Put That AWAY

Anybody can do the right thing on a Monday. But can you do right on a Friday? Read More

Birthday Girl

I am so grateful to have made it to see another year! I feel like this year will be the best year ever. I have sewed a lot of seeds, and now I wait. Read More

Strong Women Will!

Women stay strong and know that every time you fall, you have another real woman to help you up.

This will always be factual if you only allow realness in your circle.

I get so frustrated when I see strong women put each other down and compete compete compete; it’s as if we don’t realize that we are stronger together. Read More

Take Me As I am

I get so frustrated when I see people transform into something they aren’t just so they can get the attention of whom they desire.

Do you know how amazing you are?

I mean, do you realize that there isn’t anyone else alive like you? You are powerful, sharp, breathtakingly gorgeous, and have the capability of being anything you want to be. Read More

This seat is taken

Stop trying to be someone else!!! Why is this so hard to do? I mean, can we just stop looking at each other and taking notes. Be you, Be DIFFERENT. Trying to fit in is one thing, but trying to take on the personality or tone of another is flat out ridiculous. I tell my kids to be different. Do not conform to predigested thoughts and ideas. BE YOU.

Do you realize how taxing it is to try to be someone other than yourself? You are always in competition with someone and coming up short. At some point, you have to come to understand that sit is already taken. Find out why you are so unhappy with you and fix it.

Over the summer, my daughter and I watched a great deal of Catfish. This is a televised show on MTV/Hulu. Catfish is about people taking on the face/personality of someone else and fooling people over social media. The Catfish usually take photos of someone that they don’t know personally, but they like what they see. They know that by using this person’s picture, they will attract the type of person that they desperately desire to be. I genuinely feel that the catfish actually start to feel better about themselves when they are portraying to be someone else.

I am always sad after the show. Okay, so here comes Nev and Max with the Victim (the person that was catfished), and they knock on the catfish door and out walks a blue sole.  I can not tell you how many times an overweight person walks out the door with their head down and looking so pitiful. The Catfish usually will say,
“I know that I am not what you expected and I am so sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you, but I loved how it felt when you desired to be with me, and I knew if you saw me you wouldn’t want to talk to me anymore.” The catfish continues with, ” Everything about our relationship was real EXCEPT, I’m not who you thought I was.”

I just want to reach in that TV and grab the catfish and tell them that they are enough.  Spend time and work on your internal self. Once you love yourself and remove anyone and anything that reminds you of what you use to be or even worse, what you never were but what they wanted you to be. Stop trying to be someone else and stand in your truth, and love it.

It is incredible how good you feel about yourself when you start to eat clean, workout and start to better yourself mentally. For sure, it is okay to have someone that motivates you to be better, but don’t take it to an unhealthy place.

I speak from a familiar place, I wasn’t always confident. I felt like I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, or talented enough. I always wanted to change things about me that would make me a little more desirable. But then I realized that feeling this way about myself is a waste of time. I’m losing valuable time, I’m losing at life. So I decided to stop focusing on the things that I hated about me and instead what I LOVE. My confidence and self-love grew. I stopped looking at the already taken seat and sat in my own….wearing my crown and all.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored.

~Belladonna~

Loving Who You Are

In order to change yourself, you have to LOVE yourself. Respecting where you are in your life is the most significant step you have to take to evolve. The day that you take a good look at all, your blessings are the day that you can create a better life. Being ashamed of the way you look and how much weight your carrying is the absolute wrong approach. Read More

My Body Hates Me

Today marks day 11 of my 30 challenge, and my body is feeling it. When I woke up this morning, I tried to lift my head up, and I struggled. So I laid back down and had to reason with God. Asking him to please give the strength to lift my big head off the pillow. Read More

Gratitude! 1018 Views

I welcome everyone new to Belladonna’s Flashlight and for everyone else, Thank you for staying! I hope you enjoy being apart of the fam and will continue to read and join in on discussions. I love hearing from you all. Read More

One Last Cry…​Maybe?

I’m having a moment today, and the tears are streaming down my entire existence. It is happening more and more, and I can’t control it, so I figure let me put on a sad song and look at old pictures so I can really enjoy my cry. Read More

Let The Weightloss Begin​

I refuse to lose this Holiday Season! I know what you are thinking, it’s only August “so why I am thinking about the holidays”?. Well, I”ll tell you why. Because I like food and I can’t wait to start making my Halloween meals and goodies and then roll right into the Thanksgiving and Christmas Season. So here’s the thing, I have been known to go to bed stuffed with all types of delicious entrees and then wake up full and sluggish.

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