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How Does It End?

I’m a sucker for knowing how a story ends, but I’m afraid I’m too impatient most of the time, so I skip to the back of the book for a quick peek!

My fascination with endings, whether in a book or real life, is undeniable. Yet, when it comes to divorce or death, my curiosity is tinged with fear. The two are equally daunting.

When I love, it’s not a shallow feeling. It’s a deep, all-encompassing emotion. Losing someone I love feels like a death, even if they’re still physically present. It’s not easy for me to open up and love, so when I do, I’m fully committed. My heart aches a little every time I hear about a divorce, and I’m always eager to understand what went wrong. It’s always a surprise to me when the couple claims they’re still friends, despite having grown apart. 

I understand that some people can maintain a friendly relationship with their exes, but I don’t think I could. If my husband and I were to divorce, I can’t imagine being his friend. In fact, every time I saw him, I would be tempted to trip him, poke him, or even throw my shoe at him.

Storytime

So when an associate of mine told me that after 15 years of marriage, she and her husband decided to get a divorce and move to the same neighborhood as each other, I was floored.

They’re determined to raise their kids as closely together as possible, so it made sense to live near each other.

The reason for the divorce

And this is after she found out he cheated on her while traveling back and forth for work. Of course, she wanted to murder him when she found out, but instead of spending the rest of her life in jail, she cheated, too.

She said that after she cheated, she was able to forgive him and MOVE ON with her life.

To each its own, I won’t judge, but I will be here to see how this story unfolds.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

38 Replies to “How Does It End?”

  2. yeah, don’t judge, and sometimes I get it sometimes not….we’ve had our rough times no cheating but every so often you don’t see eye to eye, but maybe because I saw my parent do the same, you tough it out, there’s a reason you got married in the first place….and so far it’s been 39 years….I made that commitment (though my wife seems to forget that bit to honor and obey lol) and like any commitment you said you’d see this through…it’s like running a marathon, there are rough patches, you just don’t turn and walk away…I know there are situations where that’s not possible..but has worked for us

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  3. Naar, no way I want to meet my ex ever again! But we didn’t have children. My second husband and his wife lived near each other because they each had the children half a week, and like this, the children had the same friends, going to the same school. That made sense. But it is not an ideal situation ….

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  8. I must admit that I have peeked at endings in books as well. When a protagonist goes through a lot of trouble in the story, I need to be sure that the ending will be a happy one 😉 😀
    I don’t like it either when lovers split up, although I did it as well with my first husband … there are good reasons sometimes. But I find it sad in general when people who used to love each other dearly suddenly split up.

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  9. We are watching Blind Spot on TV. I am content to follow the 5 seasons-one an evening and Mike wants to check out the story line. Will this one survive? Ah, no but yes I do this with books-speed read to the end.

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      1. What did we decide to do? I watch the show through and Mike listens. He doesn’t like the gorey parts. I will continue to speed read if some books don’t capture my interest and he will leave during some parts. I find other things bother me greatly but not the gorey parts. Mainly, because it is not for real. I don’t mind sadness in novels because I can put it aside. I did sneak a peed at some of the upcoming episodes, so I guess I am normal, mostly.

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      1. They are just friends now, so it was an amicable divorce. The issue was the husband said yes to everything the wife said. It was like she was married to her own shadow, not another human with his own opinions. Even when she wanted a divorce, he was going with whatever the wife wants!!

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  11. This reminds me of a teenager who turned to her divorcing parents in family court and asked, “If you came together give me life, what right do you have to take away my normal childhood.”

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  12. Skipping to the end and wanting to know the ending is absolutely normal. Something like communication can completely ruin a marriage nevermind things like infidelity, its truly scary in my eyes

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