Society wants you to hate your scars, but I want you to love them!
There are tons of products online that are made for the sole purpose of removing scars. I’m not going to lie, I have tried most of them, and then one day, I said, what the hell am I doing? I have thrown away hundreds and hundreds of dollars trying to get rid of something I should be proud of.
I let comedians make me feel horrible about my stretch marks. We are always the butt of every joke. I have heard a countless number of “comedians” say something along the lines of; “You know it’s time to go home if a stripper with stretch marks comes out to the stage.”
When I had my first baby, I would rub this cocoa buttercream that was supposed to prevent stretch marks. It did the job until I reached the last three weeks of my pregnancy, and my daughter decided to jump to 10 pounds. My poor belly couldn’t take it anymore!
The first time I saw my first three stretch marks, and I cried like a big baby. My husband felt so bad for me and kept saying it would be okay. I promise.
It wasn’t okay, and then they got worse. Three grew into six, and six grew into about 20. After I reached 20, I stopped counting. It was clearly out of my control. My baby had a mind of its own and refused to stop growing.
The creams had failed me.
Nothing on that bottle said anything about not working if you have a baby the size of KING KONG! I thought about writing the company and letting them read a few choice words, but my husband talked me down.
After I had my baby, it seemed like I saw one commercial after another explaining to women that they could feel sexy again by using a particular product. Because, of course, you can’t possibly feel sexy if you have stretch marks… right?
Of course, you can!
Do you know how many women have them? And not all stretch marks are from pregnancies but plain old weight gain. More women than not have them somewhere on their bodies. But only the bold and proud ones are willing to show you where.
I love every mark on my body and will never allow society to tell me how to feel about myself.
I’m a woman with scars, and I’m not afraid to show them! Are you?
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
47 Replies to “Story Behind My Scars”
Thank you so much for posting this. From one scarred, shamed woman, to another. Stella Benson “for I am scarred and shamed, and yet, not scars nor shame can grieve me”.
Oh wow! I love that quote. Thank you so much for sharing.
We are scarred with power!
Thank you so much!!!
Inspiring and relatable. Wonderful💕🙌💕👏👏👏💕
Thank you so much Grace! Happy August!
I have a bunch around my hips and my babies weren’t large. It just happens. I do dress modestly but not because of that ~ I’m a 61 year old grandma and no longer feel comfortable in anything too revealing…
You are absolutely right.. it just happens. Someting so natural should not be looked down upon. I really pray that more women grow to love each scar.
You might be 61 but wear what makes you feel good! I had no idea you were 61. You look amazing!!!
Thank you!!! 😘
Scars are a sign of surviving a trial. Be it childbirth, surgery or something else. Wear them proudly.
Amen Sadje 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💜💜💜
🙌🏾👏🏾👌🏾 Yes! If someone’s waiting for me to cover up some scars, they’ll be waiting a mighty long time. I love this, Bella!
Amen girl! Don’t waste your time on waiting for me to show shame or anything else! Keep it movin boo 🙌🏽
All the way moving. Lol!
from neil peart of rush fame quote scars of pleasure and of pain atmospheric differences yet again! voila.
We need to embrace our scars. They testify to the fact we are survivors.
Excellent post, dear. The more I read your posts, the more I am impressed with them. I admire your honest opinion and sharing amazing articles and stories. Keep up the great work. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
awwww you just touched my heart! Thank you for saying that!!!💜
Great post beautiful 😍
There’s my girl!!!!!! Hey boo💜💜💜 How are you?
Good beautiful 😍 busy and good 👍 starting to find more time for writing feels so good!
Love this post
You go girl!!! ❤️💜😀
Thank you girlfriend! 💜 I’m so happy to see that you’re back. Missed you!
“I love every mark on my body and will never allow society to tell me how to feel about myself.” Perfect, empowering, and inspirational, are you. ❤️
Jeff you are the best! Thank you so much for reading my friend.
Awww, you’re so kind, thank you; and, you’re most welcome. Always!
BOOYAH girlfriend! 🤜🏼🤛🏼 I earned my scars and because of them, physical and spiritual, I am stronger as a result. You go girl!!!! 😍💋😁💖😊🥂🌞
Amen girl!!!!!! So sick of people trying to shame you and making ya feel uncomfortable. Time out for all of that!💪🏽😍💜🙌🏽
You’re right, ain’t nobody got time for that! 😂😜😲😆🤣
I absolutely love this post. I also didn’t get any stretch marks until the end of my pregnancy. My daughter was only 7 lb and 13 oz but I’m a pretty tiny person! My mom looks at pictures from when I was pregnant and still says she was surprised I wasn’t having triplets!!! Haha. I actually feel worse about them now that she’s out of me, at the wrong angle they kind of look like Freddy Krueger’s face 👀 but I’ve stopped being one to judge another woman’s body… So why am I still so judgmental of my own??? I needed to read this.
She was worth every scar! But I know you know that. I think we are our own worse critics and I don’t know why. We can see a woman and think wow she’s beautiful and then look at ourselves and say yuck! We will find every flaw and pick it a part.
I learned to stop doing that because my girls see and hear everything I do and say. So I make sure I speak highly of myself and in return I started to believe what I wanted them to believe.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment! 💜🙌🏽
Ten pounds! Wow! And worth every damn scar. I love this. We should not be defined by a society that worships flawless skin. We are flawed, disfigured, and fabulous! Hugs, C
Amen!!!!! We are all that and then some and still fabulous 😍
Yes she was HUGE 😳 by far my largest baby!
My largest was 9 pounds 4 ounces! I thought he looked like a three month old at birth. 💕
Yesss🤣🤣🤣 I always say the same thing. They truly look like 3 months old babies.
A wise man love their woman. Our scars, honored part of us. Each one, a story to be told.
Amen John!! Great man you are 💜
Thank you Franco🙏🏽
Glad they don’t bother you. I used to tell my girlfriend when she worried over them: ‘they are just kissing spots, that’s all, pathways for planting kisses.’
Oh trust me it took a agreeaat deaal of time for me to be comfortable. I’m not good with change!