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How many loves do we get?

He cheated on his first wife, then cheated on his second wife, and now he is old and alone!

How do we know if the one that we are with is the one that’s meant to be?

This might be the million-dollar question, and we all search for that answer as we say our I do’s and commit to another date. But there’s always that lingering thought that floats around in our head when we have our bad days with our spouse or date.

Being able to decipher between a bad moment and someone who isn’t meant to be present in our life might be one of the trickiest things to do. When we’re angry, we think the worst, and we say cutthroat things. Then, because of our human nature, we instinctively want to find comfort in someone else.

But here’s the thing: we have to be wise enough to know that the grass isn’t greener on the other side and be able to step back from an argument and assess the situation.

How many times are we given to break people’s hearts?

Storytime

I know this guy who was married to the most fantastic woman; her swag meter was a 10. When she walked into the room, all eyes were on her, not because she wanted them to be but because she was comfortable with not only being a woman but a motorcycle-riding, drop-dead, stunning human being. 

Women wanted to be like her, and men wanted to be near her!

But the men didn’t stand a chance; she only had eyes for one man, and he for her, well, until he didn’t. You see, he had a wandering eye that led him to have several affairs. He totally shattered her heart; she thought she had found her forever man. The motorcycle queen stayed single for years, and then she met the man of her dreams.

The heartbreaker went on to marry a woman who wasn’t even half the woman of the motorcycle queen, and he knew it. The new wife cheated on him, and he cheated on her until they eventually divorced as well.

He had spent years trying to get her back, but there was nothing he could do or say to win back the motorcycle queen. So now he’s old and alone.

When I think about his infidelity and heartbreak, I wonder, did he mess up the one chance he was given at true love, or did he deem himself unworthy of having a woman of that caliber ever again?

The answer may never be known.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

71 Replies to “How many loves do we get?”

  1. Cheating is the one thing I can’t tolerate. I’m the most loyal person you ever met until that enters the equation. It’s like a piece of chewing gum. Your man shares a piece with another woman, then brings it back to you to chew on, too. Well guess what? I don’t want that nasty-arse piece of chewing gum. Sheesh I don’t even know if that makes sense but I think you get my gist. lol

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  3. Well i e shared my story in the past.. it just takes a breaking point until someone decides it’s over. Broke my heart more for the kids then anything else but I won’t even go into that.. and in my opinion, cheating is the same thing as abuse, regardless of which partner does it. Its abuse to the other partner and the children if they have them.

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  5. Pluck out those damn wandering eyes! 👀 If they do it to you, the other woman or man will do it to them. It’s just a matter of time. I know about that firsthand. Like Miss Celie from the Color Purple said when she pointed those two fingers at Danny Glover, “What you done to me already been done to you!” 😱 Drop the mic! 👉🏼🎤👈🏼

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  11. there is that tune, if you can’t be with the one your love, love the one you’re with?….i think marraige is a long term thing, you sign up for the long run…there’ll always be the the bad days, the great and the awesome….it’s like having kids, who knows what you’ll get….but you make it work….you always do the best you can, and just do what you know is right….two of my adult children are autistic…so a life’s challenge…someone once said it must be tough, it just is,,marraige, we’re almost 38 years in…..you appreciate what you have, yes, it’s almost like a car, every so often you’d like that corvette…but, the minivan works….

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    1. LLOLOLOL! I did not expect that ending. You are hilarious and you’re right the minivan works just fine.
      Congratulations on 38 years that is a blessing!

      Yes we all have our bad days and down right ugly days and that’s why marriage shouldn’t be entered into lightly. Thank you for this Warren,I always love to read your comments.

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  12. It happened once early in our marriage; a stupid mistake on his part. My mom told me you have to decide to end it or forgive and forget. So I did. 38 years we’ve been together! Of course, it’s never as simple as that, but I’m proud we worked it out!

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    1. Good for you Kim! We always have to assess the situation and see what we both can do to make the relationship stronger. Now look at y’all! He is definitely your person and you his. Traveling around the country together says it all. Love it!

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  13. Yesterday only a renowned industrialist announced separation from his spouse after 32 years of marriage. Nobody knows what goes inside one’s mind. But once trust is betrayed, nothing is left.

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  14. My sister has a great analogy. Once a person has left (be it cheating or whatever), taking them back is akin to putting on dirty underwear after you shower. His loss. He made a grave error and she is better for having moved forward and had a second chance at love – who will hopefully respect and lover her properly.

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    1. Great analogy!
      If he was able to get his act together after the first mess up, she would’ve forgave him but it was the second affair that made her walk.
      She is such a beautiful woman and so damn tough!

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      1. Romanticism was something thought up a few hundred years ago when it came up with the philosophy of ‘the one’ that might be the one love of your life, the one God, the one way that things have to be and it been carried forward and it’s damaging to us.

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  23. Infidelity is one of the worst things to happen. It seems to be happening more & more to where it seems to be the norm, it’s quite sad to be honest. Thank you for this post & I’m glad I’m not the only one in the universe that sees infidelity as one of the main issues w/society, especially today.

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