We are living in a superficial society. Who has the best butt on Instagram or the best breast?
What part of me should I expose to get more followers and get that one person to notice me and “Fall in Love.” We are constantly comparing ourselves to the next person. Please believe me when I tell you that males do this too.
Instagram is flooded with some of the most beautiful people globally, and trying to keep up with filtered images can be tiresome. Trust me, I know. I am so guilty of scrolling and scrolling and then questioning my entire existence. I remember this one day; I was feeling so good about myself. I was having a good hair day; my thighs looked more firm because of all my squats. Don’t even get me started on how my stomach looked flatter, and I saw a couple of ABS exposing themselves. Then I did the unthinkable… I opened Instagram!!!!
Instantly, I became fat and not so attractive; my makeup looked as if a blind man had applied it. Needless to say, I felt like I needed a complete makeover. But that isn’t even the worse part. I kept scrolling and read uplifting, positive posts, and then I felt like, hmm, okay, it’s not just my external that needs a makeover but my internal as well. At this point, I need an entire redo of my whole self!
I don’t know about you, but I hate feeling like I’m not good enough. When deep down, you know that you are. We are so hard on ourselves, and I think it comes naturally to most of us to give compliments and praise. Then look down on ourselves.
So let’s flip the script and make a pledge right now.
Close your eyes, take a deep breath in, and exhale
- Give yourself 5 compliments.
- Make a quick mental check of things that you are good at
- What are the things that come naturally to you and others may find challenging to do
- What are the things that make you happy (what energizes you)
Once I started to do this and think positive about myself, I felt like I was winning. There isn’t one picture of someone else that can make me question my worth. Not internally nor externally. I’m able to scroll through IG and maintain my confidence.
If you can’t see the beauty in yourself, stop scrolling and back away from social media! You have been warned.
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
32 Replies to “NO Comparison”
Bella, you look beautiful.
Thank you so much!!!
More than welcome 😊
I love this post❤️ I think it was Theodore Roosevelt who said “Comparison is the thief of joy” – it completely resonates with me and encourages me just to happily be me! Wonderful post – thank you 🙏 ❤️
I love that quote!!! Thank you for sharing that.
I don’t have Insta or TikTok partly for these reasons. Also, so much of that is fake anyway (like the Kardashians)…
plz follow me and me followed you blog ❤️🙏
I agree Mr. Jay! Thank you so much for stopping by and I’m on my way to your blog now.
tnq for my friends ❤️🙏❤️💐
Oh girl yes!!!!! They are the ring leaders of fake fake fake!
I deleted my Instagram account a year ago. It’s such a time killer. People posts the best of the best pictures of them with lots of filters and glam on them which makes me feel depressed about myself. I’m happy with the way I am and I became more aware and happy about myself throughout this year. Thanks again…Mom 🙂
Awwww you should feel so good about you. My beautiful new daughter!!!
I wish you say something about this post of mine.
Wonderful affirmations, Belladonna. Totally get the social medi, Insta, scrolling. It’s so important to remember we are whole and complete just as we are, and are beautiful, and amazing. Have a wondeful coming week! ❤️
Yes Jeff!!!! Thank you my friend for always dropping wisdom.
Yep girlfriend, it can be a buzzkill if you buy into the superficial foolishness of the self-centeredness and narcissism we all too often see on social media. Don’t buy into the hype and endless “filters.” Do you, be you! AMEN!!! 😉💖😘
YES!!!! I preach that to my kids daily!
Love how authentic you are. Honestly it’s so admirable 🥰
Wow!! What an awesome thing to say. Thank you 😊
Good advice. I will try to follow. No. There is no try. There is only do. Sorry, I got a little Yoda in me.
Thank you Art! We all have to do better and we will.
Your authenticity is admirable ❤️❤️
You have made my day, Thank you for saying that.
My pleasure, dear!
What a great post! Love the guidance. Such an important message for everyone. You rock Belladonna!
That means a lot to me. Thank you for that Brian 🙏🏽
Aww, that’s nothing. You’re the one who wrote the great post! Have a wonderful week!
🤍🤍🤍🤍 Thank you Brian! Have a great week
No comparison. Best advise.