Seeking Validation is Overrated

You’ll continuously come up short if validation from others is what you desire.

People already have a preconceived notion of who you are before you even open your mouth. Maybe you are too skinny, too tall, too light, too dark, too short, or Lord forbid you’re not driving a $200,000 car. Because you know that’s in everyone’s budget.

When you go through some rough patches in life, you begin to realize the beauty that you took for granted. And the foolishness that you worried about seems so small insignificant. 

Because we are human, we care what others think about us, and that’s okay. More importantly, we need to be available for criticism. When we accept that we aren’t perfect, we can take a look deep within and fix it. 

HOWEVER, hanging on to someone’s arm and crying for validation is unacceptable. It’s one thing to care about what others think, but it’s a whole other nightmare to depend on their acceptance and constant feed back.

You are who you are, and the main thing is feeling good in your skin. 

When you wake up and look in the mirror, you should LOVE the person you see. Yes, your hair may look a mess, crust just might be in your eyes, but that shouldn’t prevent you from seeing the beautiful person you are. Start validating yourself; when you do this, others’ validation will no longer be needed; it’ll just be extra. 

How to validate yourself

Begin to recognize and verbalize all of the positive things about yourself. It’s a good idea to make a list of everything you love, then take that list and put it where you can see it every day. Look at it, soak all the positive vibes up on your not-so-good days and add to it on your good days. 

Put yourself on your main list and make sure you constantly show up for yourself and improve your health, circle of friends, household, and finances.

Most importantly, stop seeking validation from others and start feeling good in your skin! When you feel good, you look good, and your vibe will attract a positive tribe .

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

12 Replies to “Seeking Validation is Overrated”

  1. Great message girlfriend. I don’t think no one has to worry about you validating yourself honey chile. 👏🏼 I’m scared of you chica!!! 😱 LOL Lookin’ good momma mia! 💃🏽 Like RuPaul says, “You better work it!” 🚶🏽‍♀️🏋🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️

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  2. Very good and important reminder 💛 I have travelled a long way from needing validation for just about everything to absolutely loving myself for who I am. I still have traces of needing validation, and I am aware it is actually a good reminder for practicing selflove.

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