I regret making a TikTok account.
I’m struggling with attracting women who want to work out and feel empowered. My mission is to make women of all sizes think comfortable in their skin. In addition, I want to break the stigma about women and weight lifting.
In case you haven’t heard, ” women who lift weights start to look like men” Oh yeah, you didn’t know that? Right me either!
The misguided crap that women are spoon-fed irritates the hell out of me. Our bodies are strong and capable of holding on to muscle and curves, but society doesn’t show off those women. Instead, we see the women with stick bird-like legs, flat as a pancake stomach ad breast the size of cantaloupes. We also see the occasional girl fresh right out of the doctor’s office with a BBL. Because you know Kim Kardashian made big booties famous, right? Yeah, once again, “me either.”
I refuse to believe that lumpy butt is natural!
I digress; my goal on TikTok was to show off muscle and teach women to walk with power and work for muscle, not skinny. But you know what I received on TikTok? I’ll tell ya what I was greeted with, a bunch of nasty foul mouth heathens that can turn a post about muscle into a sexual thing.
I was disgusted and never posted another video.
However, I did look at all the athletic TikTokers, and the ones that get the most views are the girls squatting so close to the camera that it seems like their buns are coming through my screen or the athletes that are on a massive weight loss journey.
I’m just a workout buff trying to find my spot! Suggestions are welcomed and needed.
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
~Belladonna~
I am a woman who wants to get toned without lifting weights hahaha😂😂😂🤣 I want the muscle!
You can definitely get muscle without lifting. When I was in the military I gained 30 pounds of muscle and never lifted one weight. Also leaned out without weight. You can do it girlie 💪🏽
I am getting into work out for the sake of working out without overthinking it.
That’s very smart!!!! Keep me posted on your journey.
I definitely will, if you can explain to me your passion for it.
I want to live a long healthy life and help others do the same. Thank you for asking me that question 🙏🏽
I ask because people make working out only about how we look.
Oh no that’s not what I focus on for me or my clients. All about how you feel and your health.
I want to think of it this way too. I have dropped from 10K steps to 5K.
Oh no! Is it too cold to walk outside for a bit?
Lol I will tell no lies! I just have not been motivated to move and I have not been eating much. My sleep has not been great, I am learning too many new things, I am happy and loving myself though.
As long as you are loving yourself 😍 that’s the biggest and hardest part!
I hope I can keep up the self love
Constantly remind yourself “you are worthy to be loved by you” Because you are!
Do you have a YouTube channel where you can upload your exercise videos?
This is a great idea ❤️
I used to and I think I should definitely go back to that. Thank you for that suggestion 🙏🏽
I used to and I think it’s time to get that started again. Thank you for your suggestion. I think I replied back to you under the wrong persons comment
Girl, it seems like sex sells, and if you don’t present yourself in a seductive or salacious way, you won’t get a lot of likes. Sadly, I think this covers just about any topic you can think of. 😣 Don’t get frustrated or discouraged. I don’t have an answer or suggestion to your question, but continue to forge ahead, because I believe the answer or channel of communication will be revealed sooner or later! You are not a quitter, just revamp and redirect. Your audience will come girlfriend! 🚶🏽♀️🏋🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
Thank you Kym!! Unfortunately you are 💯 right. It’s so frustrating but I appreciate the words of encouragement and I will keep trying and position myself where I can help without twerking on camera🤦🏽♀️ My kids would dig a hole and throw me in it🤣 and I would help them.
LOL, I love your sense of humor Belladonna! 🤣😆😂 Heck, I’d join in with you and the kids and help you enter a witness protection program if you resorted to twerking! Hmmm….you just might, however, get more followers than you ever thought possible! LMBO Girl, you know I am just playing. 😜 Keep hope alive sista’. 🤜🏼🤛🏼
🤣🤣🤣 I hate the way it looks. Just so musty looking and girl yes I would def need to enter a witness protection program. 🤣🤣
You are so on it! 😱 Girl, I’m lovin’ your tongue and cheekiness!!! LOL 🤣😛😂
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Youtube or any platform where you can disable comments would work! and if someone wants to leave a comment they have to first be approved… Nevertheless, as the saying goes, don’t throw the baby out with the bath water… Keep your motivation, don’t change the go, and never settle… you got what it takes and there is a space for you!
That’s a great idea!! Disable comments or go through the approval process. That’s perfect.
Thank you for the encouragement because after I read some of the comments left for me I was feeling some kind of way 🤭
I am not on TikTok, so I cannot offer help with that platform. I can offer this… stay true to yourself, your goals, your mission, your calling, your integrity and I believe the right people will show up. 😄
Thank you Michelle. I think TikTok isn’t for me and that’s okay 😊 it’s just too much. But I will keep pushing just not there 🤦🏽♀️
I understand. You have your motivation and determination – you will find your niche. 🌻
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I think most forms of social media can get bad really quickly, because people are weird. Take my very generic and utterly boring insta account where I never post pictures of me. I get all sorts of random people thinking it’s some sort of introduction to dating. While people who post (mainly) have simple reasons for doing so, other lookers and lurkers do not… I wish I had practical advice
Isn’t that something. Here you are minding your own business and here comes the sharks. I just don’t get it!
I know…can’t win
But, remember that you are beautiful!
Awwww well thank you kindly Alberto!
You are welcome!!