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7 Types of Toxic Friends

How many of you have experienced the shock of realizing that someone you thought was genuine and a friend was actually quite the opposite? It’s a jolting revelation that often sends us running for the hills. And as we grow older, finding genuine people becomes even more challenging. It’s not always easy to recognize toxic friendships, and that’s okay. We’re all learning and growing.

When you were younger, you could join groups and organizations at your college, and you lived in close quarters with others, making it a breeze to meet and hang out with a variety of people.

Those were the days, weren’t they?

Yeah, well, those days are over, and we now have to be more creative when it comes to meeting new friends. And more often than not, we are going to cross paths with the following toxic “friends.”

Seven types of TOXIC “Friends”

  1. The Energy Vampire~ is a person who drains you emotionally and mentally. They constantly seek attention and validation, leaving you feeling exhausted after every interaction. 
  2. The Drama Queen~ They constantly need attention, and everything that involves them gets blown out of proportion.
  3. The Manipulator~They employ guilt-tripping, emotional manipulation, or even gaslighting to get their way.
  4. The Self-Centered Snake~ All they can think about is I, I, I. They never ask you about you. They have little regard for your feelings and well-being.
  5. The Gossiping Goof Ball~ They can’t keep a secret to save their lives. They lie and twist a story for dramatic effect.
  6. The User~ They only come around when they need you, and once they get what they want, you don’t hear from them. Well, at least until the next time they are in need.
  7. The Jealous Judy~ They hate hearing about your success and are always looking for a way to undermine your accomplishments.

Remember, you have the power to save yourself and avoid them all. Your choices are your strength, and they can protect you from toxic relationships, empowering you to build healthy and fulfilling connections.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and for that, I’m honored. 

~Belladonna~

50 Replies to “7 Types of Toxic Friends”

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  2. I’ve dealt with so many user friends over the years that I had to cut them all out of my life. I still feel guilt from time to time because I feel like IATA meanwhile they were always take take take never give give give.

    The absolute worst friend was one who I thought was genuine. She was a blogger and she always commented on my blog posts. Then one day, she blocked me on all platforms and deleted all of my comments, and sent me a very nasty email explaining why IATA and why she blocked me. None of what she said was actually true but boy did it hurt! She was definitely the most toxic of them all which is ironic because she goes around claiming to be an empath. Uhhh, that’s not how empathy works! 🙄

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    1. Oh that’s horrible, I’m so sorry that happened to you. When things like that happen it’s so natural for us to blame ourselves. “Like what did I do wrong”. When we did nothing but let a jerk creep into our life!

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  8. The list of toxic “friend” types is spot on. I’ve definitely encountered a few Energy Vampires and Drama Queens in my time! It’s a good reminder to be mindful of these red flags as we try to build meaningful connections.

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  11. I love your descriptions of these fake friends!!! I get especially annoyed with the Jealous Judy’s. Life is hard enough. When someone close to you achieves some modicum of success, be happy for them! If you can’t be happy then move on — you’re not doing them or you any good!!!!! Ugh.

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  12. Great photo, very fitting! 😉

    I cannot say that I had many of the above, but my ex husband definitely was a guilt-tripping manipulator. It was always my attitude that was at fault.

    As far as friendships are concerned, I am usually a patient person, but if after some open conversations about the problem nothing changes, I say goodbye or just let it die down.

    I had a drama queen cum energy vampire among them; a double whopper. That died when I moved to Denmark.
    One very old friend was always insisting that her visits home (she married an American) went 100% on her conditions. After many years, and after bringing this up with her, I told her that I wasn’t willing to do this anymore.
    Then there was the one who always talked bad about other people when we were together, often people I didn’t even know, and every time the same stories. That got me fed up in the end.
    And last but not least a 10 years younger friend and former colleague, who always had to point out my age in a negative way, as well as talking negatively about the eldery in general. I didn’t really need that.

    I have very few but good friends now, whom I dare to rely on. I know that in case of need they would be there for me, and vice versa, of course.

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    1. You know it’s so sad how common all of your stories are! How miserable do you have to be to have those toxic traits. There is no way they’re happy people.
      I had someone that always through my age in my face and we were only 5 years apart. She made me feel like I was 92 and sh was some 22 year old whipper snapper.

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