Some people are natural-born leaders, and others are not so much!
There are a lot of mixed feelings about followers. They have a not-so-flattering reputation for being weak, which is beyond wrong. If we were all leaders, too many type-A personalities would roam around butting heads.
When I was young, I thought being a follower meant, “If my dear friend or someone I thought highly of jumped off the bridge, then I would jump too.” Now I know that sounds beyond stupid, but I was told followers were weak and brainlessly did what they saw and were told. But aren’t we all followers?
I mean, we can’t lead all the time, can we?
We would leave little to no room to learn if we were always leading. And we know from good leaders. In fact, if you want to be a good leader, you need to learn from just that.
Not long ago, I wrote a poem titled, Walk mE homE. That poem demonstrated that I want to trust and hold my husband’s hand when I need him most. I follow him when I need guidance, and he follows me when he needs the same.
Contrary to popular belief, Being a follower alone does not make you weak. However, the types of people that you follow are more of an indicator of your strength or weakness. When you choose to follow people that will enhance your intellectual, spiritual, and financial self (only to name a few), you choose to do this not because you’re weak. But more so because you are aware of what you need to grow.
So the question is, Are you a leader or a follower? My answer is I’m both.
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
83 Replies to “Weak Where?”
I’m definitely a follower 🙂
That’s a good thing!!
Reminds me of that song…
“Follow me where I go, what I do, who I know
Make it part of you to be a part of me
Follow me up and down all the way
Take my hand and say you’ll follow me” As a baby boomer I was groomed to follow and I’ve had to unlearn much of this training and explore my leaderships skills on occasion. Nevertheless, I’m often most comfortable following. Great topic, hugs, C
Great song!!!!! From reading your blog for so long and your book it seems like you have a great balance. Knowing when to follow and doing a hell of a job as leader with your kids and writing. I really liked this prompt. Hugs to you!!!
I agree Belladonna. I am both as well. There is a time and purpose for each role. When you grow in wisdom, you will know when it it time to take on which role. That last quote is spot on. I have not encountered a “great” leader who encouraged independent thinking and creativity unless they were in a bind. 😝
Yes Kym, when you know you know! Following can lead to something great.
You said it sistah! When you know, you KNOW! We live and we learn, and we learn some more, and we learn some more!!! 🤔👩🏽🏫👩🏽🎓
Even if I’m first to blaze a path not taken before, I still follow to where my soul is called.
I’m both as well, Belladonna.
That’s a great way to be. Thank you so much for reading Rosaliene.
Wow! Wow! Great post!
Dear Belladonna, follow your blog it’s an honor to me.
Thank’s for share, nice evening!
That is so nice!!! You warm my heart Elvira!
Aww! Thank’s dear Belladonna.
I am mixing with a leader and a follower when I do any project then I am leader when I work under someone then follower 😄
I think every strong leader knows when it is the right time to step back and let others lead. 🌟 Every parent should be a leader with the flexibility to know when to follow their children.
Michele that’s exaclty what my next bloog will touch on. Knowing when to lead and follow your kids.
Excellent direction! I look forward to it. I enjoy your posts! 😊
Thank you so much Michele!
Yes, a wise person is both.
Amen to that!
Like your answer and had similar experience when I was young. Later in the company I turned to a leader, based on social and engineering skills.
Nice!!!!! That’s how you become a leader. Congratulations!!!
Yes, but I’m not the one who becomes a leader. Not like a boss in a company. 😃👋
one day, you never know!
Love this! Absolutely agree with your words 🙏
Thank you so much Careena!
A good point, Belladonna! I prefer a mix of the two, as situation demands.
Thank you KK, yes the same!
I tend to go into leader mode, but can follow if the leader has a plan
I’m the same LA!
It is a cycle. Every leader was a follower, again when you are going to learn again (in any of the fields, either concept, skills, etc.)
you become a follower
Leader is not a word or a position. it matters your attitude
Yep. A good leader knows how to follow.
Very wise words, here. I agree. We all do both, at times, and following someone is not a weakness. Unless they are not worthy of being followed, but that’s a whole different subject.
LOL exactly! Some aare definitely worth following. Thank you so much for reading.
I’m both depending on the situation and how much I care about getting my way. It’s good to be adaptable, I figure.
You are exactly right!
I think a lot of us are both, it just depends on the context!
I feel the same way Pooja!
Proud to say, I’m both. It all depends on circumstances!
I am neither. I just sit and make a fuss about my problems 🌝
Well sometimes that’s our best option at the time.
I feel its not the situation to get the best or the worst out of you
Thank you for reading!
Thank you for reading
This was a good read. I am both. 🙂
Thank you 😊
That’s a great way to be 🙌🏽
Such a great post.
Thank you so much!!!!
I am a Labour leader
Oh wow that sounds like a great career!
Leaders are not born but made. I believe to become a good leader we have to become a good followers first. Well written
Excatly! Thank you so much!
This is a good blog
Very insightful words 👏
Thank you so much!
Good article, I read it well.
I like this post , we supposed to know that what leader really mean is being at the service of others.in other words a slave
Well maybe not a slave but definitely a generoous person.
I agree 100%. Also, there are positions in life where you have to be a leader, like being a mother, and positions in which you must be a follower, like a soldier in the military.
I am both.