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~Repost~ Have You Noticed We Don’t Talk Anymore

All anyone does is text! We have become so used to texting that picking up the phone to have a conversation has almost become a thing of the past.

What happened to the occasional phone call asking how you are doing or what have you been up to? Our lives have become digital. We can get answers to anything we want within seconds, spread gossip/news, and pass along memes by using one finger.

I know that texting is convenient for quick messages and updates, and it’s an excellent tool for staying in touch. But let’s not forget the unique value of a phone call. It’s not just about the words we say but the emotions we convey. Hearing someone’s laughter and free-spirited voice has been replaced by emojis and LOL, LMAO, etc.

As for me, I miss hearing my phone ring and hearing a voice on the other end.

Hearing someone’s voice is not just about the words they say; it’s about the reassurance and peace of mind it brings. It’s about feeling connected when you hear the voice of someone you miss and love.

Human connection is not just a luxury; it’s a necessity. It’s the thread that weaves us all together, and it’s time we start valuing it more. 

Remembering your voice and real emotions

One of my best friends passed away years ago, and although there are many things that I remember about her, the one thing that sticks with me more than anything is her voice. The emotions that were felt through our real-life connection can’t ever be replaced.

Let’s make a promise that we will text a little less and listen a little more.

Cheers to making someone’s phone ring and engaging in an actual conversation.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Bella~

78 Replies to “~Repost~ Have You Noticed We Don’t Talk Anymore”

  1. texting can be as much a bombshell as email or Facebook messenger…I know I’m not the only one to experience you either send or receive an email not in the way it intended, maybe a word in the wrong place, maybe too many words in small or large caps, an exclamation point in the wrong place, or too many of them…or in my case the … I’ve received work emails that were meant to be innocuous, but the wording screamed that a war was on….by phone or in person would have made all the difference, and in the end it ended up being a phone call to explain….electronically it’s impossible to take words back, face to face or when you reach out to touch someone, the sound of that voice makes all the difference….unless you’re me…two of my best employees, years later still accuse me of being angry at each once, only once, and they remember me being angry once…and i wasn’t, i’ve never been angry at either ever, not possible, but at least once i was hangry?…not sure about the other….

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    1. Warren I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I took someones tone to mean something oh so wrong!!!!! And of course vice versa. I’m a straight shooter but text came come by so harsh and I never mean to be that way. So a phone call is a must.
      Now when I’m hangry…watch out. LOL

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  5. Love, I am on the phone ALL DAY LONG scheduling patients. The last thing I want to do is TALK ON THE PHONE after my workday is done. Lol. I don’t even want to hear a phone ring! 🤣😂😆

    I do plan phone calls over the weekend, and I talk to my grandmother every Saturday.

    Other than that, I don’t want to see a phone at all regarding talking on it.

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  6. I know right?! Today someone texted me a deep philosophical question and requested my viewpoints. Certainly I couldn’t text 100+ words using SHORT Message Service (SMS) in return. Truth be told I didn’t call either, I voice note the response. It goes to your point —we hardly call anymore 😔

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    1. Dawn I completely forgot to say something about voice notes!!! I am guilty of that too and I receive a ton of those. ugggghhhh!
      We are in in too much of a rush and have to slow it down and pick up the darn phone and TALK.

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  8. Love this Queen B – Human connection is not just a luxury; it’s a necessity. I gotta have a conversation or I’ll go crazy. I’m not overcome or controlled by my digital devices. Great reminder sistah! 🤳🏽📞📱

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    1. Kim I am so over seeing everyone staring at their phone. The other day I took my girls out to dinner and we laughed and talked throughout dinner. And I couldn’t help but notice how many people that were looking brain dead as they stared at their phone and they were at a table with others. No one talking, just looking at the damn phone and texting.

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  11. Bella, I am not very good at talking on the phone. Phone calls take me back to work where if the phone rings something terrible happened. It sounds pretty dramatic but it’s a really bad PTSD level of reaction.

    I do make video calls and voice calls sometimes , it can be a good thing in some cases. Voice is important even if voice mail is often abused by chatty Kathies. My sister is one of them, she leaves 5 voices mails 20 minutes each, it stresses me out and makes me feel like I’m losing my mind. I love my sis, don’t get me wrong but who has so much free time to listen to her podcasts?

    Phone is a big issue for me, I have to figure out the way to set boundaries and still be approachable. And friendly cause it’s important.

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    1. Wow your sister can talk🤣🤣🤣🤣 I don’t blame you on that one. But yes setting boundaries with a positive tone is so important. We don’t want to scare folks off and lose connection.
      I hope you have a great day ❤️

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  13. I must admit, I am guilty as charged. I do have regular telephone (messenger video calls) conversations with my friend in Norway, my brother in Oregon, and another friend in Copenhagen. I love it best to meet people in person to talk to them, but everybody lives to far away.

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  14. I agree! I saved voicemails from my mom and listen to them every once in awhile when I just want to hear her voice and remember her cadence, laugh and how she ended every call with “Love to all!”

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  15. I’ve never liked talking on the phone 🤦🏽‍♀️😒. I don’t even like to hear a phone ring. Maybe I was traumatized in a former life 😔. However, when it comes to certain people I do. Why? I love the sound of their voices 😍. My Momma has my favorite voice on the planet and I call her. I also text her every single morning. My best friend Heather passed away 12 years ago and I loved her voice, I always called her. I’m not completely out of touch with phone calls, texting is convenient. However, the sound of people you love voices is lovely

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  16. Sorry to read about your friend loss and I understand the sweet memory of a voice. I have several phone messages saved from my dad. I am grateful for that. I also appreciate the joy of seeing my daughter through my phone when we talk. A few perks to technology, but yes that connection to others through voice communication is slipping away. Even the customer service reps speak less and text or email more! Thanks Coach! Call you later. ☎️😁

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    1. That’s true about the customer service reps. They def do text more tan hey speak.
      I like to FT my kiddos as well. If something is bothering them you can spot it right away.
      Have a great day Michele!

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  17. Since my mom died, over a year ago now, I rarely get phone calls. It’s surreal. My husband, who is leaning into retirement and therefore, not talking as much, is actually losing his voice. The doctor says that the voicebox is a muscle and without the exercise of talking loses strength.

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  19. This is correct. I talk with my cousin on the phone regularly. We FaceTime and actually see each other. I made two phone calls today to people instead of texting. That isn’t every day, but I do need to make phone calls quite regularly.
    Even doctors, dentists, everything is moving towards online scheduling. I can *never* get an answer if I call my dentist’s office. They’re a half hour away, so I either need to drive there or make an appointment to have a question answered.
    I’ll never take for granted home movies and even voicemails. My youngest son’s father passed away when my son was four months old. Sadly, because of various circumstances, no one has video or audio of him. Except me. And that’s two short video clips–a brief laugh and a short sentence. I treasure them. Wish I had more.

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    1. Melissa this is so sweet!! Thank you for sharing that with me. I know your son appreciates that little keepsake💖
      You’re right everything is moving to digital, and that makes no sense to me. So inconvenient

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  21. Great post! I think one reason is we’re all so short on time. Everything is now… Now!!

    If I get a call and it’s from a friend I haven’t spoken to in a while, I cringe. As much as I’d like to drop everything and talk, I’m usually already doing at least one, maybe two things, and I don’t wanna half listen with uh-huhs. And when I do have the time for a convo, I call them, they probably also cringe, do what I do and it goes to VM.

    The only way I’ve found to make it work is to text someone, ask when they might able to talk, and then block out some space for them. 😎

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    1. Darryl 🤣 thank you for keeping it sooooo real! I am guilty of doing just that. Texting to see when we can talk is a great way to get around just texting.
      Thank you for this refreshing comment!!!🙌🏽❤️❤️

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  23. Hello, Belladonna, it’s me. I wanted to call, but these text would have to suffice. Saw, that you came by for a visit, and left a couple messages in my WordPress blog mail. It was nice hearing from you, and like always, I will reciprocate.

    Yours truly, funny guy. 😊

    I hear you, I would rather call someone, than leave them a text. Blessings!🙏🏽

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  27. I’m a UX researcher and the most interesting finding that I found during one study is that for people below 25 it is easier to type on a phone that to make call. People older than 25 usually prefer to take a call because they can explain faster. It’s interesting because young people have adapted to typing and is now cognitively less demanding for them than speaking.

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  29. It is true, we text, and it is very convenient, as one can read and answer whenever it is most convenient. However, with my best friends I have video talks on messenger from time to time, which is nice, seeing their faces, hearing their voices, also with my brother in Oregon. I called my aunt a few days ago, spur of the moment, she is the last remaining family member of that generation, my father’s younger sister, 94 years old. She talked for over an hour, so I guess she needed that call. I promised myself to call her more often. Who knows, how long she will still be there.

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