There will always be someone that makes you out to be the bad guy.
Brace yourself for it because if it hasn’t happened to you yet, it definitely will. The “bad guy” blame does not discriminate. And when it shows its ugly head, it will leave you second-guessing who you are and your worth. Then self-doubt will set in, and lastly, overthinking will finish the job.
How to avoid second-guessing yourself, self-doubt, and overthinking
One thing that I have learned is the fact that in order to grow we need positive energy around us. When we allow folks in our lives to take and take some more and never refill our cup, we’re left drained.
Therefore what happens when you drain a cup? It’s EMPTY
That’s what happens to us. When we feel empty, self-doubt sets in, and it’s a rollercoaster effect from that point. Doubting yourself is depressing; a confident person doesn’t carry doubt, nor will they allow others to speak doubt over them.
Remove yourself from people that don’t make you feel good, and if you’re lucky enough, that will remove themselves because they no longer feel as though they fit in your higher plan. LET THEM GO!
This brings me back to being the bad guy; those same people that brought ruckus and instability in your life are the same people that will make you out to be the bad guy. They know that no one loves, let alone likes, a bad guy, so they will paint any picture of you that they need to paint. They want others to see the terrible person they want you to be.
They hope to create doubt, diminish your self-worth, and put your mind in overdrive!
I’ve been there, done that, and it’s a waste of time to put yourself through unnecessary preadolescent emotions. Instead, focus on living life to the fullest and stop worrying about the picture folks want to paint of you.
And stop leaving your cup empty; pour into yourself always. Because the selfish folks that you’re pouring into are the ones that LOVE to make you the bad guy so avoid it.
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20 Replies to “The LOVE of a bad guy< How to avoid being one”
Oh my… Don’t I know this one…
Same!!! Ole to well
focus on living life to the fullest and stop worrying about the picture folks want to paint of you.
And stop leaving your cup empty; pour into yourself always.
These are lessons I too had to learn and continue to strengthen for myself. Such good reminders they are!
I’m so glad you know your worth, and continue to make yourself a priority. I learned the hard way that not everyone deserves to be poured into!💖
Yes exactly I continue to learn the same.
The more they try to make you look like the bad guy, you reverse the narrative with confidence, letting NOBODY rain on your parade. 🤜🏼🤛🏼 As my mother used to say, “There’s more than one way to skin a cat.” (No disrespect to felines!) 😻😼🙀
That part!!!!! My grandma would say that too.LOL
Yes, people hate to see you doing well and looking happy.
Shut them down by being happy anyway!!! Booyah!!! 🤜🏼🤛🏼
“When we allow folks in our lives to take and take some more and never refill our cup, we’re left drained.” So true. Wonderful write, super wise, ending is perfect. We must always refill ourselves. Love this one, Belladonna. ❤️
Thank you Jeff! We are worthy of having our cups over flowing. I’m so grateful that you liked this one. My heart is full!
You’re welcome, Belladonna! Always my pleasure. Aww, I loved it! ☺️
My daddy used to say: If you don’t pay his bills then what you think of him is totally irrelevant. Seriously thus. Ignore people who try and paint you as a bad person. Those who believe them aren’t worth your time either.
Love what your dad said! LOL
Yes, you are so right, they aren’t worth anyones time.
Thank you so much!