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What Do You Mean You Can’t FORGIVE?

Oh, so you never made a mistake or did a thing wrong?

Daily writing prompt
What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?
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This question is right on time because there was a time in my life when I held on to grudges and never forgot how badly I was done wrong. Whenever I thought about these individuals, I wished for nothing but the worst for them. 

Well, that is until I took a good long look at yours truly and said, Who the hell do you think you are?

Not being able to forgive people for making a mistake is a HUGE RED FLAG. 

We all make mistakes and should be forgiven for mistakes, especially if it was a misunderstanding. We have to get better at asking questions and being straightforward. And more importantly, we have to stop talking behind each other’s backs.

RED FLAG PERSONALITY TRAIT

When you live your life thinking others don’t deserve your time to clear up misunderstandings is a red flag for sure.

No one is above anyone else. We all make mistakes, some bigger than others, but still a mistake. It takes a mature person to sit, listen, and talk through whatever was done that hurt you. However, making a habit out of disregarding people becomes part of who you are. 

The longer you continue to do this, the harder it becomes to erase this from your personality.

I know this to be true because I was guilty of having this behavior become a massive part of my personality. It was a toxic trait, and teaching myself to give others mercy and grace took a lot of time. In saying that, I find it hard to forgive if you continue to mistreat me or harm someone I love.

We can all work towards forgiveness and open my heart to allowing love and light to come in.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

53 Replies to “What Do You Mean You Can’t FORGIVE?”

  1. This one really struck me, Belladonna. I can be quite resentful though I am truly working on it. I can easily forgive a mistake but it’s so tough when it’s a repetitive offense. So difficult at times. Great thought provoking post.💕🙏💕

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    1. Grace, I’m with you! It’s so tough for repent offenders and I chosse to forgive but put them far away from me. It hurts my productivity I continue to think badly or wish bad upon them. Girl it puts me in a bad mood!
      Forgiveness is hard!

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      1. Oh absolutely. I guess I actually do forgive, I just erase along with forgiveness. No ill will or good wishes for that matter, just a neutral lack of thought. That’s how I can honestly say I handle these situations.💕

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  2. This bit right here …

    “In saying that, I find it hard to forgive if you continue to mistreat me or harm someone I love.”

    The Bible says, and I’m paraphrasing, to forgive not 7 times but 70 times 7, and I’m typically like, “Uh, you’ve gotten 3 chances, how many more times will you continue to hurt me if I allow it?” And I have to draw the line somewhere.

    I can forgive you, but I’ll have to walk away and leave you alone. Certain behaviors after a certain amount of time are not a person practicing, it’s them being who they truly are.

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    1. This why God is almighty and the one we should praise because if you do me wrong 7 times, I’m coming for yo neck!!
      Girl I have to put that person for away from me and out of my head permanently!!!!

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  4. It’s commendable that you have acknowledged this toxic trait and made a conscious effort to change. Forgiveness is a powerful tool that allows us to let go of negativity and make room for love and light in our lives. However, it’s also important to set boundaries and protect ourselves from continued mistreatment.

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  7. Forgiveness does not excuse what the person did to you, it frees you from being bound to them. What’s hardest is forgiving someone who hasn’t asked forgiveness or doesn’t think they’ve done anything wrong. But you must, if only to free yourself. And it’s hard, I know this first hand.

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    1. Ohhhh Kymber you have touched on a huge part of my podcast. Girl that is the thing,it’s so hard to forgive when they haven’t asked for forgiveness and doesn’t think they’ve done anything wrong. Thank you so much for adding that!

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  8. Really interesting post! For me it depends because I don’t think everyone deserves forgiveness but if someone seems like they’re holding on to past stuff and it’s effecting them then that’s a red flag. If they find some things unforgivable but have worked past it and moved on I don’t really mind.

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  9. In the words of T.D. Jakes: “Unforgiveness denies the victim the possibility of parole and leaves them stuck in the prison of what was, incarcerating them in their trauma and relinquishing the chance to escape beyond the pain.”

    Good post Belladonna! 🙏🏼

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  13. Grudges are emotional suckers.
    You can forgive behaviour, for sure. If it is something particularly difficult, it does not mean you have to keep them in your life, however. You can forgive them and wish them well on their journey in another direction…

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  14. I’ve never been one for grudges, even as a youth, and I’ve had lots of betrayals. Maybe, because I’ve been in church, from the moment I could walk, and had a full love relationship with my Heavenly Father, from the age 15. My father denied me, his first born, from birth, but yet now; out of All the kids he has, I’m the Only one, that has a relationship with him, and supports him monetarily! FORGIVENESS, has never been a struggle for me, and my heart! Blessings to you, my sister!

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  20. It depend your behavior after your wrong deed to me that will determine if I can forgive you or frown forever. If you refuse to accept your evil deed against me or ask for forgiveness, there is no way I can forgive u, and that is me. Apology breeds forgiveness.

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