Should Married Ladies ONLY have Married Friends

Yesterday I wrote about friends giving terrible advice to their “friend. Never take relationship ADVICE from these people

I left off when the married woman left to take a phone call from her husband.

As she looked at her phone, she told her friends that it is her husband. Her friends rolled their eyes as if they were bothered by the phone call. When she stood up to talk to her husband in peace, the divorced Lady said, “GOOD LUCK, and remember to let him know he isn’t your father.” The never-married Lady cosigned with her friend and said, “don’t let him break you.”

She walked away, ready to win a battle created by her and her friends. But, on the other end, was a poor guy that wasn’t prepared for what they had pumped into her mind.

Meanwhile, at the table, set the ladies.

Divorced Lady, we’ll call her DL.

Single Lady, we’ll call her SL.

DL~ I see her marriage going down the same road as mine.

SL~ See, this is why I’m single; I will not put up with a man calling me and demanding that I tell him my every move.

DL~ Their marriage will never work and wait until they throw kids into the equation.

SL~ I am so happy to be SINGLE.

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I made the mistake of having friends that weren’t married. So I was tugged in all directions; they wanted me to have drinks, lunch, dinner, see movies, and even girl trips. And here I am, married with three kids and a career. 

Something has to give because the thought of managing my home, keeping my kids on the right path while maintaining a bond with my husband is a full-time job! I’m not, nor will I ever be willing to forgo my family life so that I can hang out with friends. 

I value having positive friends in my life, but my family will always come FIRST. Going on vacations with the girls is something that I look forward to when my kids live on their own, but until then, an occasional lunch and dinner with friends will have to do. And for me it’s helpful to have friends, regardless of marital status that respect my marriage and my family.

So for now, I’m all about family, family, family and keeping a hardcore bond with my leading man.

My opinion is just that… it’s my opinion, and I would love to hear all of yours.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

21 Replies to “Should Married Ladies ONLY have Married Friends”

  1. Having been someone that was single when my friends were married with kids I just wanted to say one thing. Single girls need their friends. I sometimes felt blanked after friends got married. It was like once there were kids there was no room for you.

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      1. It was a long time ago. But have fond memories of feeling totally out of place when at parties. The girls all spoke of the best nappy brands and what brand of washing powder gives the best results.

        I wish they had just set me up with someone like a blind date at the time. I lived rural. It was before dating sites.

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  2. Well, I was married for 20 years, and even though most of it was ick, I still get what it means to be part of a team. In general, I don’t think it’s practical for single women to be close friends with married women. I do have one married friend, and we’ve been friends forever (we’re like family almost), but even so we don’t do stuff at night, just lunches, etc. It would be a bit weird to say to a spouse bye honey I’m going out for dinner without you! I never did that when married. When I do dinners out and game nights, almost all the other friends are single too… there are a few couples, but they come together…

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  3. I absolutely agree with you. It is difficult to maintain a friendship with single friends, while being married. I have a few single friends but had to create very strong boundaries. Great conclusion . Thanks for sharing.💕

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  4. I can relate to this situation Belladonna. But the bottom line is your life as a ML (Married Lady) or a DL is so much different from a SL, especially if that SL has never been married. Everyone has their thoughts about what you should do, but they are not walking in your shoes, even if you are an AL (Abused Lady). Every part of your life is conditional and ever-evolving. My now single friends are either widows or divorcees, but our common bond was being married after we left the single life.

    Having a girls night out is ok, as well as the boys hanging out occasionally. But constantly going out and hanging out, well let’s just say, “Ain’t nobody got time for that!” 😆🤣🤪🤦🏽‍♀️😂

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  5. I have nothing much to say beacause I wholeheartedly fully agree with you on everything 🙂 There should be respect for individuals and relations, that’s all that is required. I can get along with anyone then. And yes family first – after they leave house I will have all the time to myself for outings with friends.

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  6. I have friends who are single, and friends who are married. My single friends don’t extol the virtues of single hood nor do they bash men. But they are lifelong singles who made a conscious choice to remain single…they don’t harbor bad will towards men. Does that make sense?

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  7. I have both single and married friends who I enjoy spending time with. No one is a marriage basher because that would be a deal breaker. All my children are grown and living on their own so I have more time to socialize but I admit I do spend the majority of my time with my husband and our married friends. Hugs, C

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