It’s time for you to get PISSED off

“The truth will set you free, but first, it’ll piss you off.”

No truer words have ever been spoken. The truth will sting your soul and crush your thought process if you aren’t willing to receive it. I know that the truth is a hard pill to swallow, but if growth is what you are looking for, then you have to take the truth pill.

I mean, think about it. How often do we have to bump our heads and fall before we take a seat and listen to constructive criticism? How often do we have to set ourselves back ten steps because we refused to take advice? Then when we fail, we look to those same folks for a hand or an ear. I don’t know about you, but I’m so over listening to nonsense.

I have been a part of the health and fitness industry since I took the oath to protect and serve my country. So please believe me when I tell you I have heard every excuse in the book regarding fitness journeys. But the truth is if you want a healthy lifestyle BAD enough, you will do whatever it takes to achieve it, win it, and own it.

The truth is you have to eat right, you have to work out, and you have to change your mindset. There aren’t any shortcuts, and there isn’t an easy way out. You have to stop looking for a quick fix, and you have to be willing to hear the truth. No matter how painful it is to listen to what you have to do to get from A to B, you have to listen and be willing to execute.

When my truth hit me it felt like a ton of bricks.

Did I like it? 

Hell no! 

It pissed me off because it hurt. It hurt my pride and, for a short while, my self-esteem. But in the end, the truth saved my life, and I will never forget that moment.

In the summer of 1994, I thought I was prepared for the military; my eating and workout habits were terrific. I felt like I was gaining strength internally as well as externally. But to my surprise, I had an abundant amount to improve on.

During my first week in the military, my drill sergeants did not hesitate to tell me that they thought I was weak. My heart dropped when they told me that. But they weren’t done. I was told that I wouldn’t last because I couldn’t do more than four pushups in a row, I didn’t stand up for myself against some of the other soldiers in my platoon, I was too quiet, and I hid behind everyone else.

 Try swallowing that!

They pissed me off because the truth tore me up. I am 18 years old in South Carolina, all by myself and receiving truths about me that I didn’t want to hear. I couldn’t run from it; I had to deal with it. And that’s just what I did. When the lights went out at 2100 hours, I was doing pushups, holding my planks, and mentally connecting with myself.

 By the end of boot camp, I dared anyone to even think about giving me a cross look. I was still quiet because that’s just who I am. I’m more of a listener than a talker.

But because I was able to accept the truth, I became a platoon leader, pushup queen, and one badass motha…shut yo mouth.

 I’ll never forget Drill Sergeant Henry and Drill Sergeant Jellen. They saved me by exposing strength that I didn’t know I had. I allowed the truth to piss me off so that I could gain my freedom!

Is it time for you to get pissed off?

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored.


42 Replies to “It’s time for you to get PISSED off”

  1. Girlfriend, were you stationed at Fort Jackson in Columbia? I am from South Carolina (Charleston). I graduated from USC. WOW sistah, you certainly had to have courage. 💪🏽 Thanks for your service ladybug! 🤗 Yep, when you’re overcoming your fear, you gotta fight it, head-on. 🤜🏼🤛🏼 You get pissed off, it’s true, but the rewards are so well worth the fight! 🐱‍🏍 Great post my friend! 👏🏼

    1. Thank you Kym!!!!
      Yes I sure was at Fort Jackson. Oh wow you are from there?!!!!
      When you’re hit with the truth you’ll either fold or get charged up!

      1. Well honey, my hats off to you sistah! 🎩👒⛑👒🧢 Talk about strength and endurance. Obviously, folding up was not an option for you! 💪🏼💯👍🏽

  2. An empowering post, Belladonna. 💪🏽 You are strong, physically and mentally, and courageous. I would not have lasted a week in bootcamp! 😰 For many reasons! Bravo to you and thank you for your service. 🙏🏻 You are right… there are no shortcuts or quick-fixes. Being fit and healthy are not solved through temporary diets – they are achieved by consistency and the right lifestyle choices, every day.

    1. You might surprise yourself and be the last one standing at boot camp. It seemed like the over confident soldiers soon became a little less confident and the underdogs rose to the challenge. I never thought I had what it took to be a soldier but with right leaders we all made it through 😍😃

      Thank you so much for reading and you’re welcome 🙏🏽

  3. State Boot Camps I can imagine is something else.
    It would be great if societies make boot camp training part of the female journey.
    I love how your teachers brought out the trooper in you.
    Although the cusses….mmmm
    I would change in the curriculum
    I’ve witnessed how physiotherapist with the same stamina lift the sick out of their beds.
    Truly a whole mind and spiritual thing.
    When your muscles are fully trained at eighteen you are good to go.

  4. This is so empowering, Bella! Your drill instructors pissed you off enough to light a fire under your butt and motivate you! It made a powerhouse out of you and I know your drill instructors were proud of you when you graduated Basic! And I bet they’d be proud of you now! 🎉🏆👏👏👏

  5. Wow! You are one badass truth teller and damn if we don’t all need to hear this message loud and clear and often! Thank you for your service, for your courage, for getting pissed off and using that fire to improve yourself and passing that lesson on to us. I am so in awe of you. Hugs, C

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