I’m Crushing On ME

Hey, you sexy, gorgeous, sophisticated, well-educated love muffin!
Who me?
Yes, you!

What if you woke up every day and looked in the mirror and said;
“Damnnnnn girl, you are fine.
You just woke up and have bed head but still killing the game.
You are one sexy Lady!”

Can you imagine if you said this? Your day would be fantastic. But chances are you are doing just the opposite. We have a terrible habit of being so hard ourselves. Continually looking at fat that we want to lose or hair that we wish was different. The list is never-ending.

So as of today, I demand that you STOP!!! Be your own Women Crush Wednesday and then choose to crush on you every single day!

Don’t wait to be somebody else’s crush when you can be your own. I love when I see women that are bold and know that when they walk into a room…they own it. Be the kind of woman that isn’t intimidated to take a seat at a table full of powerful men. Know that you are their equal or superior. Don’t let anyone take away your voice and self-worth. I am a huge believer that you are as strong as you believe you are.

I’m a visionary, dreamer, and an optimist. It took me years to get this way. Once upon a time, I would get so furious when I saw someone looking at me. I automatically thought that they were thinking something gut-wrenching about me. So I would give them the glare of death and well its safe to say if they were thinking something positive they weren’t anymore.

I became exhausted from this way of life, and I knew that I needed to inject change immediately. I started to love myself and remove self-doubt. I know that I’m intelligent, I’m a good person, and I would give anyone the shirt off of my back. I stopped fantasying about changing my view of myself and wanting to be the type of woman that I admired. I started to repeat the following to myself and I now do it on a regular basis:

I will always and forever…………

Be that woman
Be that bold
Be that brave

Be your Woman Crush EVERYDAY but since it is Wednesday…claim it!

Happy Woman Crush Wednesday

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Jumbo Stuffed Pasta 🐚

My love for Italian food is ridiculously crazy. If I don’t make it once a week, then you know something is wrong with me. I have made everything from Manicotti to Baked Ziti, Ravioli, Tortellini, Lasagna, Italian Meatballs, and everything in between. Did I already say that I LOVE pasta? Oh okay, I think you get it.

If you follow me on Instagram and check out my insta stories you will see that I make pizza a lot. I make it so much that I can do it in my sleep. So based on that you might think that pizza is my favorite Italian meal. NOPE! You would be wrong.

Hands-down one of my favorite meals to try are stuffed jumbo shells. I have had them stuffed with cottage cheese and spinach, lobster, shrimp, ground beef, and Italian sausage. There is an endless number of options! But let me tell you two secrets to having a fantastic shell.

Step one….. do not overcook the shell that is the absolute worst thing you can do. Overcooking your shell’s will cause them to become limp and making it impossible for your ingredients to stay inside.

Step two…..stuff the heavens out of your shells. No one wants a half stuffed shell at least not me!!!


  • One box of Jumbo Shells
  • 6 cups fresh spinach
  • 2 cups cottage cheese
  • Two teaspoons Black pepper
  • Teaspoon Salt
  • 8 ounces of mozzarella cheese
  • Parmesan cheese

Boil your pasta shells for 5 minutes and set aside to cool.

In a heated pan add olive oil and sauté your spinach.

Any large bowl mix cottage cheese, mozzarella cheese, black pepper, salt, and spinach.

Begin to stuff shells 🐚, place them in your pan and drizzle with olive oil.

Cover and Bake on 375° for 20 minutes

Uncover and broil for two minutes.

Please refer to my previous post on amping up bottled pasta sauce or making homemade sauce.

To complete your meal add either my crusted Parmesan salmon Or fettuccine, thin pasta noodles or baked chicken.

I always add a large Caesar salad with this meal. Just adds that bit of a crunch that you need.

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No Comparison

We are living in a superficial society. Who has the best butt on Instagram or the best breast? What part of me should I expose so that I can get more followers and get that one person to notice me and “Fall in Love”.  We are always comparing ourselves to the next person. Please believe me when I tell you that males do this too.

Instagram is flooded with some of the most beautiful people in the world and trying to keep up with filtered images can be tiresome. Trust me I know. I am so guilty of scrolling and scrolling and then questioning my entire existence. I remember this one day I was feeling so good about me. I was having a good hair day, my thighs were looking more firm because of all my squats. Don’t even get me started on how my stomach was looking flatter and I saw a couple of ABS exposing themselves. Then I did the unthinkable…. I opened Instagram!!!!

Instantly, I became fat, not so attractive, my makeup looked as if a blind man applied it. Needless to say, I felt like I needed a complete makeover. But that isn’t even the worse part.  I kept scrolling and read uplifting, positive posts and then I felt like hmm, okay it’s not just my external that is in need of a makeover but my internal as well. At this point, I need an entire redo of my whole self!

I don’t know about you but I hate feeling like I’m not good enough.  When deep down you know that you are. We are so hard on ourselves and I think it comes naturally to most of us to give compliments and praise. Then look down on ourselves.

So let’s flip the script and make a pledge right now.

Close your eyes, take a deep breath in and exhale

  • Give yourself 5 compliments.
  • Make a quick mental check of things that you are good at
  • What are the things that come naturally to you and others may find difficult to do
  • What are the things that make you happy (what energizes you)

Once I started to do this and think positive about myself I felt like I was winning. There isn’t one picture of someone else that can make me question my worth. Not internally nor externally. I’m able to scroll through IG and maintain my confidence.

Oh, and did I mention that I’m a mother of 3! Two of which are teenagers and need a mother that is confident and not second-guessing herself. My main job as a mother is to teach them to be self-confident. So in order to do that, I think I need to be as well.

If you aren’t able to see the beauty in you then stop scrolling and back away from social media! You have been warned.

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To Weigh Or Not To Weigh

l use to wake up every morning and hop right on the scale. I let that insignificant mood snatching scale ruin my day or make my day. I’M SICK OF IT!!!!! So I say to hell with the scale. Take your life back!  Start a challenge with a group of friends like I did and just go….make yourself give up all the foods that are BAD for your body.

Make sure you are surrounding yourself with people that will ignite your soul. They will energize your desire to be better. Let’s keep it real…. having friends on the same mission is less expensive than hiring a nutritionist or a personal trainer. However, if it is in your budget than of course utilize their services! Great way to guide you in the appropriate direction.ABC18489-7A0A-4443-8F84-20D30B6A8B17

I have worked with a wide range of clients that needed to lose 10 pounds to 100 pounds, were battling depression, diabetes, kidney failure, recovering from strokes, post partum depression, menopause, teenage blues, recovering drug abusers and alcoholics.  All of these groups of people could not be more different but they all have one thing in common.  The one thing is battling weight.

We are all trying to accomplish the same goal, but we need to approach it differently.  We all need to take steps that are custom made for us. Stop comparing yourself to everyone and stay off the scale!!!

Figure out what works best for your body and be kind to yourself.  Losing weight and getting healthy is a process. So enjoy it!

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Apple Crisp Goodness

I am in LOVE with this dessert and I am trying not to make this everyday.  The key to this dessert is letting your apples soak in sparkling apple cider for at least an hour in the refrigerator. So if you want to make this the day before you desire to eat it, then that would be perfect.

Eat this dessert warm with a big scoop of your favorite ice cream.

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Bake: 375 degrees for 30 minutes

Apple Crisp

  • 6 Red Apples
  • Apple Cider
  • 1/2 cup of brown sugar
  • 3 table spoons of cinnamon
  • 4 tbls of butter


  •  2 tablespoons butter, softened
  •  1/2 cup self-rising flour
  • 1/2 cup sugar
  • Pinch salt
  • Pinch ground ginger
  • 1 egg, beat

Misery Loves Company

So you thought that I would let you come into my life and drag me down to your level? So you thought that It would be easy to get me to swallow predigested thoughts and feelings? I bet I surprised you…huh? You see when God made me, he made a force, a tornado, a tsunami. The only thing that can control and move me….IS ME. My strength will either scare you or motivate you.

Sad to say, I wasn’t always this way. I had to be broken before I could be royal. No matter what heartache or disappointment I go through on any given day, I remind myself that I am royal.

It took a long time for me to have confidence and determination, The things that gave me hope and an escape were denied to me. I held a grudge for years, hell I still do at times. But I press on. Now that I am in control of my on desires I take full advantage of my freedom.

From an early age I knew I was different. I knew my opinions, views, outlook on life and desires were unlike others that I knew personally. You see when I was a young girl I knew that I wasn’t supposed to be denied the right to live out my passion. I knew that I wasn’t suppose to be in a young relationship with someone that talked about me, hit me and treated me less than human. You better believe when I made my move I never looked back. I knew that certain people in my life were miserable and wanted me to be the same.
The funny thing is, I thought that, the phrase “misery loves company” referred to youngsters but so not the case. I see misery on a daily basis (between adults) within my career and in a variety of other areas. I am faced with people on the daily, that would rather see you fall and bust your face wide open then to see you get ahead in life. Whether you are getting ahead financially, physically, or spiritually it bothers the broken spirits that you surround yourself with.

The only time you will win is when you get real with yourself and start weeding out each and every individual that are celebrating your failures. Weed out the ones that are happy to see you just be mediocre…like them. Weed out the ones that are trying to get you to stop doing something you love. Weed out the people that are okay if they hurt you. You should not feel hurt, discomfort, pain or confusion if you are around people that truly care about YOU!

Let misery keep itself company! You are ROYAL….

Happy Thoughts and Positive Actions Will Lead to a Healthy Life!