Best Revenge Is Living Well

I have heard that too many times, and I’ve lost count.

I always thought it was the silliest expression, and even to this day, I wouldn’t say I like saying it. I didn’t particularly appreciate repeating it because it was always stated without an educated explanation. However, over the years, I have dedicated my life to helping people lose weight and, in some cases, gain weight. Throughout both journeys, trials and tribulations will come, and you must learn how to handle each to live well.

I know that is easier said than done. But you have to make it a habit to walk away from stressful situations or stressful people and make living well your ultimate goal.


You have to ask yourself, “why am I carrying this stress around” and “how is it benefiting me?”

It’s also helpful to write a list and then deal with each item one at a time. If the list involves people, then that’s easy. I’ve learned firsthand that family will bring you the most stress. They know which buttons to push and will have a field day laying on the button as hard as they can.

We allow family to rip our emotions and self-esteem to shreds. We have a tendency to give them one opportunity after another to repeat the shredding process. All in while, you’re hoping for a better outcome this time.

Guess what? 

It will be the same outcome as the last one and the one before that. At some point, you must let that stressful pattern go and invite positivity into your life. You can’t walk around with a heavy heart, missing sleep because you’re thinking about hurt and pain, not eating nor exercising because you lack the motivation to make healthy choices.

Once you combine all of the above attributes from stress, you can see why it will kill you. You can’t function over a long period of time like this. Eventually, your body will break down internally as well as externally.

Go To Sleep

Sleep peacefully and focus on feeling better, not plotting and scheming about how to get revenge on those who have wronged you. That’s a total waste of time and energy. The best revenge is for you to live well. Most importantly, you are doing this for YOU and only you. Not to throw in anyone’s face. Focus on you.

Put an end to overspending

Financial stress is another big concern and will have you up at night, retracing your steps and wondering how much money I spent—now finding it difficult to pay your bills and make ends meet. I wish I could say that staying up all night and stressing out will make money fall out of the sky. If it did, I would’ve been rich in college. Lack of sleep can cause anxiety to hit an all-time high, leading to poor decisions. However, with proper rest, you can think clearly and make better choices that will pull you out of financial slumps.

Your ultimate goal is to live well, but you must take the initiative to get there.

Repeat After Me

Focus on being a better you, it’s always you ~vs. ~ you, no one else. Getting revenge on someone is a waste of time and energy. So knock them dead by living well!

Wishing you all happy thoughts.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored.


40 Replies to “Best Revenge Is Living Well”

  1. “Focus on being a better you, it’s always you ~vs. ~ you, no one else. Getting revenge on someone is a waste of time and energy. So knock them dead by living well!” Love it!!! A great mantra for life.

  2. When I divorced my first husband due to infidelity, someone told me that the best revenge is success. So, my mantra since that time is exactly what you said, “Focus on being a better you.” I haven’t let up since that time and that happened in 1988! 🤜🏼🤛🏼

  3. Beautiful post Belladonna! Just what I needed to hear! I’m so glad that you understand family! Yes mine kill me with their cruelty sometimes. I’m glad I’m not the only one! 😊 💕

    1. Oh not at all!!! They know how to stick it to you better than anyone. Just have to learn to ignore the ignorance of it all and hold on tight to the positive people in your life💗💜

    1. Thank you for reading Paula! Ironically I’m out shopping for a new hat! My daughter needed some new shirts so while she’s doing that I’m in the hat section 🤣

  4. yes. Focusing on myself usually works, but also understanding that some are looking to me to maybe help…..which is okay, this morning’s ride was me initiating, and other’s following because they wanted to

  5. Wonderful post. You are a splendid writer and as someone who has struggled with weight on both ends of the spectrum, I found your content invaluable.

  6. Good advice here. I agree, but have a difficult time sometimes, with making “a habit to walk away from stressful situations or stressful people and make living well your ultimate goal.” I know I can’t change other people but I feel like I have to be around in case they want to change & I can help them. That’s wacko, isn’t it?

    1. Girl yes!!! When and if they change you can allow them back in but very few people truly do change. Also not everyone has a place in your life and that’s okay. You can still pray for them, like them but know who they are!

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