Your pretty AIN’T pretty


Welcome to a world where “shallow” pretty ain’t pretty anymore.

I have said it a thousand times that what you look like on the outside isn’t the only thing that matters!!!!!!!! SO WHAT ELSE ARE YOU BRINGING TO THE TABLE. Because your looks aren’t entirely giving what it needs to provide in order for that to be enough. I don’t care how beautiful or handsome you are; you need to be more than that!

I have seen so many little girls run around with a face full of makeup, little to no clothes on, dumb as a box of rocks, and throwing themselves at the first little pea brain that looks their way. 

That ain’t pretty! 

Honey, that’s the definition of pathetic.

If any of my readers are parents, grandparents, auntie, or uncles, I need you to tell the young people in your life that they need to put looks on the back burner. Instead, their focus should be on creating a clear path for a prosperous future. 

When we put pretty in the forefront, insecurities, mediocrity, unproductive self-evaluation, low self-esteem, and self-sabotage will soon follow. Not only that but once you are on the hunt for validation, ridiculous and life-changing mistakes will be next.

Pretty is trying so desperately to keep up with the next pretty that the only thing that matters is trying to outdo each other. They live for people telling them that they are “soooooo beautiful.” Never once will they hear the words you are:

  • Brilliant
  • Intelligent,
  • Honor student,
  • Honor graduate
  • Bright future ahead of you
  • Ivy league student 

Never will they receive a scholarship for a full ride to a prestigious college. But what they will hear is, “you are so pretty.” (INSERT EYE ROLL) We have to push our youth to be more than that.

In a world full of pretty, “shallow” pretty will soon find out that their kind of pretty ain’t pretty.

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37 Replies to “Your pretty AIN’T pretty”

  1. That ain’t pretty!

    Honey, that’s the definition of pathetic.
    Made me laugh out loud and I Love how you say it my friend!! I agree with you and appreciate the direct stance you take regarding this topic – so much suffering comes from this appearance based judgments and fixations, precious life wasted and not valued for so much that is possible.

    1. 😁so happy I made you laugh!

      Yes it’s such a waste of precious time. You are so right there is entirely too much suffering from focusing on only outward appearance. Thank the constant comparisons is so tiring.

  2. Oh no, not the insert of the eye roll! LMBO 😱😂😲 Honey chile, evidence of this is more widespread than one would expect. “Pretty is trying so desperately to keep up with the next pretty that the only thing that matters is trying to outdo each other.” You were spot on with that statement.

    Society has always pushed “pretty” (to look like the hour glass celebrity or online influencer) but shallow pretty, well now, that is indeed a trip down greater insecurity, disappointment, and depression. Great points Belladonna! 👏🏼😊😉

    1. I remember being a teenager and letting my insecurities get the best of me. I hate to see any teenage girls suffer from something that tore me up!

  3. I agree totally with this. Point out the smarty pants aspects of a child, the good character traits, that’s what we need to encourage. Pretty fades, but smart can last forever.

  4. Yes, Yes, Yes….that shallow pretty ain’t pretty it’s ridiculous and pathetic. As a woman and mentor I try to teach this every chance I get.
    Stop being flattered over the foolish….if he’s in your inbox he’s also in somebody else’s. You so pretty don’t always mean beautiful 😳 9.times out of 10 it simply means pretty stupid because you’re gonna pick up whatever trash they’re laying down.
    Keep teaching sis….this was so on point.

    1. Wow!!!! First off I am SO HAPPY TO SEE YIU HERE!!!
      Yes he is telling others the same mess. I love the “pretty stupid”. LOL
      You nailed it.

  5. YES YES YES to everything you’ve said, and you’ve said it so well! I know guys and other gender identifications can suffer with body image issues and care a lot about appearances, but the weight of the burden has always been on girls and women.

    This is why it bugs me that girls growing up are told they’re pretty, or they should lose a few pounds (this was said to me). The focus is on how they look, never about their intelligence, sense of humour, dedication, compassion, curiosity to learn. If the focus isn’t adjusted at a young age, it’s easy to see how we grow to value the external and come to rely on validation for others for our self-worth. I’m glad I didn’t go that way and yet when I look at young girls now going about with their friends they look older than they are because they’re covered in makeup, skirts up their arses, talking nonsense and clearly vying for attention in all the wrong places. It’s so sad because it’s not happiness. It’s misery.

    Caz xx

    1. Amen Amen Amen! You said it right there! I say exactly what you just said to any teenage girl that will listen. Making people see you more than a sexual being is a must.

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