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My Heart Broke A Little

He could barely eat his dinner, so he sat in his chair with his head on the table and his hands resting on top of his head!

Here’s How It Started

On October 31, 2023, my husband left work early so he could get ahead of the rush hour traffic. He went to the store to pick up a few Halloween goodies and came rushing through the garage door. 

As he walked in, he put down his lunch box and briefcase and looked around for our daughter. He called out her name and received no answer, so he called out her name again and skipped up the stairs.

When I heard him looking for her, I said: “Oh, she’s not here.”

He said, “Oh, let me go get her from basketball practice.

And I’ll never forget the look on his face when I told him that I picked her up from basketball and drove her to where a big group of her friends were meeting up to trick or treat together.

His shoulders dropped, and he said, “She’s gone”?

At that moment, I knew that he rushed home so he could walk with her around the neighborhood as she trick or treated with her friends.

In between going back and forth to the door and passing out candy, we sat at the table eating dinner. Well, I ate, and he was there with his head down. When I touched the top of his head, I said, “Are you sad”? He nodded, and after a brief while, he told me that he was so used to taking the kids out on Halloween, and now, just like that, it’s over.

When I looked at his bright, sad eyes, my heart dropped a little.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

109 Replies to “My Heart Broke A Little”

  1. I totally sympathize with your husband. Those transitions are hard, especially during the holidays when you’re used to a certain tradition, until your kids tell you “nah.” (“What, you don’t want to sit on Santa’s lap anymore for a picture?”) I hope your daughter had fun with her friends! After all, it’s a sign they’re growing up when they start doing things with people in their age group instead of with their parents. But it’s difficult to be the parent watching their child walk away on their own. Warm wishes for you and your family.

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    1. Thank you for this! It is really hard, being a parent is the best but also the hardest. Learning to let go is rough but as you stated it’s a great sign that your kiddos are able, ready and capable of moving on. Thank you again.

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  7. Awwww Queen B! 😥 Letting go is pretty tough and here you have your baby growing up faster than you could imagine. But it won’t be long that you two are going to have an empty nest, just you, your husband, and Larry! 😜 That’s when you guys get an RV and hit the road, embarking on a new chapter in your lives, because your chilins’ are going to be living theirs. They will probably be surprised that you two are still doing fun things together, but snipping the apron strings ain’t easy. Y’all are gonna be just fine. It may not look like that right this moment, but you will!!! 🤗👍🏼🙆🏽‍♀️

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    1. Thank you girlie, it sure ain’t easy and we are going to soak up these last 5 years with her as much as possible. When we are empty nesters I might be a workaholic for a few years and then ease into letting up a little.

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      1. Girlfriend, you are a true Mama Cancerian. As one of my aunts used to say back in the day, you ain’t gonna let no grass grow under your feet! Of course, I don’t think my aunt realize that grass won’t grow where it is being stiffed. That would be dead grass under your feet or a fungus. 😲 Now that I am rethinking that, maybe she meant that she was not going to be a cast member of The Walking Dead! Oh well, never mind! 🤣😱😜😆😂

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  11. I am so sorry my dear friend. They always come back if they know they are loved. It is a hard transition but you will be fine my friend. I will pray and I am sure you do too. I am so sorry my kind friend. Love you 🥰

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      1. Blessings dear Belladonna. I remember those days my daughter’s was doing her last year in Madrid. It was hard. Empty nest is a real phenomenon. Sorry sweetie. Love and my prayers sweetie. ❤️🌹🤗🙏

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  12. I know this feeling. Most parents know this feeling.
    It’s the empty in empty nesters.

    I love this share. Your husband is a good human. Here’s me bowing 🙇🏽‍♀️ to him. I know a trio of good men like him.
    Thanks for posting this. Lovely. Be well.

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  13. That is really sad… I think it was harder because there was no warning, so he’d been dreaming about it and then hit with disappointment. If it was me, that would have been the worst.

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  24. have fun with them now cause they grow up and move away. I remember asking my daughter Nikita, “I can’t wait for you to come back home from Waco Texas,” as she got her Masters in Music at Baylor, and she told me “Papa, I am staying here.” I was so heartbroken. I know the feeling. She still lives there with her husband Chason and my two grandsons Parker and Taylor. And we go visit every so often. by plane or road trip.

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    2. Art that is going too happen to us one day too and I dread it!!!!!!! How do they expect us to deal with all these rapid changes? Just get back home to us already!!!! LOL
      Sending you positive vibes, parenting is rough.

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  26. I feel a lot of empathy toward your husband over this because I’ve been through it twice over now. Not just Halloween, but all of those moments you though you had more time with your children and you weren’t ready for it to be over. I don’t know if I said that right, but I was the mom who got teary when I discovered their clothes didn’t fit on children sized hangers anymore. LOL I’m so thankful to be their mom, and I look back on all those milestones with a small, inward smile, and joyous heart.

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  27. Poor dad! It’s hard when your youngest is sadly at that age where they no longer what to hang with us but it’s all about their friend circle! We still hold on tight to our youngest for as long as we can until the moment he thinks we’re lame! 🤪

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