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I Don’t Know Who Needs To Read This But…….

Maybe it’s you, and I hope this helps you!

If you are having one of those days that seem BLAH and you’re sad or feeling not like yourself, then this message is for you.

And here’s what I want you to do!

Throw yourself a pity party and embrace whatever feeling you have. Know that it’s okay to spend a day sitting in your feelings and allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

Growing up, I was always told that throwing yourself a pity party was a waste of time, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. When we allow ourselves to sit in the company of ourselves and think, we can quickly feel better. However, there are other times that we need to ask someone else to join our pity party so we can talk through the feelings we are experiencing. 

We are human, and it’s normal to feel sad and not know why!

Story Time

When I woke up today, I had the worst headache, and I couldn’t help but feel low. I needed to spend time in nature and gather my feelings.

As I sat there, I remembered all of the laughs and good times I had with someone that I thought was a dear friend. When I realized she wasn’t, I didn’t know what was real anymore. She was someone I could talk to for hours, and in the blink of an eye, all that was gone, and I don’t know why.

I think it’s the WHY that continues to stomp me.

Before I knew it, an hour had passed. Just me, a cup of coffee, a headache, and sitting on a log that was now making my legs numb. 

My headache was coming to an end, as well as my pity party. So I stood up, looked up at the sky, and thanked God for giving me this day and allowing me to sit and process my feelings.

We owe it to ourselves to embrace the good moments as well as the not-so-good moments. They will both allow us to become stronger people.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

68 Replies to “I Don’t Know Who Needs To Read This But…….”

  5. Yes Queen B, we are human, and if you don’t get down to the root of what is going on, it only grows into something bigger. 😱 We are human, not robots. We just need to remember that! Thanks for sharing a timely message! 🤗🙏🏽😊

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  7. ” I remembered all of the laughs and good times I had with someone that I thought was a dear friend. When I realized she wasn’t, I didn’t know what was real anymore. She was someone I could talk to for hours, and in the blink of an eye, all that was gone, and I don’t know why.” I can totally relate to this, Belladonna. Thank you so much for sharing. 💕🙏💕

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      1. Yessss. Absolutely, it made me doubt my perceptive abilities. It also made me less trusting. My father used to say” Better off alone than in negative company”, I agree. Though it’s still sad and painful.💕

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  9. Sometimes the “WHY” can devastate you and it’s best you don’t find it out. I’m speaking from experience.

    “She was someone I could talk to for hours, and in the blink of an eye, all that was gone, and I don’t know why.

    I think it’s the WHY that continues to stomp me.”

    I hate that you went through this, but I’m also glad that you did. It made you who you are today and helped strengthen you so you could bring this message to others.

    🙏🏾💙

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  10. my life…sometimes great or okay, somedays, yep lowest of the low……today up at 5AM, my autistic daughter thinks that’s the time we should all wake up….and makes coffee for my wife, opens her door and says coffee…..and well, if one of us is up, chances of falling back to sleep, nil…..so by the time my day was to begin, well, today became a do not a lot day, which means tomorrow’s going to be busy busy busy…..

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  18. I totally agree with this. I’ve come to understand that my writing is a product of my emotional ups and downs and if I don’t sit with them—write through them—my work wouldn’t have the same impact on me.

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      1. It does although with my fiction I don’t really move on, not like that. Some of my characters remain a part of me. It’s weird… lol

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  21. I woke up today with a headache, too. It is over now, but it was hard for me to get started after we went to the gym. I am thankful it is gone now. Those are the worst things to have.

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  22. Well done Belladonna, you gave yourself the much needed time to just sit, relax, and reflect. I’m never quite sure what will come up in those moments. One thing I do know, I had a relationship that ended unexpectedly, I couldn’t understand why either. Then years later I was looking back and realized it was the best thing that ever happened to me. This friend was not true, or a good influence, it was as if the universe was protecting me. Consider yourself saved. Hugs, C

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    1. Cheryl you are spot on. It is so crazy when you see just how off some people are and how they don’t belong in our lives. This girl definitely did me a favor and I know your ex friend did the same. Hugs to you too.

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  24. Beautifully written. Today ( well yesterday actually since it’s past midnight ) I felt very sad. Sad about the news of my cat. Sad for the holidays coming up and not having a mom that cares , sad because of the gloomy weather . Growing up I wasn’t allowed to be upset or sad about anything. If I was I was reprimanded. As I get older I take time out to sort out my feelings. I’m human and sometimes I think people forget that

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    1. You have blessed me by stopping by. You deserve to feel any damn way you please. No One has the right to tell you how you can feel or express the way you feel.
      If you need to cry, let out a scream or sit in silence for awhile, then you do just that.

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