Have you ever thought about what it takes to make you feel loved by the one you love?
I must admit that over time I didn’t think about it. When you have kids, work, and everything else going on, you don’t have time or the need to think about this question.
But I have seen many divorced folks, and I’m not trying to be one of them. So with that being said, my husband and I had a conversation about which one of the five love languages we feel is the most important. The hard part is, you can only choose one.
Yes, they are all essential, but which one is the MOST important?
The 5 love languages are:
1. Quality Time
2. Acts of Service
3. Words of Affirmation
4. Receiving Gifts
5. Physical Touch
My top pick is.…… QUALITY TIME
I’m looking forward to your answers!!!
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
~Belladonna~
Mine was always words (no surprise there), yet I always ended up with men who were stingy with words. I still don’t understand it…
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I wonder if how it would go if you became a regular at a upscale place where people read poetry. It’s usually a very familar crowd week after week.
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Oh there is a person who I am happy to see Chime in 😁
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I have to agree with you.. Quality time is absolutely essential.
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It really is!
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I also love quality time 🥰🥰🥰
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Can’t be beat right?!!!
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🙂🧡
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I choose quality time to.
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That’s the best!
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The most important love language to me is quality time.
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I’m right with ya!
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Great advice Belladonna. 👏🏼 I am in my second marriage (only 22 years now), but wisdom has taught me that I need all of the selections you noted, not just zeroing in one. Like making a cake you need several ingredients for that cake to come out like you want it to. Now, while there are many other factors that can derail relationships (and I by no means am NOT a relationship expert) if love, trust, respect, communication, understanding, compassion, and support are not a part of that relationship mix,, it probably won’t succeed, unless folks are in it just to be in a situation. It’s hard to “set it and forget it” as Ron Popeil’s catchphrase noted during his infomercials! LOL 😜💖🤗
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LOL!!!! Not the infomercials. LMAO
You are so right it’ takes several ingriedients to get it right. You know when you know. And if it weren’t for past terrible break ups/ divorce how would we know for sure.
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Oh how I agree girlfriend, we learn from our mistakes and we grow because of them!!! 👏🏼🥰🙏🏼
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Amen!
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Uh huh! 🙏🏼💖🥰
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I found this book interesting and helpful for relationships.
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Okay great! I will pick it up. Thank you
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Yes definitely quality time!! We need a baby sitter because that time is lacking 😂 I hate COVID . Mine was words of affirmations my husband lacks that 😂 but he does spend his money 💰 😂
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LMAO!! Covid can really mess things up!
I’ll take a money spendder as well.. there is nothing wrong with that.
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Quality time…although physical touch is right behind it!
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Yes I agree! We need physical touch.
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5 but not all the time as it just feels like they are in your personal space. Once a week with a cheeky kiss 😘
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LOL!!!! Right! Definitely not all the time, that would be rather annoying.
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For me, Words of Affirmation. Growing up with a narcissist for a mother, the constant criticism was overwhelming and defeating. I do think that is the reason for my need to be validated, heard, and respected for who I am.
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Susi that was well said and I felt that sooo deeply. I am with you on that and becuase I needed so much validattion my feelings were so easliy hurt. Uggghhh, now you’re making me rethink my top pick.
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I think we all have a little of all of them within us. Physical Touch is a close second for me.
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Yes I agree and at different times I our lives the need may very from one to the other.
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Exactly.
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I never thought much about it until my daughter told me it hurts her feelings when I don’t eat her cooking, which she’s always said is her love language. I guess that would be considered an act of service. I’m not sure about my own, lol.
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LOL!! Eat that girls food 🤣
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Lol, I definitely do now.
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💖Good!!!
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It’s funny, but when I was younger my love language was words of affirmation and now it’s quality time spent. I think because after dating for awhile, you learn that words can sometimes come easily and cheaply, but time spent shows someone really cares and likes you. It’s so important to know what we need to feel loved. ❤
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Sara you nailed it!!! That’s when buoy know you are grown and looking for something real! Words can be easily spoken but time is unmatched!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 💜💜💜
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That’s so true. Time really is unmatched.
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Wonderful exercise, Belladonna. Love this 💕
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Thank you Grace 😍
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My pleasure 💕
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Mine is physical touch
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Yes!!!!💖💖💖
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Being thoughtful and generous.
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Yes that means the world❤️
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🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
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Excellent!
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Thank you 😊
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Wow! Wonderful post! It´s important to have a balnce with the man of our dreams.
A good relation needs a a little of each one and mine is kind of balance and
thank’s God he loves kisses.
Thank’s for share dear Bella, have a great day!
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Awwww how sweet!!! Kisses and hugs can change your entire mood🥰
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Thank’s dear Bella!!! Agree with you.
🙏🥰
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Great question… I agree with you, quality time is also my favorite.
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Right Stella! It doesn’t cost a thing but means soooooo much!
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Acts of service. I am my wife’s ear of reason to calm her head in the moment or as she says I her back as I feel any spouse should. The remaining in this order: Quality Time, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts.
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*I got her back
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Matt this is beautiful!!!! You’re a great husband
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Acts of service is probably mine on the giving side, but we get PLENTY of quality time together. I would like from him more affection, physical touch I guess. He can’t seem to do that without sex, but sometimes a girl just wants to be held or to cuddle. We hold hands, maybe peck on the lips now and then. Maybe we’ve been married so long he thinks it’s not necessary anymore.
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Quality time tops the list for me.
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That’s so important
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I endorse your pick, as it also covers the rest four.
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Thank you!!!! I totally agree with you
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You’re welcome 🙏
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Considering that my failed marriage lacked quality time, among others, I do believe that you have chosen wisely.
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I’m so sorry 😞
That’s so important and it cost nothing but can change you for the better
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I think it’s Qality Time for me and The Mister, too, but I will ask him what he thinks later this evening. 🙂
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Please tell me what he says 😍
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Great post and so important to keep love alive, Belladonna❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️
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Thank you!!!! Yes so very important 🥰
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I think I am quality time too.
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🥰 so darn important
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Hi Bella, Been a while since I come across your blog. How have you been? I’m tempted to say “happy new year😀”
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🤣🤣🤣 Happy New Year 🎊🎆🎈😆
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It’s quality time for me. No matter what we are doing, being attentive when we are together is the best feeling. Just being in my husband presence is enough. Regular date nights are necessary. 😉
(phones on silent)
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I agree!!!! Date nights are so important
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🫶
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Quality time 🙂
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That’s the best 🥰
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Acts of service for sure works for me.
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Yes, feels so wonderful to put a smile on someone else’s face 😊
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Quality time!
Quality time is, an act of service, which affirms, what words fail to say. Receiving another’s heart the greatest gift, not even a physical touch, can truly comprehend!
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AMEN!!!!! That one thing can change your life. Knowing someone loves you for you and desires to give you the most precious thing… their time!
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Indeed!
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My only love language is HONESTY. 🙂
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Truth!!!!!!!!!!
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❤
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