It’s been over 20 years of marriage, and just like that, It’s over……..finished!
Can you imagine being married for over 20 years, and then out of the blue, your husband leaves you for his high school sweetheart?
No matter where I go, I’m able to connect with strangers, and by the end of our conversation, we are no longer strangers.
I was standing in the checkout line at the grocery store. I didn’t have many groceries, but I had more than the lady behind me. She carried delicious crusty bread that would be amazing for french toast and she had a small bag of Guatemalan coffee. So I told her to go ahead of me. I could see the sadness in her eyes, and I know how a kind gesture can turn my day around, so I was hoping that I could do that for her.
Her eyes opened wider, followed by a sad smile. As she checked out, she began to tell me her story, and as we walked outside, the reason for her sad eyes became clear.
She was fresh out of coffee and needed that one thing to help push her day in a positive direction. The taste of that particular coffee gave her the strength she needed to help her 18-year-old daughter deal with her depression which is getting worse.
She lays in the bed, staring silently at her ceiling, barely eating, and refuses to finish her senior year of high school. Her heart is broken, and her trust in her father shattered her world. One day everything was perfect, then he went to his High School reunion, fell in love with his high school sweetheart, packed up everything he owned, and moved to a brand new house with his new love.
After 26 years of marriage, he chose his High School sweetheart and left two kids and his wife behind. Now she’s doing her best to help her daughter deal with her depression; helping her son figure out his way in high school and on top of all that she’s facing financial hardships. She had a part-time job while her kids were in school, and her husband brought home most of the money…. until he didn’t.
So now here she is, 50 years young and trying to figure out her new life. She didn’t choose to get a divorce. She didn’t choose for her husband to lock eyes with his high school sweetheart at a reunion that she was too busy to attend. She didn’t choose for her husband to leave her. But now, she’s forced to make all the hard decisions so that she and the children can be okay.
As I talked with her outside the grocery store;
We prayed together
I didn’t know if she was religious or if she believed in God, but I do, so I did what I do best. I pray in hard times, good times, sad times, and joyful times. I grabbed her hands, and we prayed through our tears and into our joy.
She grabbed me, hugged me, and said, “I’m so sorry for pouring all this out to you, but I felt your energy, and I couldn’t resist.”
I don’t even know her name
but I felt her pain
Her eyes were full of shame
From an asshole that lacks a soul
Checking his feelings is the way to the source not Divorce
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