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Death Of Not Choosing Yourself and Mental Health ~How to avoid it~

I choose me!

Choosing myself is not just a decision; it’s a powerful commitment to my well-being, values, and dreams. This approach is not selfish but a necessary step towards personal growth, aligning my decisions with my goals and ultimately leading a more fulfilling life. When I choose myself, I am better equipped to support others and contribute positively to my relationships and community.

For instance, by prioritizing my mental health, I’m able to be more present and supportive and able to contribute to my loved ones in meaningful ways.

Choosing me is about self-respect and recognizing my worth, and it’s crucial for all of us to feel deeply valued and respected. Each one of us is unique and valuable, and it’s important to remember that.

Filling my cup first

Understanding that I need to fill my cup first allows me to remember my value. This means taking time for self-care, pursuing my interests, and setting boundaries to ensure I’m not overextending myself. 

When my kids were little, I found myself pouring everything into them, often at the expense of my own passions and strengths. This self-neglect left me feeling like a shadow of my former self, and it took me years of self-discovery and growth to reclaim even a fraction of my true identity. It’s a journey that requires determination and focus, but it’s worth it.

In fact, If I’m being totally transparent, I’m still working on picking up where I left off in my mid-twenties. 

That said, I know that once you become a parent, your children come first. However, that doesn’t mean you have to lose yourself completely. It’s a constant struggle to balance your needs with the needs of your family, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed at times. But remember, losing you will prevent you from living the life you intended to live.

Very few of us were put on this earth to be only parents and a spouse!

We all have passions, visions, and goals, and if we don’t use them, we lose them, and no one or nothing is worth losing all of that. We all deserve to continually work towards all things that make us eager to wake up in the morning and hop out of bed, ready to give the day hell.

Get up and look towards positivity; today is yours, SO DON’T WASTE IT!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

39 Replies to “Death Of Not Choosing Yourself and Mental Health ~How to avoid it~”

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  3. Wisdom comes with experience. And it is difficult to put ourselves first when we are knee (heart?) deep in raising our children and keeping house and working and and and…

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  9. This is so very true – many of us can relate to this and for me myself even now I’m having to deal with crap that isn’t mine and I yearn for a time when I can chill and I don’t have the expectations and responsibilities of others to have to deal with.

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