5 Tips That Will Prevent You From Becoming A Drunk While Raising Your Son

 

When my son was 2 I thought that I was going to pull my hair out. I have never in my life seen something move so fast and destroy the house in seconds. I learned quickly to only buy decorations from the Dollar Store because they won’t be around long. As soon as my human tornado saw a new decorative item it was as good as gone. But he was a little curly head cutie and I could not stop kissing him and squeezing his fat squishy body. But the squishy body started to grow and grow and grow and lean out.

My curly head cute tornado turned into a stunning teenage boy. But dear God give me strength because he is still a tornado. Just in a different way. Put it this way when it is time for spring break, summer break, Christmas break or any other break I sigh with RELIEF! I am exhausted from holding my foot up this boy’s behind. One year I was so upset with his grades and I said to him, “Boy I think you are purposely trying to kill me”. That might sound dramatic but I am so freaking serious. That is how I felt.

He is brilliant but lazy. When he studies he gets 96% or 92% on EVERYTHING and then he gets comfortable and it’s downhill from there and I want to scream!!

However, over the years these 5 basic tips have relieved my stress and prevented me from becoming a crack head or alcoholic.

  1. Stay firm no matter how cute you think they are. At the end of the day, cuteness doesn’t matter. I’m looking skin deep. My end goal for my son is to become a productive and well educated GOOD man. I refuse to have a grown man still depending on me financially. As long as my son lives under my roof I will sacrifice and make sure he has everything he needs to succeed. But then he is expected to use all the tools we gave him.
  2. Make him stay connected with the Lord. The bible will just instill good values and make them want to be a good person and be mindful of the feelings of others
  3. KEEP them in sports or any extracurricular activity that will take a good deal of their time. You have to keep them busy and teach them time management. Sitting around playing video games and looking like a damn zombie at the screen will not teach them a thing.
  4. Don’t let them date until they are able to control their mood swings. If you let their all over the place mood meet up with another teenager that has major uncontrollable moods then you are in for a world of danger. You have these two annoying kids feeding off of each other and making their moods even more darkened. What’s worse than 1 crazy? Yeah, you guessed 2 crazies!
  5. Don’t give up not even on their darkest days. Let them know that they are loved but you expect greatness and respect. Make sure they know that you will not let that death grip go.

When I tell you that I will die for my son, I mean that with my whole heart. If I have to go without so that he can have then that’s what I will do. When I had children I knew that I was going to raise them the best I could and pray that they become better than me. So when you see them slide it breaks your heart. But if I have to grab him up by the collar and stare at him while he is in class in order to make sure he is doing the right thing. Then guess what? That’s what I will do.  I refuse to have him slide to the point of no return.

I’ll keep you all posted on his progress.

You could have chose to read any blog but you chose mine and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

The Best Broccoli​ Cheese Soup

It’s cold outside and we all need something warm to eat. I can’t think of anything better right now than soup. But let’s make it fun and skip using a bowl for our soup. Follow me into the kitchen to see what I mean.

So,  I love to make my meals fun for my family. They enjoy when I take a few extra minutes in order to spice it up a bit. I like the look on their face when they walk into the kitchen and see something so simple and think it’s so great. I get most of my ideas from different restaurants and I think of the fun ways they serve their meals and then recreate it at home.

The recreation today was broccoli cheese soup with a bread bowl.

Ingredients -Makes 6 soup bowls

20 minutes to prep and 20 minutes to cook

  • 1 large onion
  • 2 cups carrots
  • 2 cups of milk
  • 2 cups chicken stock
  • 2 heads of broccoli (florets only)
  • 1 stalk of celery
  • 2 cups sharp cheddar cheese
  • seasonings Salt and pepper
  • 2 tbs butter
  • 3 tbs olive oil
  • 3 tbs flour

I love to go to the store and hope that they are out of the bread that I want so they can make it fresh. If I ask they will do it regardless. They treat me well because I’m always there.

In a small pan pour in olive oil and saute the onion. Cook for 5 minutes until it is translucent. In a large pan add flour and butter until blended. Add in milk, stock, onions, and all the other diced vegetables. I use a food processor because I prefer small pieces of vegetables in my soup. Season lightly with salt and pepper and let simmer for 20. Add cheese and serve when melted.

Cut the bread bowl in a circle and take the top off. Pull a small amount of the bread out from the inside and start filling it up with your delicious soup.

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I’m honored.

~Belladonna~

 

The Best Broccoli​ Cheese Sou

It’s cold outside and we all need something warm to eat. I can’t think of anything better right now than soup. But let’s make it fun and skip using a bowl for our soup. Follow me into the kitchen to see what I mean.

So,  I love to make my meals fun for my family. They enjoy when I take a few extra minutes in order to spice it up a bit. I like the look on their face when they walk into the kitchen and see something so simple and think it’s so great. I get most of my ideas from different restaurants and I think of the fun ways they serve their meals and then recreate it at home.

The recreation today was broccoli cheese soup with a bread bowl.

Ingredients -Makes 6 soup bowls

20 minutes to prep and 20 minutes to cook

  • 1 large onion
  • 2 cups carrots
  • 2 cups of milk
  • 2 cups chicken stock
  • 2 heads of broccoli (florets only)
  • 1 stalk of celery
  • 2 cups sharp cheddar cheese
  • seasonings Salt and pepper
  • 2 tbs butter
  • 3 tbs olive oil
  • 3 tbs flour

I love to go to the store and hope that they are out of the bread that I want so they can make it fresh. If I ask they will do it regardless. They treat me well because I’m always there.

In a small pan pour in olive oil and saute the onion. Cook for 5 minutes until it is translucent. In a large pan add flour and butter until blended. Add in milk, stock, onions, and all the other diced vegetables. I use a food processor because I prefer small pieces of vegetables in my soup. Season lightly with salt and pepper and let simmer for 20. Add cheese and serve when melted.

Cut the bread bowl in a circle and take the top off. Pull a small amount of the bread out from the inside and start filling it up with your delicious soup.

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I’m honored.

~Belladonna~

 

One Year Down…​Thank You For Giving Me A Chance

It has officially been 1 year since I started this particular blog and I have been welcomed into the blog world with open arms. I have to admit that every time I write something I second guess myself. I wonder if it’s interesting enough to get you to come back and view another post. I always try to just be myself and that alone is scary.

I remember when I first started my blog I was approached by a well known public figure and he gave me THE BEST pointer. He told me if I wanted my blog to be successive then I had to remain truthful to myself. Choose topics that hit me deep in my core and then just go. Talk the way I do every day, and make sure my personality is present at all times. When he told me this I said well what if people don’t like me or what I have to say?

He responded, “Do you have friends”? “Do they like to engage with you”? “After 17 years does your husband still like you and engage with you”? But most importantly “Do you like you and find yourself interesting”? I thought fair enough!

So here we go! My content is going to be bananas this year, filled with food, diets, crafts, workouts, real talk, and my Life. I am elated to welcome you all to my world.

I know that there are thousands and thousands of blogs that you could have joined or read but you chose mine and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

Transforming My Life

Last week I embarked on a journey that is sure to change my life. I started Transform 20 and let me tell you, it might only be 20 minutes but you are down in it without any breaks. A modification is encouraged if you need a break, BUT don’t STOP!

Shaun T is the creator of this workout so you know you are going to be rolling your eyes and wanting to kick over the TV.

Or is that just me?

I Have to admit that I have a Love, Hate relationship with that man. He will push you and I swear I am cursing him out the entire time. I remember the first that I worked out to his Insanity program I thought to myself, this man has lost his mind. But I quickly became hooked. Insanity helped me get into the best shape of my life. My last baby was turning 2 and I was determined to tweak this crickety body back to what it once was. Shockingly I was able to accomplish my goal with hard work and a kick butt nutrition plan.

So then life happened and homegirl put back on some unwanted pounds but I had fun doing it. Zero regrets because I am blessed to be able to move and go back to where I was. But the sad fact is……I’m older, which means my metabolism died. Okay maybe it didn’t die. But it definitely had one foot in the grave.

I am depending on Shaun T to save me and my clients. Shaun T pushes me to be my best and then I return push my clients. Well most of them, my older clients would run me over if I tried Transform 20 with them.

Here is a sneak peak of the 1st week of the program. If you like what you see and would like to change your body with me then leave me your email/phone number.

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

Kung Po Chicken Stir Fry

I cook every day, and I hate repeating meals. I would prefer not to cook if I stand at the stove and recreate the same boring dish. Do you feel like that? Trust me, I know that it is difficult to be creative when you are busy with work, shuffling kids around to sports and other extracurricular activities. But if you are striving to have a healthy diet, then you need to put time aside for cooking.

The most important part of your diet is food, 80% to be exact and 20 % for exercise. I have been alive long enough to know that killing yourself in the gym and then coming home and eating any and everything that you lay your hands on will hinder your progress. Your determination to be a healthier version of you will quickly spiral and sink to all new low. So keep fresh vegetables, chicken thighs, salmon, real butter, and a good pot on deck!

Ingredients

  • 1- 1 1/2 cups of PF Chang Kung Po Sauce
  • 12 Chicken Thighs
  • 2 Green Peppers
  • 2 Red Peppers
  • 1 Large Onion
  • Extra Virgin Olive Oil
  • Black pepper
  • Cumin
  • Oregano
  • Lawrys
  • 2 Heads of Broccoli
  • 1 Head of Cauliflower
  • 1/2 Bag of mini carrots and cut in half
  • 3 cups of spinach
  • 3- 4 cups of Brown Rice
  • Green Beans
  • Salmon is also an awesome substitute for the chicken thighs

You have the option of cooking your brown rice in the same pot with all other ingredients or solo. I also will alleviate the chicken broth many times when making this meal. The meat will create so much liquid that adding more seems pointless.

Place pot on medium heat, add seasoned Chicken thighs, cook for 5 minutes on both sides. Add all veggies, cover, and place on low heat.

In separate pot prepare rice (according to package directions) or add to the chicken, once it is completely cooked and all veggies are tender. If there isn’t enough liquid in the pot add 2 cus of low sodium chicken broth. add rice and cook on low for 40 minutes. Pour Kung Po Sauce over the entire one-pot mixture. slowly stir and serve.

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I’m honored.

~BellaDonna~

OMG This Pizza

Happy Monday!

If you are not having a happy Monday yet, I bet you will after you eat this pizza. I have literally made pizza for the last 18 years and I thought that I nailed the recipe. But I didn’t…not at all. My skills have hit a whole new level and I am patting myself on the back.

So buckle in and watch this video and make sure you follow every step. If you do then you will want to send me money every week because I have just given you meaning to your life! I’m serious, my address will be listed below and I accept small and big bills.

Listed Ingredients

  • 2 packs of active yeast
  • 2cups of hot water
  • 4 tbsp of olive oil
  • 4 cups of flour
  • 2tsp of salt
  • plastic wrap
  • onion
  • bell pepper
  • ham
  • pepperoni
  • pasta sauce
  •  fresh mozzarella
  • When you’re watching the video please pay attention to how I put olive oil all on top of the crust and pushed fingerprints all around the crust. The olive oil will help the crust turn a pretty honey color and the fingerprints will make the pizza rise evenly.
  • Bake crust on 375 degrees for 15- 20 minutes and then add toppings. Bake for additional 15 minutes.

    You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I am honored!

    ~BellaDonna~

    2019 I Welcome You

    It’s a New Year and the beginning of the rest of your life. I don’t know about you but I love January 1st. This is my chance to refocus and reconnect with things and people that I am passionate about. I can brush up my visionary board and look at the things that I accomplished and things that still are waiting patiently for me to get to.

    What are some of the things you want to accomplish this year? Please let me know and remember that nothing is too big or out of reach. Dream BIG and work HARD. If you have anyone in your life that doesn’t fit into those plans then politely boot them to the curb and move ahead.

    This is your time to be great and to give thanks to God for blessing you with another moment. Another day. Another year. Make use of your time an dive into your passion…NO EXCUSES! Don’t waste time thinking about your plan too much because you will find that you have talked yourself right out of your dreams and aspirations. Trust me, I have done this many times and I learned the hard way. I have had plans then slowly told myself not today, not right now.

    On this day January 1st, 2019, I tell myself why not today, why not right now, why not me! I am my biggest cheerleader and my biggest dream killer. I over think and suffer because I put myself on the back burner. But in 2018 I started living for Kelli and what she wants to do. Best decision I ever made. I planted seeds like it wasn’t nobodies business. Sometimes I felt like I was all over the place but I listened to God and just moved according to his plan.

    2019 I welcome you with my head held high, arms reaching out to grab my blessings and a heart filled with praise.

    I’m ready yall!

    You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and Im honored!

    ~BellaDonna~