This post is my personal opinion!
When you give birth to your kids, there are certain things you want them to know about life. You can choose to tiptoe around subjects or come correct and direct.
I don’t know how to tiptoe, not around feelings or my words. However, I will only give my opinion once you ask for it. If you don’t ask, I will politely mind my business and look the other way. However, if you’re my child, then you don’t have to request my opinion; momma will give it.
In this family, we are open and will share the good, the bad, and the ugly. Then we either laugh about the situation or take steps to fix it.
In this world, many uncontrollable variables will come at you, leaving you flabbergasted and questioning your whole life. So with that being said, you don’t need to add the stress of a relationship into your young life. When you’re a teenager, you can barely handle your own emotions, and then adding another unstable teenager into the equation is usually a horrible idea.
You can’t HANDLE a relationship
I remember being in high school and seeing girls sitting by their locker, crying like crazy goofs. I’m talking about tears running down their face, barely talking or eating, and having trouble seeing life without this little boy that broke their heart.
When you entered the school, you didn’t know who would be ready to jump off a cliff that day!
Then, the happy couple would be back together the next day or later that afternoon, and the sun is shining bright again for them. Well, for now, it is; give it a couple of days, and the world will have zero meaning.
I was a teenager with a broken heart before, I might not have cried at my locker for others to see, but I did it in my room. Life could not get any worse than it already was. My focus would be on this pencil-neck boy, not my schoolwork or sports.
Now that I’m grown, I look back and think he was not only unattractive but also a freakin weirdo. I didn’t have anyone to tell me; dating at 15, 16, 17, and 18 was foolish, and my main focus should be on me!
When it comes to my kids, dating is off the table. But, of course, you can have your little crushes; that’s normal and part of life. However, what we aren’t going to do is glorify having a boyfriend or girlfriend in high school. My husband and I wanted them to have fun being a kid and not be tied down to anyone.
Yahavetherestofyourlifeforthat! (All one word)
Many will argue the point, “Well, you dated while being a teen, so why shouldn’t your kids.”
My response is; Your damn right I did, and that’s what makes me an expert on the subject and adamant about them not making the same mistakes I did. I know better; therefore, I want them to do better.
Listen, you can’t prevent heartbreak, it’s going to happen, and it should. But just like every situation in life, the older you are, the wiser you will become. And with wisdom comes the mental strength to handle difficult situations.
Be a kid, kid!
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