We all have two options!
We can choose to change our family structure or keep it as it is.
There are going to be many people reading this post who come from strong family units. If that is the case with you, please keep your family unit strong and bonded.
If you were brought up in dysfunction and chaos and in a household where blood meant absolutely nothing, then it is up to you to make blood mean something. To carry on that type of generational curse will only lead to further separation of family and continual disrespect.
Enough is ENOUGH! Blood should mean something, and it’s worth fighting for.
You might not be able to change the dynamic of you and your siblings, but you can enforce the importance of family to your children. You are letting them know that we are all we have, and if one should fall, then there will always be four of us to pick you up.
There are only a few things worse than feeling like you are drowning in a deep pool of water without anyone around to throw you a raft, and those things are out of your control. Drowning when you have family is ridiculous, and there isn’t any excuse for that to happen.
Like many others, I have experienced those deep waters, and I know there are a few folks who would have loved to see me drown. But the thing is, when God gives you favor, drowning is no longer part of the equation. With favor comes a built-in raft, safety jacket, and a few folks who will always have their hands extended to pull you to safety.
Life hits differently when blood begins to mean something. It makes all the bad memories fade away, and your focus becomes more evident- as does the path to success.
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
~Belladonna~


Family is very important to me! I firmly believe in the saying that blood is thicker than water, xo
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Yes Carol, that’s exactly how I feel! Love that saying.
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I have been blessed with a wonderful family through many generations. I do not take it for granted and I hope I have instilled this important link to my kids.
I am pretty sure I have, actually 🙂
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You are blessed!!!!!!!!!
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Very much so!
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Meaningful post, Belladonna. Family is vital and so are boundaries. I’ve found blood in friendships that mean the world to me as well❤️❤️
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Yes Cindy me too! I consider that a big blessing. God knows what we need and who need.
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❤️❤️
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Excellent article and I also believe that loyalty builds another type of family.
Family by blood lineage…..thicker than water.
Family by loyalty lineage …..sometimes stronger than blood and sad to say thicker too.
Great reading.
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Amen Amen Amen!!!!! I like how you stated that. I couldn’t agree with you more.
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Thank you and stay relevant. Blessings.
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This is a powerful post, thank you for sharing.
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I appreciate you!!!! Thank you so much
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You are very welcome!! I hope you having a fantastic week!
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You too Stella!
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I totally agree with you when you say: “You might not be able to change the dynamic of you and your siblings, but you can enforce the importance of family to your children.” When my sons and I arrived here in the USA, I had to fight against my own family to hold us together. It was a long struggle.
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Rosaliene I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. Fighting with family can make you feel so defeated at times.
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It sure does 😦
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Great message, Belladonna. 💕🙏💕
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Thank you so much Grace!
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My pleasure 💕
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AMEN Queen B. Excellent message which is extremely relevant these days. Thanks girlfriend. 😊🙏🏽🤗
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Thank you so much sis!!!!!
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You’re welcome ladybug. My pleasure as always!!! 🥰💖🤗
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Sometimes, you have to flip the script and start over with your children.
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Amen Molly! You are right on.
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Blood definitely means something to most of us, it’s important to stay close to those we love. Great post!
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Thanks girlie! This world is too cold to not have family to lean on.
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You’re very welcome and I so agree!
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Great message sis! 🌹💞
“Family over everything! It’s means a lot to me.”
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Thanks girlie!!!! You go that right! Over everything.
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this is my dad and his family. there was a huge fight.argument about 4 decades ago, and dad and them haven’t even spoken since..I oddly enough still do…I pointed out to him at some point it’ll be too late to make amends…and now, he’s lost his parents, two brothers and one sister, with one sister left…so much water under the bridge right….they used to do everything together the parties, the memories, now nothing..luckily my sister and I are good…even though she does vote for Trump we’re still friends..we just never talk politics
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This is sadly the case for so many! So sad!
Warren you are right, avoid talking politics. I definitely do as much as possible. Trump can split up families and friends, just a jerk to the core.
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Wow! Wonderful post! Family means a lot, thank’s for share dear Bella.
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Thank you so much beautiful!
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Always a pleasure visit your blog dear Bella! Have a wonderful beginning of the month.
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You and your husband, have built a beautiful family; no lifeline needed, blood is thicker than water! I hear you, and have lived through a chaotic upbringing. My last, (water under the bridge,) was a reflection on part of that! Well said!
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Thank you so much Warren! It’s tough to bounce back fromna chaotic upbring but feels so good when wwew beat the odds.
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You’re welcome!
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I belong somewhere in the middle. My father was a great dad and kept us all connected. Now he’s gone almost 20 years and it’s my job to keep in contact with my brothers.
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I know you are making your father proud!!
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Thanks my friend
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You’re welcome!
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I know what you mean, it seems to be something diluted in this modern age – blood should mean a lot but nowadays that importance seems lost more than ever.
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Simon ain’t that the truth!!!! So damn sad to this happening.
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It is but one way or the other blood relationships can be so toxic… I dunno…
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They sure can be…..I know that to well!
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That’s a shame…
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This right here is so important! Family is everything! I grew up in a strong, close-knit family. But my children didn’t until we left, I became a single parent. But I was a registered nurse, so we were okay. Just some super long hours sometimes because I was a Hospice RN Case Manager. Anyway, when I got remarried, it was to one of my best friends from high school. The kids were in their teens, but they loved the Mister right away and they saw how a spouse and children should be treated. Now my daughter is married, and she and her husband have the 3 Littles now. They are strong and my daughter is raising a tight-knit family that is close to me, the Mister, and her brother. I’m so, so happy.
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I love this!!!!! What an inspiring person you are and your kiddos are so lucky to have been raised by a woman that makes things happen.
I hope you have given yourself a pat on the back. And I can’t even imagine being a hospice RN case manager. That has to be a heavy job.
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Awwww thank you, Belladonna. You are so sweet. It’s a heavy job, but I learned so much from my patients and their families. And that is priceless. xoxo
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You’re welcome! You have been blessed to have great people in your life.
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Yes, I feel blessed in many ways. 🙂 xo
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That’s a wonderful feeling.
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Completely agree. Hugs, C
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Thank you Cheryl!
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Family bonds, whether through blood lineage or not, can be nursed, nourished, and sustained at whatever stage of life we’re in. ❤️
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That’s very true💖💖💖
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This is true. My brother is my best friend . I couldn’t deal with all the calamity in our family unit without him. Things are better in our family because we really worked on it. I’m grateful for my family .
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this is so great! So happy to know that some families are ready to put in the work.
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Thank you. Yes! It’s important. We only have one to start with. It would be a shame to completely disagree with them and cut off communication. The idea of that destroys my heart
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Yes, the cut off is rough!
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It sure is!
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Well penned, Belladonna! Family is a good support system.
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Thank you KK, they sure are!
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You’re welcome!
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Blood means everything to me, when it comes to being a parent. 💞 It is a joy to follow your blog and witness your strong family bond, Coach B.
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Thank you Beautiful!!! Being a parent is such a beautiful gift. So glad we met on here, totally see you as family.
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You are very welcome. I feel the same. Thanks, Coach. 😊🙏🏻
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Very strong Very powerful. I’ve had mixed results in family and a few great friends however this is a must read. Bless and respect your soul
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Thank you so much for that! I too have experienced the same as you.
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Bless your soul
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