But I won’t do that….

Meat Loaf, you made a catchy tune!

My favorite lyrics in the song are “I would do anything for love.” I can just sing that one line over and over again from the top of my lungs. I sing those lyrics with so much conviction you would think I meant it.

I’ve been married for 22 years and love my crazy husband very much; however, I have limitations on what I will do for love. I never have nor will I ever be so in love that I lose myself. Real love should not require that you lose yourself to remain in love.

To all my parents out there with teenage kids with hormones running on high, let them know that when you start doing anything for love, you will stop at nothing to keep it. Trying to hold on to love will age you and have you wasting years that could have been used to make something out of your life.

When I look at Meat Loaf’s lyrics, I think, geesh, he would do anything for love except the following:

“I’ll never forgive myself if we don’t go all the way tonight / I would do anything for love / But I won’t do that.

“I’ll never stop dreaming of you every night of my life / I’ll do anything for love / But I won’t do that.

“I’ll never forget the way you feel right now / I will do anything for love / But I won’t do… what?”

That’s not going to work for me, Meat Loaf, but out of respect for him, I’ll say we all go to different lengths to keep that love spark going. I, however, have my limitations. 

What are some of your limits?

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!


49 Replies to “But I won’t do that….”

  1. It’s an excellent post and I admire you so much, dear Belladonna. Yours is exactly the kind of personality any woman needs to protect herself from being abused or manipulated. Hats off to you for being a loving wife, a wonderful mother, and most importantly, a beautiful human being who inspires others with a positive approach towards life. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

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    1. Thank you so much Aparna. I learned a lot about myself over the years and my kids have definitely helped me step into a more assertive role. I don’t know if I would be me without them.
      You’re such a wonderful person!

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  2. Thought-provoking as usual! 🙂 Limits? Hmm, I think that over the years my definition of limits has changed and also my notions of where and what they are. I know that sounds repetitive but I mean them as separate but linked things. I guess, not taking each other for granted is a line in the sand.

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  3. “Real love should not require that you lose yourself to remain in love.” AMEN! I was thinking something similar the other day when listening to one of those “romance” songs where the line “I’d live for you, I’d die for you” is in there (come up with something original, please). Yeah, no thanks. I’m not doing for anyone…

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    1. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 yes please be original!! What does that even mean when they say “I’ll leave for you and die for you” like what does that even mean? 😂
      I totally agree with you!! Thank you so much for adding this.

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    1. Simon I love this song and will drop whatever I’m doing so I can sing my heart out.
      You got that right Simon, we have to make sure that we never lose ourselves orbits a wrap!!!!


  4. WHAT??? You won’t do ANYTHING for love? 😲 Girl Belladonna, this is one of Meat Loaf’s most popular songs, but I get where you’re coming from. This is my second marriage (we celebrate 23 years in December), and with the first marriage I DID NOT do anything for love, that’s why I ended it. Marriage is a two-way street or any relationship for that matter. I was beginning to slowly lose myself in that first one, like I bumped my head and lost my mind. Nope, marriage has it’s share of ups and downs…that is normal. Just remember that in the give and take of it all, be sure you aren’t giving all of your pearls to swine. Just sayin’. Great post girlfriend. 👏🏼🥰👏🏼

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    1. Now I’m giving my husband the side eye like he’s swine! 🤣🤣🤣 Bless his heart!
      I think we all make that mistake and very few of us recover from it. We are the lucky ones girl. We’ve moved on and created some good memories and know what love feels like.

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