I’m Crushing On ME

Hey, you sexy, gorgeous, sophisticated, well-educated love muffin!
Who me?
Yes, you!
OKAAYYYY then……HEYYYYY!

What if you woke up every day and looked in the mirror and said;
“Damnnnnn girl, you are fine.
You just woke up and have bed head but still killing the game.
You are one sexy Lady!”

Can you imagine if you said this? Your day would be fantastic. But chances are you are doing just the opposite. We have a terrible habit of being so hard ourselves. Continually looking at fat that we want to lose or hair that we wish was different. The list is never-ending.

So as of today, I demand that you STOP!!! Be your own Women Crush Wednesday and then choose to crush on you every single day!

Don’t wait to be somebody else’s crush when you can be your own. I love when I see women that are bold and know that when they walk into a room…they own it. Be the kind of woman that isn’t intimidated to take a seat at a table full of powerful men. Know that you are their equal or superior. Don’t let anyone take away your voice and self-worth. I am a huge believer that you are as strong as you believe you are.

I’m a visionary, dreamer, and an optimist. It took me years to get this way. Once upon a time, I would get so furious when I saw someone looking at me. I automatically thought that they were thinking something gut-wrenching about me. So I would give them the glare of death and well its safe to say if they were thinking something positive they weren’t anymore.


I became exhausted from this way of life, and I knew that I needed to inject change immediately. I started to love myself and remove self-doubt. I know that I’m intelligent, I’m a good person, and I would give anyone the shirt off of my back. I stopped fantasying about changing my view of myself and wanting to be the type of woman that I admired. I started to repeat the following to myself and I now do it on a regular basis:

I will always and forever…………

Be that woman
Be that bold
Be that brave

Be your Woman Crush EVERYDAY but since it is Wednesday…claim it!

Happy Woman Crush Wednesday

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~BellaDonna~

No Comparison

We are living in a superficial society. Who has the best butt on Instagram or the best breast? What part of me should I expose so that I can get more followers and get that one person to notice me and “Fall in Love”.  We are always comparing ourselves to the next person. Please believe me when I tell you that males do this too.

Instagram is flooded with some of the most beautiful people in the world and trying to keep up with filtered images can be tiresome. Trust me I know. I am so guilty of scrolling and scrolling and then questioning my entire existence. I remember this one day I was feeling so good about me. I was having a good hair day, my thighs were looking more firm because of all my squats. Don’t even get me started on how my stomach was looking flatter and I saw a couple of ABS exposing themselves. Then I did the unthinkable…. I opened Instagram!!!!

Instantly, I became fat, not so attractive, my makeup looked as if a blind man applied it. Needless to say, I felt like I needed a complete makeover. But that isn’t even the worse part.  I kept scrolling and read uplifting, positive posts and then I felt like hmm, okay it’s not just my external that is in need of a makeover but my internal as well. At this point, I need an entire redo of my whole self!

I don’t know about you but I hate feeling like I’m not good enough.  When deep down you know that you are. We are so hard on ourselves and I think it comes naturally to most of us to give compliments and praise. Then look down on ourselves.

So let’s flip the script and make a pledge right now.

Close your eyes, take a deep breath in and exhale

  • Give yourself 5 compliments.
  • Make a quick mental check of things that you are good at
  • What are the things that come naturally to you and others may find difficult to do
  • What are the things that make you happy (what energizes you)

Once I started to do this and think positive about myself I felt like I was winning. There isn’t one picture of someone else that can make me question my worth. Not internally nor externally. I’m able to scroll through IG and maintain my confidence.

Oh, and did I mention that I’m a mother of 3! Two of which are teenagers and need a mother that is confident and not second-guessing herself. My main job as a mother is to teach them to be self-confident. So in order to do that, I think I need to be as well.

If you aren’t able to see the beauty in you then stop scrolling and back away from social media! You have been warned.

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I’m honored!

~BellaDonna~