The story behind many
Beneath all my flaws lies perfection.
Beneath everything that you are trying to cover up lies your truth. But you’re afraid your truth will cause your “someone” to leave in a panic and never look my way again.
Because of your fear of losing your someone, You will be who he desires you to be—forgetting all of your lies so that you can pretend to be worthy of him.
But as a result, you’re losing yourself!
How many of us are afraid to show who we are?
You can live behind a mask for the rest of your life, but will that make you happy?
What women want
I know that we all want to find love. And desire to have that one somebody that will love us unconditionally and tell us that we are beautiful. It means so much when you don’t have to fish for compliments and continue to say, do you like my hair, my outfit?
As a woman, one of the things that we want is the ability to feel free. We need that sense of freedom to feel comfortable with just being ourselves. Comfortable in our bare skin and still be loved. We want to rip down all the walls we’re hiding behind and know that we won’t be looked at differently.
It feels good to be naked
When washing my face, the joy I feel is indescribable, followed up by putting on baggy shorts with an oversized shirt that has now been a part of my life longer than I want to remember. But it’s too comfortable to throw away!
You know you’re looking at a hot mess, but he still says you are beautiful.
Your hair is all over your head, looking like a bird’s nest, but he still wants you to lie your head on his chest because he knows that’s your security blanket. It’s so essential for your mental health to be able to expose your insecurities without regret
Having that somebody will give you the tools necessary to tear down the walls that you named flaws and reveal your truth, your perfect reality.
Enabling you to be unapologetically naked!
You could have chosen to read any blog, but you chose mine, and I’m honored.
~Belladonna~
Excellent thoughts. I have started to be myself after seeing everyone around me being selfish. After reading inspirational blog posts from Kym, I could feel a different me. It feels good to rebel when you are being oppressed by your tormentors. Thanks for sharing this wonderful post. It motivates me even more to stop trying to please everyone and also consider taking priority of my own needs and feelings.
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Kym is such a beautiful person!
Continue to focus on you and love yourself. Never let anyone strip you of that. You deserve to be happy my friend.
Wishing you love and happiness as you continue on your beautiful journey💜💜💜💜💜
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Thank you so much, dear. ♥️♥️♥️😊😊. This means so much to me. I am so glad to have wonderful friends like you, Kym, Sandra and the list goes on. Have a fantastic weekend🍕🏠🎉. This is the best reply I received for the day. You made me smile, my dear friend. I wish all the happiness for you.
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You are wonderful!!!! I appreciate you and all my new wonderful friends. Couldn’t ask for anything more 🙏🏽💜
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😊😊😊♥️♥️💐💐💐♥️
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Belladonna, I simply love the way you roll and how you are unapologetically B to the E to the L to the L to the A, Donna! Hugs and smooches so much Lady Cancerian. You are an inspiration to us as well and don’t you forget that either! 🤗🥂🤩💐🥰
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You have me over here making a beat and jammin🤣🤣
I appreciate you Kym! Can’t tell you enough how much I appreciate you💖💖💖💖💖
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Oh sistah, that goes both ways. You add a lot to make me reflect and think about. I get ya my sweetness! 🥰🎈😘 That’s how we roll.
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You are the best!!!!!!
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You complete me ladybug! 😍🤗🥰
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💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
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Aww Aparna, thanks so much my sweet friend. That means more to me than you know! Hugs and smooches! 😍💖🥰🦋😘
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♥️♥️♥️😘😘😘🥰🥰🥰🥰.
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I reached this state after more than 15 years of marriage and it’s liberating
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Such a beautiful feeling right? Congratulations on that!!!!💜🙌🏽❤️
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Indeed! The best ! Acceptance of oneself.
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Yes!!😍😍❤️
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❤️
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The thing I have the problem is that somebody could think that my body as it is could be something to be ashamed of.
When I look at a tree, I don’t say ‘that tree’s too thin or too fat or the barks too rough’. I just say ‘what a beautiful tree’. Just like me! And just like you, too.
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And that’s exactly how it should be!!! Thank you for that wonderful example. Nature is perfect just the way it is, and so are we💖💖💖
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I really think that a healthy relationship is that where we can accept the person as they are. I agree, men generally tries to change women as per their own desires. Then, women also seek for approval, because they want their love satisfied and happy.
What we need is understanding, appreciation and respect. If these are added to a relationship, it become lovely automatically.
Keep sharing belladonna 😃
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💯 agree with you!!! Be you and accept me if you want but never let anyone change you!
Well said!
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Change should not be forced. If we are changing ourselves for others, than it’s not fine.
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Great post, Belladonna. Self acceptance is the first step to feeling accepted by others. Love this.💕
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Amen Grace! Thank you so much reading 💜
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My pleasure 💕
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hard tho this i know
age and sage
and not wanting to prove myself
to anyone save Jesus Christ
good post
kudos
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🙏🏽🙌🏽
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a combination of things are mimicking a quasi deja vu. you?>
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You make such a valid point about having an honest relationship.
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Honest and comforting. If you find that then STOP looking for anything more. 😍💖❤️😍💖
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Girlfriend, you hit the nail on the head! 🔨🔨🔨 Insecurity is one of those things we women tend to have when it comes to this subject. But you know, more and more, people are peeling off the layers of insecurity and revealing the beautiful person they are. Thanks for sharing this girlfriend. 🤩🥂🤗
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Thank you Kym!!!
I am so happy that women are seeing just how amazing we all are. Working to our potential and not having our man focus be LOOKS LOOKS LOOKS. We are so much more than our hair style or make up regimen.
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You’re so very welcome Belladonna and I have to drop the mic on that last sentence sista’!!! 🎤🎤🎤
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🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
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Love this, truth is most women have suppressed themselves , become what he desired and needed and are left feeling empty and unworthy. Their dreams forgotten and who they are is unrecognizable, Ave that cause extreme depression. In the end if you do this for him you will end up making you both miserable. I see it all the time as a coach, having meaning purpose and destiny is important and having it alone with or without a spouse take a lot of introspection and a long self discovery journey…. Thank you for this post
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Yes Nikki that’s exactly it. It’s so frustrating when Insee someone living for someone else and forgetting who they are.
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bomb 💣 💣 💣
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Thank you 😊
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Wow I love how you write, so simple and encouraging. 💣
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Thank you so much!!! I truly appreciate that.
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This is beautifully written.
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Thank you so much 😍😍😍😍😍
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