Strong Women Will!

Women stay strong and know that every time you fall, you have another real woman to help you up.

This will always be factual if you only allow realness in your circle.

I get so frustrated when I see strong women put each other down and compete compete compete; it’s as if we don’t realize that we are stronger together. Read More

Hit Back Fat With These Four Tricks

Dear Back Fat,

You have ruined so many days that could have been sweet. You took it upon yourself to show up on every beach vacation I have ever gone on with my family. It’s like you wait for me to step into my hotel room, and then you show up like you’re paying for my vacation.

I know you can’t wait for me to slip on my bathing suit so you can just sit back and have a good old laugh. Read More

The Bigger They Are The Harder They Fall

The bigger they are, the harder they fall!

I have said this a million times, and let me tell this statement is so true. In this day in age, we tune into social media, and the first thing we see is one big fake butt after another.

Social media glorifies large gluteus maximus, and it doesn’t matter if they are real or fake.

All they need to be is LARGE!

It blows my mind how many fake butts I see daily. Now, I don’t know if fake butts fall like real ones, but if they do, then this post is for all of you as well. Read More

This seat is taken

Stop trying to be someone else!!! Why is this so hard to do? I mean, can we just stop looking at each other and taking notes. Be you, Be DIFFERENT. Trying to fit in is one thing, but trying to take on the personality or tone of another is flat out ridiculous. I tell my kids to be different. Do not conform to predigested thoughts and ideas. BE YOU.

Do you realize how taxing it is to try to be someone other than yourself? You are always in competition with someone and coming up short. At some point, you have to come to understand that sit is already taken. Find out why you are so unhappy with you and fix it.

Over the summer, my daughter and I watched a great deal of Catfish. This is a televised show on MTV/Hulu. Catfish is about people taking on the face/personality of someone else and fooling people over social media. The Catfish usually take photos of someone that they don’t know personally, but they like what they see. They know that by using this person’s picture, they will attract the type of person that they desperately desire to be. I genuinely feel that the catfish actually start to feel better about themselves when they are portraying to be someone else.

I am always sad after the show. Okay, so here comes Nev and Max with the Victim (the person that was catfished), and they knock on the catfish door and out walks a blue sole.  I can not tell you how many times an overweight person walks out the door with their head down and looking so pitiful. The Catfish usually will say,
“I know that I am not what you expected and I am so sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you, but I loved how it felt when you desired to be with me, and I knew if you saw me you wouldn’t want to talk to me anymore.” The catfish continues with, ” Everything about our relationship was real EXCEPT, I’m not who you thought I was.”

I just want to reach in that TV and grab the catfish and tell them that they are enough.  Spend time and work on your internal self. Once you love yourself and remove anyone and anything that reminds you of what you use to be or even worse, what you never were but what they wanted you to be. Stop trying to be someone else and stand in your truth, and love it.

It is incredible how good you feel about yourself when you start to eat clean, workout and start to better yourself mentally. For sure, it is okay to have someone that motivates you to be better, but don’t take it to an unhealthy place.

I speak from a familiar place, I wasn’t always confident. I felt like I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, or talented enough. I always wanted to change things about me that would make me a little more desirable. But then I realized that feeling this way about myself is a waste of time. I’m losing valuable time, I’m losing at life. So I decided to stop focusing on the things that I hated about me and instead what I LOVE. My confidence and self-love grew. I stopped looking at the already taken seat and sat in my own….wearing my crown and all.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored.

~Belladonna~

Walking With Power

Some times strength has to be taught, and sometimes you are born with all the power you need. I wasn’t born with the strength that I have today. However, I was born with a low tolerance level for irrationality. Foolishness and inconsistent behavior have never been amusing to me. It’s no surprise that my husband and my kids share that same attribute. I think that’s why we can all spend so much time together and get along so well. Read More

Gratitude! 1018 Views

I welcome everyone new to Belladonna’s Flashlight and for everyone else, Thank you for staying! I hope you enjoy being apart of the fam and will continue to read and join in on discussions. I love hearing from you all. Read More

Just A Thought

Prayer will take you a long way! Right, when you think about giving up God will grab you up and hold you tight and show you why you shouldn’t.

I’m listening to God and I believe in his power.

I hope you all let God be God and direct you on the right path.

You could have chosen to read any blog but you chose mine and I’m honored.

~Belladonna~

He Fell In Love With Her Loud Laugh

I fell in love with a man that fell in love with the real me.

There she was just sitting with her friends, laughing her usual loud and excitable laugh. I think when she laughs, the whole world knows that it’s her. She has tried to change it and learned how to do a light, soft chuckle, but that didn’t last long. Mostly because it hurt her chest when she tried to hold in the true her. Read More

It’s My Fault He Cheated

This Particular Friday In September wasn’t different from any other Friday. I walked in, ready to begin our session. She is prepared to take her life back, and losing weight will give her the confidence that she needs to do so. We started off talking and catching up on how her morning was, making a list of what she ate the day before and making sure she took in enough calories. Which was one of her main problems these days. She worked out a little too much and didn’t replenish her body enough. That’s where I come in as her voice of reason.

When I noticed the change Read More