If You Don’t Boost….Someone Else Will

I’ve been alive for 44 years and a mother for 20!

During that time, I have seen my friends, my kid’s friends, and even myself look for attention in the wrong location. I’m not ashamed to say that my self-esteem was so low and that caused me to sink to low places.

I thought love was abuse.

I thought love was being around part of the time and lying the rest of the time.

I figured if you were good most of the time, then that was good enough.

Because I didn’t have someone around to boost my ego, I made choices that could have haunted me for the rest of my life. Bad decisions could have left me dead in a ditch or an easy target for human sex trafficking. 

I needed validation, and I wasn’t getting it from the places I should’ve received it from.

That experience alone left me with no other choice but to be my kid’s number one fan.

When my kids choose to do something, I boost them up and make them feel like they are the best at whatever their heart believes in. I don’t care what the activity is. They know that mom will be front and center, talking mad junk and electrifying the room. 

My kids may not be the best at their craft. But with encouragement, they will be. 

I refuse to have some stranger lead them astray because they are giving them the attention that should be coming from their home. 

My husband and I made a pack that stated…

When we have kids, they will feel safe at home. And always know that we will have their back. We promised that we would never put anything before them, excluding our love for each other. We have to be a solid pack in order to raise kids that will one day become leaders.

I feared having them go astray because they looked for something as basic as the love we didn’t provide.

So with that being said, I will boost them, brag on them, motivate them, and encourage them until the day I die!

NUMBER 1 BOOSTER FOR LIFE!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

36 Replies to “If You Don’t Boost….Someone Else Will”

  1. Your kids are lucky to have parents like you. Most of the parents just focus on providing their kids with everything but love and understanding and emotional support. Great going dear ♥

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  2. I identify with SO much of this post.
    And you are the better part of the saying, ”Let it make you better, not bitter.”
    I don’t like that you felt the way you did, or went through the things you did… because I know how it feels and it’s not something I would wish on anyone. BUT I LOVE that you CHOSE to let it help you be a better mother, full of the things that all children and teens REALLY need.
    Well done! ❤

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    1. Thank you so much for your support!!! My want was to give them everything I never had. Support Support Support and letting them know how much I love them.
      I’m sorry you experienced som rough patches 🥺

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      1. Your love for your children shines through, even in the words of a page 😉 And real, unconditional love covers a multitude 😉 So keep being the awesome momma you are, in the ways that truly count ❤

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  3. I’m so captivated by your confidence as a parent.
    [When we have kids, they will feel safe at home. And always know that we will have their back. We promised that we would never put anything before them, excluding our love for each other. We have to be a solid pack in order to raise kids that will one day become leaders.]
    ❤❤❤❤

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  4. This is awesome! Many of us needed that boost from home and didn’t get it. I’m glad you and your husband are providing that for your children. It’s going to go a mighty long way.

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  5. Fantastic post, Belladonna. I completely agree. No matter how hard it gets, no matter how many mistakes we make, keep supporting, creating safety, have their back, and always be there…I love this. ❤

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  6. I love your parental commitment, Belladonna! I must say that if your kids didn’t turn out the way you envisioned them to, it certainly isn’t because they were not given the type of love and support so many parents should give but fail to even notice that they don’t. You are splendidly remarkable and your children as well as others who exist in your orbit, are truly blessed. 👏🏼🙏🏼🤗❤

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      1. Well, the comment is well-deserved. I truly admire how much you and your husband edify your family. We need more parents with the type of commitment as yours. Have an awesome-filled day Belladonna! 🥰😇💃🏼

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  7. I love the pack that you and your husband made for your kids. I think that’s so important! There are so many kids out there nowadays that don’t have that love and support. You guys are amazing!

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  8. This is so powerful, beautiful and resonant for me. So perfectly you said – astray because they are giving them the attention that should be coming from their home. It is sad that this unconditional love and trust doesn’t come in easily for families. I too have been fierce in this intention, think I did my best, can always do better.

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