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Here ya go Quote of the day
In my younger years, I was my worse critic!
It didn’t matter what I accomplished; I still felt as though I could do better. I knew that I could be better in every aspect of my life. I was constantly in search of “perfection,” whatever that meant. While I was criticizing myself, I realized that prompted me to seek validation from others. I needed constant reassurance.
Because of my past insecurities is why I now talk a lot about the importance of loving yourself and making time for self-care. The way you like/love yourself is the most significant like/love you will ever get.
We spend our entire lives looking at others, putting them up on a pedestal. Then look at ourselves and point to everything we hate. Everything we desire to change. Everything we wish we were either born with or born without. The wish list goes on and on until it reaches the point of no return.
Do you feel better when you reach the dead-end?
Probably not! I’m sure you don’t, especially if you didn’t receive the proper validation you needed, or at least you thought you needed it. And even if you did receive it, that joy will only last you until you need another quick fix.
Social media is all about the “Quick fix.”
Feeling down~ post a pic.
Feeling like a loser~post a pic with a caption listing your accomplishments
Feeling poor~ post a pic of you getting on a plane
Feeling ugly~ use a filter
Then you wait for the likes to roll in. Depending on each like to tap deep into your soul and make you feel like the King or Queen you want to be.
But let me tell you something, true joy will only come once you start liking yourself. Like yourself irrespective of your financial status. Like yourself irrespective of your weight. Like yourself irrespective of your romantic life (or lack thereof). Like yourself irrespective of what anyone thinks of you.
As long as you like you, all the other likes are extra.
Finish off your week knowing that you are already the badass that you desire to be. YOU ARE THERE… own it and like it!
I like you… but my like is EXTRA.
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
37 Replies to “That Like Is Extra”
Belladonna, I think most of us have been our own worst critic. 😲 We have been conditioned to work hard and be as perfect as possible. That’s where the stress comes in and we feel we are never good enough. But when you do your best and you know you’ve done your best, even if you came a little short of your so called perfection, then you can’t beat yourself up. 🥊
I learned, albeit much later in life, that I was trying to please others more than myself, and that’s why I heavily critiqued myself horrifically. Oh, but girlfriend, not any more. Too much freaking stress! That’s the way I like it! 😁🙏🏽🥰🦋🤗💝😘
Wisdom!!!!! Thank you for adding that. It’s so important for people to know that striving for perfection is unrealistic. We get one chance at this life so go easy in yourself and try hard to be happy, even on the difficult days.
AMEN girlfriend! I am so there with you! 👏🏼🤗💐🤔🦋💃🏽💖
“As long as you like you, all the other likes are extra.” I think that sums things up pretty well.
Amen!!! Your like is the only like that truly counts🙌🏾💖
You said it all, Perfectly 💛✨
Very good point Belladonna, we need to be comfortable in our own skin.
Yes we do! I know it’s tough but it becomes easier when we position ourselves with people that show love, give love and are a walking example of positivity ♥️😍
This is so true and very well narrated. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much and I appreciate your comment.
○Feeling poor~ post a pic of you getting on a plane°○
○Feeling ugly~ use a filter○
Painful , but hilarious. You cracked me up.
What more do i have to say that’s not been said here already.
The beat goes on
Open up to learning
To love yourself
It’s truly amazing what we find when we open the cage
A jolt to the memory that we are wonderfully made.
Not everyone is going to love you the way you are
But that’s there problem if they cant see the wonderful and magnificent of you.
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 AMEN!!!!!! Others can see what they won’t… who cares. We were designed for us to like us 😍
Wow! Wonderfuk post! It’s true, we need to accept our selves first…
Dear Belladonna, thank’s for share, you are very wise.
Awww thank you Elvira! Happy Monday my friend.
Thank’s my friend Belladonna.
Such truth spoken!
Thank you so much and welcome to my blog, I hope I see you again.
As you like yourself all other likes are extra. Such a motivational one.
Thank you, I appreciate that so much!
I’m still my own worst critic but working on it. I like you, Belladonna.
Thank you Crystal, and I like you too!
You hit the nail on the head Belladonna. I read your posting description and here’s what I thought: “please like me, like me, like me. Oh darn they don’t like me. Oh, wait, awww, now they like me. All better now.” Yes, yes, we need to be better to ourselves. Love how you phrased it: “As long as you like you, all the other likes are extra.” Thank you so much! ☺️☺️
I love it! That’s exactly how it is and when we are begging we look and sound so foolish.
Absolutely, Belladonna. Wonderful message.💕
Thank you so much Grace!
Truly my pleasure 💕
I never got the hang of social media so that outside validation never became a hook as much as it did for some people. My brief attempt at being Instagram famous probably garnered me 5 likes overall 😂
LOLOLOLOLOL! I love it!!! Listen 5 likes is hard to get.
Indeed, “True joy will only come once you start liking yourself.” Well said!
Absolutely! Thank you Warren🤍
Oh my, you are a wise one Belladonna. I too can be my most difficult critic. Falling in love with myself is an ongoing process. Thanks for the encouragement. Love you my friend, C
Cheryl I’m right with ya. We are forever changing so we have to continue adjusting to find a new love fr our new selves. it can be exhausting. LOL
Love you too my friend!