Never allow anyone or anything to disrupt your peace. No one is worth your peace of mind.
If it’s hard for you to say NO, know this one thing, you aren’t alone. Millions of people struggle with that one little word, and I used to be one of them.
But I learned in a quick, fast and in hurry to become comfortable with disappointing people by saying NO!
You need to say no as often as you need to! I do, and it has saved my marriage and prevented me from being a terrible mom focused on everything else but raising productive human beings.
There will be people who try to interfere with things they know matter to you. For instance, they may try to intrude upon your family, goals, peace, and time. But, of course, they’ll do it with the hopes of either trying to break up the good things you have going on in your life or because they are bored and too selfish to understand that you are busy!
Now you can start nicely by saying, No, thank you, but if they keep pushing you to commit to something you don’t want to do well, then that’s when you stand your ground and say the following.
I said what I said
Did I stutter
Go on now
Don’t let the doe hit ya where the good Lord split ya
Raise up out my face
Don’t make me repeat myself
You are disrupting my peace
You are not a part of the equation
My goals come before you
I could go on and on, but I think you get my point.
Say NO as often as you need to, and know that your time is precious and should not be wasted on anything that doesn’t serve a higher purpose in your life.
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
96 Replies to “The Art Of Saying NO ~Stand your GROUND~”
Amen! And it’s best not to make excuses, however tempting, I have found, because people will try to grind them down. Just “sorry I can’t” is good enough!
Yes it should be enough. But I have had annoying people that I had to let go because they were bored and wanted to hang out. I’m to old with too many responbitlites to hang out. That’s just crazy to me.
Love this, Belladonna. Your comebacks are too funny. I’m still cracking up at some.💕🤣🤣🤣💕
LOL! Thank you. I couldn’t stop laughing as I wrote it down. I’ve said all of the comebacks before. LOL
Thank you! 💖
Always welcome 💕
Love it 💕🤣🤣🤣💕
Boo, some of us can give “No” with our faces and folks UNDERSTAND clearly. Lol.
I know that’s right!!! 😂😂😂
No one and Nothing is worth the peace of your mind – I carved this deeper still within for myself. It is so easy to slip off from this and it is most important truly.
It is so easy to feel guilty if you keep saying no. But once I learned how to be comfortable with it, that’s all that comes out now. LOL
Peace comes first for sure and I know you get it!
Haha yes that is a beautiful comfort – such power it gives back :))
Yes!!!! For sure 🙌🏽💖
When I saw this writing prompt on my homepage my first thought was “All of the freaking time lately and I prefer it that way.”😜🤣
Wow! Wow! Agree with you dear Belladonna! Wonderful post!
Never mind anything don’t waite your time… You are a wise woman!
Thank’s for share it. Have a lovely time!
Thank you beautiful! It’s so awful when you waste your time doing things that you know you don’t really want too do.
Always a pleasure dear.
Exactly! Thank’s for share.
My dearest Sweet Bella, had you published this post six years ago, when I first got erratic heart and pulse problem when I almost died due to an abusive bastard called husband, ‘I would have had the courage to say get lost and go to hell. Despite my seriously ill health, he begged me to give another chance. I was very stupid to do so because in India, people almost try not to let the abused lady walk out to safety because of their idiotic thinking that your husband is your God. Unless he throws you out of his house (even if the fault lies with him,) don’t leave for the sake of children. This mentality is found in nearly 80 % South Indian families, suppressing women, treating them like garbage and men are treated like royals. So, this time again ‘I had heart problem, but said Goodbye to him, taking away daughter with me. He comes daily to visit me and probably try convincing me to get back to him. But my hurt self respect and need to care of my child from being verbally and Physically, my answer is a big NO. Finally, very happy to walk out of his life. ❤❤❤😊😊😊😊
Aparna you have me in tears right now. I’m so sorry that you had to indure such abuse and I am so proud of you for breaking norms and thinking of yourself and your daughter. You are giving her strength and courage and the wisdom to know her worth. She is going to helo make this world a better place because of YOU!!!!!!
Thank you for sharing this and I am beyond proud to know you!!!
Like you, it used to be hard for me to say, no. I’ve learned to say yes to my peace. ✨
Amen!!!! Michele it was almost impulsive for me to say YES. I would say it before processing what I said yes to. Most of the time I was apart of everything my childrens school asked me to be a part of and finally I started saying no and that felt marvelous!!!
Yes! 😁 I understand. Until a few years ago, I gave most of myself to everyone and everything else. It feels both strange and good to give to myself. It is a process. 💐
It’s definitely a process! I tried working on telling my kids no but…..not so easy 🤦🏽♀️
😂 Hard to say no to the kiddos. I have one to not say no to, you have three! 😅
When we don’t want to do something, a polite but firm no should do it
It should! But some people act like they are hard of hearing.
They think they know better than us.
That’s really difficult to say.
But Beautiful Post ✨
Thank you! It is but the more you say the more fun it becomes. LOL
You are right ✨❤️
ive me your number
Thanks for your post. Nice post
I am reading this book at present The Art Of Saying No by Damon Zahariades which is just meant for me. I will recommend this book to all who suffer from the same disease as me.
Oh that’s so good!!!!!! I’m glad you are reading this and I know you come out feeling so empowered! Kudos to you my friend.
I do struggle with this… it get’s on my wick because even when I say no it’s like… Dude did not just say that!
Simon don’t feel bad for it! The more you say the better you feel. YOU come first!!! Never forget that my friend.
I’m doing my best 🙂
And that’s good enough🙌🏽💞
Will I let this advice go in one ear and out the other ?, No.
LOLOLOL Thank you Matt!!!!!
Girl, after I say no the first time, don’t think I am going to continue saying it like you are some dog who needs a command. After finally having the nerve to say “no” when I thought I didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, even though they were hurting mine…girlfriend, I’m good now! So “Bye Felicia, Natasha, LaSquasha, Karen, Broomhilda, Georgie Porgie Pudding and Pie and anyone else!” No, to all the B.S.-ers out there! 😝🤣🤭
I am HOLLERIN 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank you so much!
Saying no is a trait that someone needs to have. Don’t make any excuses as it would make things worse
Yes for sure!
I really like this, wonderful thoughts
God over everything
You’re welcome 🤗
Absolutely right…it is AMAZINGGG
Like it ❤️
Thank you so much!!!
If you have a peaceful mind everything becomes easier.
I love ❤️ your opening statement! Well said 👏
Thank you so much!!!
What helped me to say no eventually was to put a $ value on my time. How much would I be willing to waste is what it boiled down to. In addition, determine if it whatever it is would add value to you yourself, add value to your family (however that resembles) and lastly, does it add value to your community. If it doesn’t hit the mark on every single point for me, I say no, and I do it firmly and confidently now.
Oh wow Susi!!!! I love that!
When you put it that way it makes it clear as the day what you need to say no to. Thank you for sharing that.
You’re welcome, happy it made sense for you, Belladonna! 🙂
It sure did! Thank you for sharinng Susi!
You’re welcome! 🙂
Thank you for stopping by.
I am facing this these days I want to say no to people without hesitation I feel like I might hurt them but I am learning gradually.
If saying yes hurts you then say no! You come first. I used to find it difficult to say no.