This week I felt every emotion imaginable!
At the beginning of July, I wanted to pull the band-aid off and see my son off to college. But the night before we said our goodbyes, I cried myself t sleep. I CRIED FROM 9 pm until I passed out. Then, my husband gently rubbed my back and assured me everything would be okay.
The moment we said goodbye
Then the moment I dreaded came, Monday morning, my son gave me the biggest hug, kissed my forehead, and said, “mom, I love you.”
At that moment, I melted in his arms and felt helpless. It felt like my soul was being snatched from my body. I stared at him until he was out of sight.
Then just like that, I was in a vast room filled with weepy-eyed parents. Each one felt the same pain, pride, and hurt. We were a bunch of strangers leaning on each other for support. Yet, oddly we all felt like we had known each other for years.
So I guess it’s true what has been said about traumatic events. They can quickly pull people together and create an instant bond.
Slowly moving on
I was depressed and angry by Tuesday night because he wasn’t within my reach. His room was clean, and waiting for him to come walking in.
My last meal was on Sunday at about 4 pm. I might have had 16 ounces of water at this point. So what happened next was bound to happen.
I was lying on the floor and stood up quickly. When I stood up, I was met with a severe dizzy spell. But I figured it was due to me jumping up to fast. So I proceeded to walk downstairs, and the right side of my body fell limp. I stumbled down my stairs and grabbed ahold of my counter.
Luckily for me, my husband and daughter were in the kitchen then.
I tried my best to ask them for water, but I couldn’t move my tongue. It felt heavy and gummy. So I lifted my left hand and banged it as hard as possible on the counter. The bang caused my husband and daughter to jump up and hand me water. Their eyes were filled with horror and shock.
My heart was beating a mile a minute, causing me to hyperventilate!
My husband grabbed me up and helped me to the couch. I drank three bottles of water and slowly calmed down. I laid down for a few hours, then slowly went upstairs to shower and get in my bed for the night.
When I woke up on Wednesday, I promised myself that I would allow myself to feel, but I would do it responsibly.
Sadness can kill you.
I know that being sad can lead to deep depression. Depression can lead you to make poor choices. My poor choices were simply not eating and drinking water.
So today, I am allowing myself to feel responsibly. I’m looking forward to all of my tomorrows. And with God’s help, I will see them!
I know
I see
I speak
I love
I do
I feel
I am OKAY because I can hear the words “mom I love you”
~Belladonna~
This is really emotional as well as a matter of concern. How is your health? Please take care. Your family loves you and needs you. ♥️♥️♥️🌹🌹🌹.
I immediately started back on my regimen. Scared me straight!!!!
Take care of yourself. This happens to every parent when our baby birds grow wings to fly on their own.
Hurts but in a good way I guess!
I will be perfect when I can hear his voice again. He has 3 weeks of intense training so no cell phones. I’ll be the loudest one at his football games 😊
Hang in there my friend
Thank you Sadje. I’m really trying and I feel better today😍
That’s great.
You will look forward to and cherish the times you get to see him!
Amen to that!!! Cherishing every moment. I can’t wait to see him 😍🙌🏽
Thinking of you
🙏🏽🙏🏽💖 Thank you!
Gurrrrlllll, I am verklempt! 😱😭😥 I’m going back to bed. This is painful, funny (especially about the water), yet powerful. It chronicles as if you are getting your strength back, and you are! Stay strong sistah because as you said, “I am OKAY because I can hear the words “mom I love you.”” 🥰💖😘💞😍
Ya girl has went through it this week but I feel myself coming back. God is good🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
There you go Princess! 👸🏽 I know you got this! You have strength that you had in reserve and are now pulling out like a magic wand. Girlfriend, if you endured the Army, and birthin’ three babies, honey chile, you are going to do this. Just wait and see!!! 🏋🏽♀️💪🏽🐱🏍
AMEN!!!!!!! I feel my strength coming back. Thank you for lifting me up in prayer and with your words. I’ll hold this with me forever ♥️♥️♥️♥️
My girl, you got this. It may have been looking a little shakey there for a moment, but like a rollercoaster, you are taking those curves with fierceness! 🎢😲🎢 It’s my pleasure to be in your orbit!!! 🌎🪐🌍 Peace, blessings, hugs and smooches!!! 😍😁🤩
Woah, that sounds a tough few days! SO glad that your husband and other little ones are there for you! I can relate that it is a massive, massive thing when the kids first leave for more than just an “overnighter” 🙁 I kinda had prepared for it but it was 5h1tty. All I can say is thank goodness for the internet and all these instant messaging apps!! Stay strong!! Hopefully, the cell-phone ban ends soon! 😉
Thank you! It was rough…but we’re pushing through one day at a time.
We have two more weeks and he can get his phone back. So we are almost there!!!!!
Alas, that is all you can do 🙁 I imagine the situation for him is even more bizarre as he has grown-up knowing nothing but cell phones and IMs 😉
I know!!!!! I bet they are going through withdrawals 🤣🤣