Breaking general curses one after another!
The struggle of being a good friend is something that many women struggle with. When I was younger, I was a terrible friend. Listening and caring about others’ feelings wasn’t any of my concern. If you were hurting and needed someone to talk to, you were better off talking to a brick wall than relying on me. I wasn’t equipped to handle my own problems, let alone anyone else’s.
We are taught how to be good to be a good friend!
But the question is, who teaches us these things?
We learn from watching the people that raise us. It’s impossible to know how to be a good friend if we see the dominant figure in our life being a half-ass friend and someone incapable of showing love to their children. Sad to say, but if you’re a lost child, you will be a lost adult in constant search of something real.
Spoiler alert you will never find it until you unlearn everything you learned as a child.
As a mother, my mission in life is to break every generational curse that has haunted me. I refuse to allow my kids to repeat the same mistakes other women and I have made. The thought of them being 20,30,40,50,60, and even 70 and still battling with being a friend frightens me. I want them to be consistent with their behavior and to expect others to be the same.
Never accept a half-ass friendship. It’s either a dependable friendship, or it’s nothing.
Three things to live by
- Being a friend is someone that will keep it honest with you always, even if the truth hurts. If the truth prevents them from looking like a clown, spill it.
- When you feel frustrated with your friend, tell them, don’t vent to others, and drag their name through the mud. Then act as if you said nothing.
- Wait until your anger, hurt, or annoyance settles before expressing your feelings to others.
If your mother didn’t teach you these things, it’s okay, now you know!
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