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Best Cure For Jealousy

I’m cured!

Two weeks ago, I wrote Is this what JEALOUSY feels like . Please read that post so that this post will make sense. 

Okay, did you read it? Great, welcome back!

I know I’m not the only one who’s had that dreadful jealous feeling. If you can relate, I would love to hear about it. As I see it, we are only human, and sometimes we can’t control or make sense of our feelings. 

When my friend told me she was pregnant, the first thing I felt was sadness. As I stated in my previous post, I was happy for her, but I couldn’t help but think that my last kid was just that… my last kid. Unknowingly she reminded me of the fact that part of my life was over. I love being a mom and caring for my kiddos, so it stings a little now that they’re growing up.

BUT WAIT! 

Now that a few years have passed since this day occurred, I have a different mindset about the whole baby thing. However, that day I was already in a slump and wasn’t feeling quite like me. What can I say? Life was lifing and had me down in the dumps, so I think any good news would have had me second-guessing myself and my life.

Every day I make it a priority to compare myself to myself, but I do fall short of that when I put too much pressure on staying on track to meet my goals. I always have my years mapped out, and I want to achieve specific things when I approach a new age.

Throw away the pressure, and the jealousy will go 

Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves? I have a terrible habit of saying

  • when I’m 25, I should have this
  • when I’m 30, I should be here in life
  • when I’m 35, I need to have achieved this
  • when I’m 40, I will be doing this
  • when I’m 46, all my wildest dreams will come true!

NO MORE of that! I will live each day with joy and do my best. I’m not pressuring myself to reach specific goals and then come down hard on myself when I fall short. Living like this has helped me be better and enjoy everyone’s news.

Jealousy has died so that peace can live!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

38 Replies to “Best Cure For Jealousy”

  2. A very big hug and a kiss to you for such a splendid post. Excellent tip for a happy contented life. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️😊😊😊🥰🥰😘😘😘🌹🌹🌹🌹

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  4. I love the way you worked through this issue. I am also one of those people who put pressure on themselves to work harder and do better. I think you reach a point where you get happy about being comfortable in your own skin.

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  10. For 5 years I was like I can’t wait to throw a massive bash for my 50th, the exact day of my birth in 2020 I had a very bad (but not hospitalized bad) case of Covid. Worst Birthday Ever!

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      1. Naw. I’m good. My cake at 50 prophetically said it sucks to be 50, at 51 I had it say fifty fuckin’ one! At 52 the cake said 92…it was combined with my wife turning 40. I don’t need a big bash…maybe I will wait till 55 😁

  13. I’m super pleased to read you are detaching goals from age, it’s hard to do, especially if we were conditioned to do this, which I was. When we fully get that we are already living out the goals we’ve created, even when “off track” a little, the anxiety lessens, and paradoxically, when we are less anxious we are more focused, therefore goals come more quickly to completion. A lovely contemplative write, Belladonna! 💜

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