He’s Just Not That Into YOU

Every so often, I become hooked on a movie. The movie of choice right now is, yes, you guessed it; “He’s just not that into you.”

Watching this movie made me think a lot of myself. I am always so skeptical of a man’s intentions, and I can feel when their intent is off.

So after a lot of thinking and going back and forth, I have decided to be my blunt self right here on my blog. My goal is to let it all out and give my honest opinion if a guy or girl is into you or not. So please join me once a week for a real-life situation between two people that should’ve thought twice before wasting their time.

Case 1~ Is he into her?

My first case is between a 43-year-old woman and a 45-year-old man. I’m giving ages because when a woman hits a certain age, she does not want to waste valuable time with a loser. Either you want to be with her, or you don’t…. she does not have time to waste!

They met online

After a horrible breakup, she was ready to try her hand at another relationship. Believe it or not, she had total faith in cupid, pointing his arrow and making it straight into her new lover’s heart. But boy, oh boy, did he miss by a mile.

They chatted on the phone nonstop for two weeks!

The conversation went from what’s your favorite color to what’s your favorite position. I’m not sure who initiated the last question, but I do know they were equally eager to release all the details.

The meetup

He asked her out on a date in the city, and she happily accepted his invitation. They laughed and talked over dinner, and when the waiter came by to see if they wanted dessert, she assured him they didn’t need it. However, she had something else in mind, and he knew what it is so, her date asked for the check. He paid, and they headed to her place.

At about one o’clock in the morning, he headed home. 

A week went by, and she didn’t hear from him. She wondered if he would ever call again, and after a week, she gave up hope. It’s as if he was intentionally dodging her calls. But after a long week, he finally called. He gave her the usual lame excuses;

“Oh, uh, work has been crazy.”

“I wasn’t feeling well.”

“I thought I had covid.”

She listened and was okay with all his excuses. So they met up for dinner and headed back to her place. And the missing in action and occasional meetups happened for the next six months. Then, finally, one day, he told her he wasn’t ready for a relationship and needed to focus on himself. 

The phone went dead, and so did her bed. From time to time, she glared at her phone, hoping he would call and say that he was ready for a relationship. Which he probably was, only not with her.

Final Thoughts

Do you realize she put herself in danger by allowing this fool to return to her house? And then, when she put up with him coming and going as he pleased, he put her health at risk. She had no idea who he was with or what he was doing with random people.

The first time he went a week without calling her, she should have known that he was not into her. Because if he was wild, horses couldn’t have pulled him away from her.

Better luck next time, cupid!

I would love to know your thoughts on this love affair!!!!!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!


43 Replies to “He’s Just Not That Into YOU”

  1. Some men consider women as a sex toy. They use them and dump them. From my experience, I tell you I try to avoid the company or conversation with men as far as possible. I stopped responding to friendship request of men on Facebook and Instagram except if it’s a nephew or a cousin. I had a horrible experience both in FB and Instagram. Can you imagine the nerve of a 50 year old idiot proposing me, 8 men asking for my WhatsApp number, when they could already see my profile pic? I am not Jennifer Aniston or Julia Roberts, or Angelina Jolie. What did they ever see in me? I am not berating myself but this is too much. Yuck. 14 years of imprisonment in marriage where I was verbally abused to the point of trying to end my life because of the male chauvinistic pig who always gains pleasure in treating women as doormats, I am off men. Sorry for the long comment. 😊😊😊

    1. First of all I can totally see why these losers would pursue you! And I definitely see why you are ignoring their propositions.
      I am so sorry you had to deal with that in your marriage. He obviously didn’t know how to handle a real woman and will live to regret that.

      I don’t know until recently that FB dating was a thing. I couldn’t believe all the dating categories that are on FB. I would not trust it!!!!!

      1. Correct. It starts with Normal, hi hellos and these guys are on their lookout for fresh victims. I would definitely appeal to everyone to think twice before accepting a friendship request either on FB or Instagram.

      2. I’m glad you asked that!
        It seems as though there is a larger demographic of strong minded women for this generation to follow. They are raised differently than the majority of folks in my generation.
        They seem to know there worth and dare anyone to tell them different! I’m very optimistic for this generation of ladies!

  2. I truly believe that people do what you let them get away with. I completely agree that she should have gotten the hint after the first week off. I hope she doesn’t start blaming herself and instead realizes that her Mr. Right will appear at the right time, usually when she’s not looking.💕

    1. You are so right they always come when we are just enjoying life and focused on yourself. Isn’t it funny that women are so quick to blame themselves??!! 🥹

      1. Yesss. The mind usually goes there so quickly. I think inter generational social conditioning plays a big role with that. Hopefully that cycle will break soon. I see it slowly happening through my 17 year old daughter and her friends. Love where it is going.💕

      2. I’m so with you!!!! My daughter is 20 and I see the change in her and her friend group! So powerful to watch 😍🙌🏽

    1. That’s the first thing that really shocked me. When you’re in your 40’s you should know better. By this age we’ve seen to many creepy people.

  3. Sometimes we want something to work so badly we make and accept excuses…I’ve done similar in the past so I really can’t say anything

  4. She made the mistake many women do. She made herself available and hit the bed too soon. He used her like a revolving door and she went along. I haven’t been on a date, had a man at my house since 2018. Not interested in wasting time or being play.

  5. I think you are absolutely right. If someone really is interested they won’t waste losing you by playing games. They will likely call within the next two days. 🦋❤️

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