No one told me I could

If you were born into a family that constantly and forcefully told you, “YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS,” Consequently, you would grow up knowing the power you have.

The odds of you ending up in jail, in poverty, or being a menace to society would be much lower than someone that was never told they could do hard things.

We need our leadership to be filled with new young faces. We need them to come from all cultures and backgrounds. We need our doctors, surgeons, lawyers, engineers, architects, philosophers, educators, etc., to look like the melting pot we are. But that can only happen if we all know our options.

There are too many adults that can say, “I ended up doing what I’m doing because I didn’t know my options; NO ONE TOLD ME I COULD.”


The other day in the city, I saw a lady and her five children sitting on the sidewalk. Their backs were against a concrete slab, and they covered their trembling bodies with thick blankets. 

The mom was holding a sign that said;

“Looking for work so I can feed my kids.”

She kept her head down as strangers gave her money. I stood where I could see her so I could see if she would lift her head up. 

But she never did!

Not only did she keep her head down and look ashamed to be in this predicament, but she never asked for money. Instead, she was asking for a job. She wasn’t looking to put a bandaid on her situation but for a permanent fix. She needed a job that would ensure a steady income, enabling her to have housing and safety for her kids.

In my eyes, her sign made her unique, and at that moment, I wanted nothing more than a job that I could offer her and to gently lift her head up where it belongs. I wanted to reach out to her children and let them know all their possibilities in this world. They can be our future President, a scientist, an educator, a surgeon, or anything they desire. 

With hard work and dedication, all things are possible.

If no one ever told you, you could then hear me say; YOU CAN!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!


49 Replies to “No one told me I could”

  1. Anyone can have hard times. It is possible to land back on your feet. You are right that we need people in leadership positions that reflect the melting pot we live in.

  2. You said so much here Bella. I’m old enough to remember when the conversation was about having younger people in these positions of power and that was during the Reagan administration! All this time later and we’re still talking about this, which is insane.

    Your story time is powerful in its message. We need to stop shutting people out and shutting voices down. Because if not now, when?

  3. Wow, such a sad story, but what an interesting woman that she was more concerned about a job than money. And yes, you are so right, her children need to know that all things are possible. Despite their modest start, who knows, maybe we’re looking at a future president. Let’s hope. Thank you for your kind and giving heart.

    1. Isn’t that a fantastic thought! When I saw her and her kids I didn’t feel like they were less than but I saw these beautiful people that are filled with possibilities.

  4. Such a motivating post, that’s the kind of mentality that we all should have. Hard times are there to make us strong and resilient. Am sure the homeless woman is not afraid of being broke, she’s afraid of how the future would be if she won’t have steady income to support her family. That’s why she’s looking for a job

  5. Beautifully put Belladonna. 🙏🏼 In the sadness of seeing such an emotional situation, there are always possibilities, even when it seems like they are not. Most people are not looking for a handout, just a chance. Each one, reach one, teach one. Thanks for sharing my friend. 🤗💖😘

  6. Very heart touching post, dear Bella. ❤❤❤❤😊😊😊. Your posts are always awesome. Love reading them.

  7. man…what can you say……there are so many moms out their like that….moms living in cars with their kids, even with a job, minimum wages arn’t going to cut it….how can people be so hard, how can it be so hard…

  8. Belladonna, you bring such compassion and wisdom into our lives. No one wants a hand out, they want meaningful work that can support a family. In a country with such vast resources there should never be a child that goes to bed (or sleep) hungry. Hugs, C

    1. Thank you Cheryl!!! I couldn’t agree kore and it blows my mind that we have so many kids that don’t know where their next meal will come from. That hurts!

  9. Thanks dear for this. Honestly writing, when I was so little I desired to be someone great in this life. When no one told me I could be what I envisioned, I told myself I can be whoever I chose to be. When most of the people around me kept pulling my dreams down, I kept going. I knew what I wanted. So, I read hard. Worked hard and kept to my dreams. I can’t say I have really reached where I wanted to be or want to be but am blessed, am here today and am getting there. Surely, I CAN. With God all things are possible. He entrusted me with these desires for a reason. Yes, I Can.

    1. You better preach today!!!!!! Amen Amen Amen!
      You can do all things, when God gives you the vision no man can take it away. You know where you are headed and will get there on your own time. Thank you for sharing this with me 🙏🏽

  10. I love this so much. The motto Samara and I have adopted from the time she was small is “We can do hard things”. I always want her to know or be reminded that she can do and be whatever she wants. This is a great post!🤘🔥💯

  11. “With hard work and dedication, all things are possible” Love this, and I completely agree with you! We also need our leaders to tell people they can do it, to role mode creating possibility in life. We can close gaps this way, and be an inspiration for others to follow. Happy weekend, Belladonna! 💜

  12. Sometimes when you are that far down, the only one to get you back up is yourself. It does take a family member or a good friend or even a stranger to show a path. Teach me to fish and I eat for a lifetime. Give me a fish and I eat for the day. Thank your for your compassion. There are many more homeless everyday as prices rise with inflation. In Florida, housing is so expensive that if you have not bought or are settled in, you will struggle as rents continue to rise.

  13. You better preach today!!!!!! Amen Amen Amen!
    You can do all things, when God gives you the vision no man can take it away. You know where you are headed and will get there on your own time. Thank you for sharing this with me 🙏🏽

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