You need to know where I’ve been to judge where I’m at!
It’s so damn easy for people to look at someone and assume things about them. For example, we can see someone overweight and think we know their whole story; “They must be lazy and eat all day.” However, they could be battling for their lives and on medication that stabilizes/improves their condition, or maybe just maybe, you are seeing them after they lost a massive amount of weight and they’re still on their weight loss journey.
My goal is to keep judgment turned on me and no one else. I don’t know your story, so who am I to judge you?
There are people that are breaking generational curses right now, and all we see is the midway point, and we are ready to judge. We don’t know where they have been and what hole they had to climb out of to make it to the point they’re at today.
We don’t know who nor why someone battled addiction, depression, or abuse. However, negative Nancy’s are quick to jump to conclusions. If you can’t be a positive influence or cheerleader, choose to be nothing. Keep assumptions, opinions, and negativity to yourself.
The world needs fewer assumptions and more understanding. Hug someone and show love.
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
38 Replies to “One word is all I GOT ~4/12/23~”
Wonderful truths, Belladonna . Absolutely agree. 💕🙌💕
Thank you so much Grace!
My pleasure 💕
So true, Belladonna!!!
I think we should simply rid ourselves of the habit of commenting on other people’s looks/bodies. We just don’t know what is going on with them or how they may be struggling!
That’s right!!! it’s just being a bully and I hate that!
So true! I resonate with you.
Thank you KK!
Whoop, there it is! Thank you for this message Belladonna. It reminds me of The Temptations song “If You’re Livin’ in a Glass House, Don’t Throw No Stones!” 🤜🏼🤛🏼
YESSSSSS! Perfect song for this. I know I’m putting my stone right on down.
Girl, I had to hide mine! 😜 I’ll run across those suckers one day!!! LOL 😂🏡🌞
Yep, it’s all about understanding. Judge less, listen more.
That’s right Ally!
Ditto! If you can’t say anything nice… Hugs, C
Yep just zip it! Hugs to you my beautiful friend.
Right! Thank you Matt!
If you can’t be a positive influence or cheerleader, choose to be nothing – I love this said straight like that!!!
Thank you so much!!!! I’m still so happy to have you back!
Wow! Wow! Wow! Amazing post! As always dear Belladonna, you are very wise…
It´s true, if we just, get in the other’s shoes or dress or life…
Thank’s for shre it. Have a lovely evening!
Thank you Elvira!! You are so right, if we haven’t walked in their shoes then stay quiet!
Thank’s dear Belladonna.
Agree! Have a lovely day!
Very apt . We tend to forget but this post is a n awakener.
Thank you sos much! I hate to see someone being put down.
Two powerful words, “I understand” that show empathy and compassion. More of that needed, yes!
I couldn’t agree more!!!
I’m terrible at noticing if a friend has gained or lost weight (unless they double in size or shrink half their size). A friend once said she had gained weight since she last saw me. I wasn’t being polite when I said I hadn’t noticed. Haha. I really don’t pay attention to these things.
I’m the same way. LOL
I know my weight is all over the place at times and I would have for someone to point it out.
Very true! 👌
Fabulous reminders that speak to how we truly never know what someone else is going through and have no right to make those harsh judgments that can destroy lives . . . <3
Yes Layla that’s exactly it!!! Judging folks is so wrong to me and doesn’t feel good when I’m being judged.
It’s so much easier to be kind💖💖💖
Don’t judge yourself either. Look inward, reflect, and heal, but don’t judge.
Exactly Susi! Thank you for adding that.