Time to break down the wall!
Being hurt or disappointed by someone you trust can scar you for life. Because of the hurt, a wall is automatically put in place to protect your feelings. That wall makes it downright impossible for anyone ever to come as close to you as the person who scarred you.
~Here’s the challenge~
Break down the wall!
If it takes one year, three years, five years, or even ten years to break it down, do it. It makes it a lot easier to destroy those walls you built if you seek help from a therapist or someone who has always offered you a safe place. Feeling comfortable enough to become vulnerable is a crucial way to head towards a healing place.
I’m not all the way there, but damn it, I’m on my way!
I’ve challenged myself to remove barriers preventing me from letting positive energy and light inside my heart. After ten years… YES, after ten years, I’ve learned that not all good people turn into monsters. The monsters are precisely who they presented themselves to be the moment you laid your eyes on them. However, you chose not to see them as such.
But here’s the thing once you destroy the wall, DON’T LET “THEM” BACK IN!
To look after yourself looks different for everyone. But the ultimate goal should universally feel the same. You should feel a sense of freedom and calmness. Not to mention peace in your heart which will motivate you to bring positivity to everyone around you.
Yesterday I wrote Six~word Story. I wrote that post because I wanted to bring awareness to myself about the need to change. I used only to show love to my family within my household. And I held everyone at arm’s length. I let them in, but not really. I was guarded and protecting my feelings!
I let the hurt I felt from others determine what I would and would not allow from anyone outside my home. But now the wall is slowly but steadily coming down.
I would love to hear what you are doing to look after yourself today.
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
~BELLADONNA~
Yes! Like my one-liner: don’t look for healing from those who broke you! 💗💗💗
Oh my goodness that is soooooooo good!!!!!
“But now the wall is slowly but steadily coming down. ” That’s wonderful, Belladonna . 💕🙏💕
Thank you Grace!!!! I’m loving the journey I’m on. I hope you are having a great weekend.
It sounds wonderful. I am, hope yours is wonderful too.💕
Wonderful post! Bravo Belladonna.
Thank you so much!
Always a pleasure!
Letting our guard down, letting the cards fall where they may and being vulnerable? Who wants to do that? Shoot me first. Ha, ha, but you are so right. We need to get comfortable with that uneasy feeling and then and only then can we start to heal. At least that’s how it’s always been for me. Great advice, thanks for sharing Belladonna!
I sure didn’t want to do it! LOL
But I knew I had to. Mommy issues was driving me to crazy town.
once that happens though, it’s really hard to trust again, and I always expect the hurt to happen again, so I always leave before that could happen…whether it would or not
Warren that’s the same thing I do!!!! I lost a really good friendship because of fear.
Have you ever did that?
You are wonderful! Merry Christmas 👼🎅🦌🌟🎄🎁
Huge compliment! So are you!
Merry Christmas!
I really needed this today my friend 💗
Awww I’m so glad! You give me words of wisdom that helps me so much!
Today I’m going to chill and not do anything that isn’t fun. The chores can wait…
I know that’s right!
I am so glad you’re working on breaking the wall down, healing the hurt and moving forward by protecting yourself without cutting yourself off from the world. It’s not an easy thing to do, at all. Being hurt by others can have various ramifications and we’re not always even aware of it. Taking the step to acknowledge the wall and the damage caused is the first step. Deciding to do what’s right for you – no matter how hard and scary it is – is the next and hardest step. Keep going my friend, you deserve goodness and I’m hoping there are less shitty people in your life in future!
Caz xxxxx
Oh Caz I pray the shitty people away! I like so many have had my fair share and I’m over it. So sick of people doing folks wrong and then playing the victim.
I hope that for the rest of this year and into 2023 we all get rid of those folks and live our best life.
Thank you so much for being you, wishing you a happy holidays!
I think we can definitely relate to your message today Belladonna! It’s time to clean up some things in our life that’s been on hold and getting a strangle-hold on us for far too long now. 🤗💖😊
The hold is a powerful force! Time to let it go!!
Now that my adult sons can take care of themselves, I have all the time to take care of myself by doing the things that bring me joy 🙂
That’s so good! Im sure you raised outstanding men!
“I’m not all the way there, but damn it, I’m on my way!” Me too! Wonderfully empowring and inspirational post, Belladonna! Happy holidays to you, and your family! 💚🎄❄️
Thank you Jeff! Happy Holidays to you my wonderful friend!
Such an uplifting post, loved it!
Awww I’m so happy you liked it!
I’m putting up just the right boundaries that protect me and letting in the love that sustains me. You keep doing you, Belladonna!
Susi I love that, setting boundaries is a game changer!!!!! Thank you so much.
You’re welcome, Belladonna. Yes, definitely a game changer. For me, it was the peace I needed.
That’s so good!
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