My number one rule in life is: When someone goes low, I will go high and remain cooler than the other side of the pillow.

My last two posts about this very topic!

If Only For A Moment

If Only For A Moment ~Part 2~

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

27 Replies to “How cool should you be?”

  1. Great advice and an admirable goal to remain level-headed. Most of the time I do, occasionally I don’t. And I figure that’s okay, I’m allowed to make a few mistakes along the way.

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  4. Oh no Queen B, no losing one’s cool here! Love your mantra: “When someone goes low, I will go high and remain cooler than the other side of the pillow.” Oh no, not cooler than the other side of the pillow! 😂😝🤣 Girl you are too much! Great message for today and oh how timely it is! 🥰💖🙏🏼

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  8. it is hard, the right thing to do….yeah, I’ve got a dad that does that, we’re at the opposite ends of the political spectrum, and like life noew it’s impossible to have a civil conversation when that topic comes up, so when it does, well, I just go somewhere else….

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  19. Dearest Belladonna you are so right. Everything you said in this piece resonated with me. I have always had a temper. There are many reasons why but it is never an excuse to react: I love this “To say I don’t care what anyone thinks is a lie from the pit of hell. We all care about how others view us. If we didn’t, we would run outside naked with a plastic bag on our head.”
    We all do indeed if we are completely honest. This is almost amusing to me when people say they don’t need anyone’s opinion, approval or care if they like me or not. You have done so much and I admire you immensely. I hope you will consider a visit as soon as your young son starts playing football as I am looking forward to meeting him. I imagine he is having to beat the girls off with a stick. Sending you my love. Love you sweetie. ❤️🙏❤️

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